birth worries

[jennifer100709]

hello ladies,
im 31 weeks and having and a girl...yea! anyways i was wondering if anyone else here is totally freaked out as i am about giving birth. i keep telling myself that i am strong and that i can do it but i just have this fear im going to competly lose it and wont be able to handle the delivery. is this normal to be so nervous or does this occur for every first time mom. im just feeling very overwhelmed and worried that something could happen to me or the baby.

[JoyRenee]

I think with any birth, whether it is your first or twelfth, you have moments of uncertainty. In the end, you ARE capable and strong.

I made the mistake, with my firstborn, by not reading anything about birth whatsoever. I had no idea what to expect, other than what I've seen in the movies. Now I am very knowledgeable and I know what I want, which is less interventions. So it pays to do research on topics such as "purple pushing", "delayed cord clamping" and "pit to distress" or to even know about Pitocin in general.

Hang in there! We're here to help you out.

[nicole179]

i think that it is completely natural, since for us first timers it is fear of the unknown!!   i have the same exact concerns that i will totally freak out, which ofcourse will make it much worse!!  i tell myself the same things that i am well and strong and that women, even children in some countries, do it every day.  but i did hire a doula to be with me and my boyfriend through the entire birth for support and guidance, which is putting my mind at ease quite a bit.  i just try to picture a natural, and calm labor process.  they say if you can picture it, you can and will have it.  (not specifically pertaining to birth)  but it can't hurt to try.  plus i find that the more i picture something one way the more apt i am to fulfill it that way, so the more i see myself screaming in pain and crying "i can't do this" the more i will believe it.  good luck you will be just fine!!  we all will

[chantal21]

I'm having my second, I am worried about everything all over again! I went completely natural with my first and I am hoping I can do the same thing this time around. It's very natural to worry about these things, but don't stress yourself out about it. You can't plan everything. Just write down your birth plan and try to stick to what you can knowing that things can change in a moment's notice. You will be okay! Hang in there. You will forget all about everything you have gone through when that baby is in your arms. =)

[kellyjo82801]

not just cause your a first time mom,This is my third time around and I've been scared about the pain lately. Especially with all the Braxton Hicks contraction that comes so often I just try and picture them with so much pain and start freaking out. I'm debating on whether I should ask for epidural or stick with my wishes and plans to go all natural. I'm getting scared and doubting myself if I'll be strong enough or not when I start getting those strong contractions. I tell myself the same thing too: be strong, you did it once natural and you can do it again. But reality is that once your going through it yourself at that moment, you just don't know what direction you'll take. Right now I just told myself not to stress so much over it and let that moment take it's course and go with the flow.