I need all of your help!!!!!!! =*(

[kellyjo82801]

I am terrified to tell my mother I'm pregnant =*( .  She knows we're not so good financially for a 3rd baby. I do plan on getting my tubes tied when I have my "Little Who". I've always wanted 3babies. But I'm seriously terrified to tell my mother I'm expecting. When I was pregnant with my first child I was 19 and was married my mother wanted me to have an abortion even after I told her I was 5 months pregnant and told me it's just tissue, not a baby. My husband and I have been together since high school and plan on growing old together. We love each other to death and have been through so much like being homeless. Our lives have changed so much! We own a home, became Christians, have two cars and my husband got promoted to a finance manager at a car dealership. Do to the economy car dealerships and mostly everywhere is struggling financially. I can't find the courage to tell her in kind words that all I want is for her to be supportive of me. I shake and get ill when I want to tell her so I stop myself. It's that bad... I need a friend.... to give me the courage I need to confront her in this.  

[kellyjo82801]

Thanks hun. She's not like that now but was that kind of mother when I was growing up. We get along a lot better now but with babies stuff she never gets happy. The things you go through especially the ones I went through seems to never go aways. So it proves to me that no matter what age kids do remember and most times never forget. But I always defend my babies against ANYONE, yes even my own family. =)

[JoyRenee]

No shame in Medicaid! I was on it with my youngest daughter because my insurance wouldn't pay for prenatal care. I know, it was crazy and insane because I was paying a ton for insurance. I might need to get it this time along with my regular insurance so I am not paying for everything and can pour money into things we need. Anyway, I'm sorry for the abuse you endured. Sometimes it is best to cut relationships with unhealthy people. And if I were you I'd never leave Little Who with your parents.

[kellyjo82801]

You guys are a blessing in my live. Honestly!!!! Thank you for you kind words you ALL gave me. My fear of my mother comes from a long time ago. I was treated so bad I would get beaten with a belt and bled in the shower. I guess that's why I can never tell her anything even to this day. But I will ask GOD to give me the strength I need and words I need to tell her. Thank you for the prayers!!! I'm so happy I'm going to meet my Little Who on March 11th(My 1st u/s). A few days after my b-day! YAY. I applied for Medicaid and am waiting to be accepted. In the mean time I am taking prenatal vitamins I got at a grocery store until I get a doctor. Please pray for me. xoxoxo for all of you and our precious little babies.

[JoyRenee]

I'm a very blunt person but I say all of this in love, to encourage you-

You are a grown adult, capable of making decisions for your family. You're a Christian and I happen to be a pastor's wife. Remember the verse that refers to leaving your parent's home and joining with your spouse? Yes, you have to be respectful to your mother, but you do not have to answer to her. Your mom doesn't sit in your bedroom and tell your husband and you how many babies you can have and when to have sex. It's just not her choice or her business.

Enjoy your pregnancy! Tell her when the time is right. If she doesn't even live close enough to see you regularly then there's no rush. I know that ultimately her opinion of you matters but it's not her business; it is yours! You have every right to be excited. *HUGS*

[sphillips]

Something that may help is if you tell her that you won't be relying on her to help you out. Maybe some of her concern is that your finances will become a burden on her.
For your sake, even if you tell her and she's upset about it, you know why you've made the decisions you have. If those decisions have worked for you and your husband, she can't change them. Plus she'll change her mind when she holds your precious LO in her arms!

[Kaylee_Frye]

Don't rush it.  You don't have to say anything until you're ready.  Right now, *your* health and stress is a priority.  If it takes a some time to get a handle on it first with your hubbie, then you absolutely should take what you need!  You'll be in my prayers, sweetie.

My two cents...

[avik7]

my husband and i just told his parents that we were pregnant. my husband was terrified bc of our financial sit..his parents are seriously waaaay too much in our business. My husband owns his own business we have a bice house 3 nice cars a boat etc..hes only 27 and his parents cant just be happy that hes succeeded so early in life and that the economy is affecting EVERYONE and not just us...but to our suprise the were actually happy..we just got to the point that it was like okay we r married and adults and we can do what we want..if they done want to support us then thats their problem..i hope u have the luck that we did!

[ginhut03]

I am so sorry that something so wonderful as having a baby is so sad for you!!  I don't have a good answer for you but wanted you to know that there is someone out there praying for you and your mother!!  I guess the best answer I can give you is to pray about it and ask God when the time to tell her is.  If you ever need some encouragement or some extra prayer just let me know!!!  Congrats and good luck!!!