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My parents kicked me out a couple months ago without knowing i was pregnant. Should i tell them i am and if so how should i tell them?
Steenah, I think your really brave and being v mature for your age. My advice is you need to speak to someone - a close friend, relative, teacher someone you have in your life that won't judge you. You need to consider all your options and i cannot stress that enough. Its a huge undertaking bringing up a child and you need as much support as you can not just emotionally but financially. I agree with the girls above you should also tell your parents but a proper conversation is needed with someone to help you consider the options. Please do this soon - you will feel a lot better for it. all my best, tivey
Steenah...stay strong and it sounds like you are a very mature girl! Joy gave some really great advice! I've never been in a situation like that, but I wanted to tell you we are always here for support and I hope you stick around on the forum! I am very happy that you won't get an abortion! And I do hope you and the baby's father will give this child everything s/he needs. I also hope that your family will one day be closer again and accept what has happened. Keep your head up!! =)
I am kind of going through the same thing right now. I am 23, unmarried and almost 11 weeks pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years but still have not told my parents. My parents are very religious and I am afraid of what they will say becuase I am not married. I live by myself and fully support myself but I still honestly really care about their opinions. Every time I go to tell them I chicken out but eventually I will have to tell them.
Joy, that was a beautiful story. I don't like abortions eaither. Steenah, I really do hope for the best for you hand hope you and the father had make a wonderful life for that baby growing inside of you. As much drama as there is in your parents home maybe all this happend for a reason. You need peace throughout your pregnancy and in your baby's life. But I do pray that this baby will bring peace into your family's heart and bring you all closer together. Keep your head up high and keep moving up!!! I'm sure your baby will give you that motherly strengh you need to concquer even the tallest widest mountains you face in life! I'm so so proud of you not having an abortion!!!!!! I would love to say much more on that but I don't want to look back. I'm just so happy to hear how strong you are. =)
Steenah, that is wonderful news. It does sound like you have a good head on your shoulders and you have some plans in place. I'm very pro-life, which is why I brought up abortion in the first place since that is usually a younger girl's first response (USUALLY) when she finds out she is pregnant. I wouldn't have told you what to do but I'm glad to hear you won't abort.
Anyway, that aside, I still think you should let them know you're pregnant. Whether they let you move back or help or shun you- that's all on their shoulders.
I was 19 and unmarried when I got pregnant. My husband's family is pastoral- his dad is a pastor. Well at the time we weren't married but we are married now. Anyway, we had to tell them and we were terrified to tell them. I didn't want to be preached at or hear the hellfire and damnation. I had this expectation of how they'd respond.
They did not respond like I expected at all. No preaching, no lesson on sin and going to hell, etc., etc. We were met with silence and disappointment. We were already getting married so we got married and got an apartment. My relationship with my in-laws was okay, kind of distant. But once our daughter was born, my in-laws were practically banging on the hospital door in eagerness to see their new grandbaby. And we have had an amazing relationship ever since.
People don't always respond the way we think. I really think you also need to talk with your mom about the child who said you hit them and how she really needs to trust you because you're an adult now and it is not right to be wrongfully accused and then kicked out of your home.
Anyway, good luck to you! Stick around the forum and ask/answer pregnancy questions, too.
Anyway, that aside, I still think you should let them know you're pregnant. Whether they let you move back or help or shun you- that's all on their shoulders.
I was 19 and unmarried when I got pregnant. My husband's family is pastoral- his dad is a pastor. Well at the time we weren't married but we are married now. Anyway, we had to tell them and we were terrified to tell them. I didn't want to be preached at or hear the hellfire and damnation. I had this expectation of how they'd respond.
They did not respond like I expected at all. No preaching, no lesson on sin and going to hell, etc., etc. We were met with silence and disappointment. We were already getting married so we got married and got an apartment. My relationship with my in-laws was okay, kind of distant. But once our daughter was born, my in-laws were practically banging on the hospital door in eagerness to see their new grandbaby. And we have had an amazing relationship ever since.
People don't always respond the way we think. I really think you also need to talk with your mom about the child who said you hit them and how she really needs to trust you because you're an adult now and it is not right to be wrongfully accused and then kicked out of your home.
Anyway, good luck to you! Stick around the forum and ask/answer pregnancy questions, too.
well i wouldnt ever get an abortion no matter what people want me to do.
My mom kicked me out because her girlfriends child told her mom i hit her..( i would never do such a thing to a child), and my father kicked me out because i disrispected his girlfriend. i dont really care that im kicked out im living in a good place now, have a job, and go to school finally (they took me out a week after they kicked me out, the court made them put me back). Im ten weeks pregnant and my familly absolutly hate's the guy who got me pregnant. ive been through this before with him i misscarried and my parents tried to put him in jail..
i know alot of drama.
I plan on keeping the child i know i might be young but i have a good head on my shoulders and ive raised my cuzins since they were new borns.
anything else you can message me.
My mom kicked me out because her girlfriends child told her mom i hit her..( i would never do such a thing to a child), and my father kicked me out because i disrispected his girlfriend. i dont really care that im kicked out im living in a good place now, have a job, and go to school finally (they took me out a week after they kicked me out, the court made them put me back). Im ten weeks pregnant and my familly absolutly hate's the guy who got me pregnant. ive been through this before with him i misscarried and my parents tried to put him in jail..
i know alot of drama.
I plan on keeping the child i know i might be young but i have a good head on my shoulders and ive raised my cuzins since they were new borns.
anything else you can message me.
First of all, congratulations! Even though this probably wasn't planned your life is definitely about to change.
So why'd your parents kick you out? And where are you staying now?
Do you think they'd let you move back in and help you?
I definitely think you should tell them and the sooner the better. They'll find out sooner or later and they may feel hurt if you waited a long time to let them know. How to tell them? Definitely call them together and have a private conversation. It'd be good to go in with "a plan" like how you're going to raise a baby (are you going to work? continue school? etc.).
I don't know your stance on abortion or if that has crossed your mind. If you feel they will try to pressure you into one I just want you to know that only you can make that decision- NO ONE can force you. Their choice shouldn't haunt you for the rest of your life.
Anyway, let me know if you ever want to chat.
So why'd your parents kick you out? And where are you staying now?
Do you think they'd let you move back in and help you?
I definitely think you should tell them and the sooner the better. They'll find out sooner or later and they may feel hurt if you waited a long time to let them know. How to tell them? Definitely call them together and have a private conversation. It'd be good to go in with "a plan" like how you're going to raise a baby (are you going to work? continue school? etc.).
I don't know your stance on abortion or if that has crossed your mind. If you feel they will try to pressure you into one I just want you to know that only you can make that decision- NO ONE can force you. Their choice shouldn't haunt you for the rest of your life.
Anyway, let me know if you ever want to chat.
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