Found out pregnant at 30 weeks

[heyhihellobaby]

I am 19 years old and just 6 weeks ago I found out I was 30 weeks pregnant. I am now 36 weeks and 1 day. I want to say that I promise this isn't a joke, and this really isn't a lie. And I'm posting on here because I'm scared, I have a lot of questions and I'd really like some support and some good answers. 6 weeks ago, i woke up in the morning with my stomach really tight and hard to the point where it was unbearably uncomfortable. I called my mom from my room and let her feel my stomach. She immediately told me something didn't seem right and said we should go to the doctor. I went to my family doctor and he came in and did a check up, and felt my stomach. He looked at me funny and said "I would like for you to go get some xrays. But first you need to go here to get a pregnancy test." Obviously he thought that I could be pregnant because I had been to the doctor before for X-rays and he never referred me to get a pregnancy test first. That started to freak me out. Although I knew there was no possible way I could be pregnant because I was having my regular periods (they were usually months apart because I had irregular periods) So I agreed to go get a test at the hospital. They took urine and a blood test and it came out positive. I was so shocked. I had no idea this could have happened and never thought it would happen to me. The doctor came in and said that he needed to admit me to a room and start me on an iv because they had no idea how far along I could be and also the baby has had no prenatal care. They gave me something to put on and the doctor came in. She felt my stomach (to find my uterus to see about how far along she thought I was) and it was already above my belly button! She was shocked, and looked frightened honestly. And said "You are about 28-30 weeks pregnant" I looked at her in disbelief. There was no way. I was tiny and hadn't gotten any bigger. Not even a baby bump. It seemed completely impossible. They took me in to do an emergency ultrasound and it turned out I'm having a healthy baby girl. And was told she weighed 4.2 pounds!

It's been 6 weeks, and now that I know I'm pregnant I've been eating as much as I want and can so I've grown some! I have a noticeable belly now. But it's still tiny! I have so many questions. How bad to contractions hurt before 3-4 centimetres? If i can sit through a large tattoo on my ribs will an epidural hurt? And can you feel the pain after it? I'm getting better about not bein scared about labor but I'd like to hear some answers and story's to make me feel better! Thanks. (Sorry this was so long I had to get it all out!)

[Dandeskin]

No its impossible. God made us to know that we are with child..it cant/doesnt happen. People just want an original story to tell!

[MummyKx]

Not everyone is the same. Some people dont get symptoms at all!  I Totally believe you! My uncles gf didnt know she was pregnant until she gave birth to a baby girl! And she was tiny and thin as a stick lol!

[Dandeskin]

Hey, so im 20 and have a 2 year old daughter and im 35 weeks pregnant with my son. I dont want to dis you, but I dont believe you. There is no possible way to not know youre pregnant. Im a small person too and our bumps show 5 times faster than others who arent so small first of all. Second, the baby is moving A LOT and kicking hard by 30 weeks, even sooner really. Your boobs get bigger, you get sick, your stomach will definatley show unless you weigh 200+ lbs, then probly not, and again you can feel the baby. You arent being honest..and really? Its been done before and disproven. You cant not know youre pregnant. But good luck anyway.

[lmc2132]

Congratulations on your pregnancy!  What a roller coaster ride you must have been on over the past few weeks.  I am 37 weeks pregnant with my 2nd so I will share what I hope will be reassuring to you.

It sounds like you are worried about labor pain.  Labor hurts, and it is hard work, but we are built for it and the pain has a purpose.  The thing that I didn't expect was that the labor hormones are just as strong as the pain--some people call it "laborland"--you kind of go into an altered state.  It's not like having a massive headache or a sprained ankle--it's part of a natural process.  Try to forget everything you've ever seen in the movies and on TV!  Labor can be very calm and focused and each contraction gets your baby closer to being out.  Before 3-4 centimeters I found the pain very manageable, like bad menstrual cramps, roughly.

That said, there are pain relief options if you feel very anxious about the pain.  You should talk to your doc/midwife about these.  My epidural was painless and worked well to ease the contractions pain.  (I am going to try to have my next baby without pain meds because I had some epidural side effects last time.)  

My only other advice would be to find a good labor support person to be with you in labor to comfort and reassure you, and to help you after the birth, if possible. And read a good pregnancy book--like "From the Hips--" too.  Good luck!