Worried about DH with delivery of our new baby & his mom with stage 4 cancer

[bjbbeauchamp]

So within the next two weeks our little one will be here and also my MIL will find out if her treatments for cancer have been working. I am super worried over my DH b/c he can't handle stress very well and lately it just all seems to pile up on him and its starting to show. I want to discuss with my doctor if there is a way to deliver earlier b/c of this reason but didn't know if it was selfish of me to want to enjoy the birth of our daughter for at least a week, just in case my MIL's results come back bad. My DH was raised by his mother after his dad left when he was 7, so she is the world to him and I totally understand, b/c if it were my mom, I would be the same way. But I didn't want him to neglect or connect any bad news to our daughter in the years to come if his mom got bad news. This is her third round of treatments and after this they already told her if it doesn't work, then they don't know what else to do, so pretty much, that its over. I am praying for GREAT news so I don't have to worry about all of this, but I just have this fear that our daughter will come into the world the same week she gets her results. Any advice would be appreciated. I have talked with my DH about this and he understands what I am saying, but I just know he will be absent b/c he will want to spend more time with his mom, not knowing when and if she will die. I just want to be able to enjoy our new addition and life together as much as possible!

[bjbbeauchamp]

Thank you both for your kind words and advice! I am also praying that the news is good and that in the end I have worried over this for nothing! Life would be great then;) But I know things do happen for a reason and that we should always live life to the fullest, b/c we could not be here tomorrow! Bringing the baby around will help now that you mention it, I guess my mind has been a bit cloudy lately and I never thought that doing that would help the situation out. Thanks again;) I really appreciate it!

[sameerab]

I hope she gets good news however the bad things in life should never be associated with a joy such as a new life being born quite honestly anyone of us can step outside and be killed so her condition should not cloud your husband joy for his new baby....I wish you the best but if it were me I would let my child come when she is ready no matter the situation because none of us are promised tomorrow... Good luck sweety

[Heatherm4]

Oh that sounds so tough. I'm sorry your family has to go through this. I would talk to your doctor and see what they have to say.
I'm always a believer though that everything happens for a reason and timing is always a part of it. There may be some bad news (praying for your family that it's good for sure though) but along with it comes the miracle of another life and hopefully everyone can focus on that and it'll also bring much joy to his mom too! And if it is bad news then it doesn't have to be just DH spending time with mom but you can bring the baby around too as much as you can so she can spend some good time with her grandchild.
As for your DH's stress...maybe he can talk to someone about it...even if it's just with you or something...just so he doesn't bottle things up inside.