I dont wanna sound rude

[Muku_tee]

How do I tell visitors not to visit for a week after the baby is born without sounding rude. My mother thinks its rude to do that cos of my culture but I really want space to bond with my new little family.

[Muku_tee]

Thanks heaps ladies soooo helpful. Haha I like the get your partner to say it on my behalf. His from a different country so when it comes from him they will 100% respect that

[QueenNaeNae]

I love everyone's response to this one and I agree with all! Ultimately, it's your baby and your experience therefore your preferences come first. It's not rude to want bonding time with your newborn and not want visitors for the first little while. I've told my friends and family that I can't wait for them to meet her when she arrives, but I asked them to understand that I don't have visitors for the first little while, while I bond with my babies, helping them to latch and allowing time for me to heal and feel ready for visitors. Some get offended but they will understand. I'm also very paranoid of someone bringing a bug she might not be able to fight off.. With that in mind, I'm the only one that can protect her by standing firm on my preferences. :) You got this! And congrats on your precious bundle of joy!

[Van818]

Get your partner to say it to them. It's always easier to say something on behalf of someone else. Don't worry about what people think or what's expected in your culture. This is your life and your baby's life...that's what is important. Everyone will see that even if they are disappointed by not being able to see your baby immediately. They will meet your baby eventually :)

[zulema1015]

It's not rude at all! Once you an ounce the birth of ur baby jus don't tell them what hospital ur in and respond with a I'll call you once we are home and settled in. For those you are allowing to come see u like mom dad sisters brothers make sure you clearly tell them that you do not want ppl to know what hospital ur in and don't want them dropping by unexpectedly.  I already called the hospital were I will be delivering and asked if I can't restrict who is allowed to come visit me and they told me yes. So maybe u should call ur hospital too. As for what I'm telling ppl now is the plain truth once I give birth I only want me and my husband near the baby for the first 1 to 2 weeks after that only immediate family will be allowed to see her and after a month or month and a half I will be taking her out. Ppl gave me faces and teased me about being over protective but I told them my decisions aren't based on what makes them happy it's about my family and they don't see me sticking my nose in how they make decisions for their family. It may sound like I'm being rude but the moment they start fighting or questioning ur decision they become the rude ones.

[Perislavova]

I've done the same thing. I even said that I don't want any visitors for 2weeks. A mother needs time to rest and to bond with her baby. For the FTM that's VERY important. Your life will turn for 180° and you need time to get used to it. I am all with you :)

[melaniee123]

I'd just say that this is a exciting and special time for your family and your wishes are too be with them only for a week til you have visitors.. that's what ama do when my second baby boy comes just cause I want bonding time with my lil family

[megantea123]

Just tell people you're not up for visitors - you're still recovering from birth and  you want to take the time to bond with your baby. Anyone who keeps pressing to come visit after you say this is the rude one,  and yes, you don't have to answer any calls, messages, visitors at the door.
Do what's best for you and baby, ignore anyone who says your being rude (FYI, you're not).

[watermelon15]

I have been telling my family and friends for months that there will be no hospital visitors. And that we would let them know when to come visit at home, if you choose to waste your gas and show up you still won't come in. At first everyone was supportive, but I think they all thought I would eventually change my mind. So now my mom, and MIL are complaining as well as my husband's aunts and grandparents...Stick to your guns, it's not rude of you to want to bond and have space, it's not their child to bond with.

[Hahn6]

You don't have to answer the phone when they call. Hopefully they just don't show IP at your door. I'm.the type that won't even answer the door. Or put a note that says please don't disturb. But that's just me lol

[hailz91]

Just tell them the truth! Ur tired and sore and really not up for visiters.

I will be saying no to guests itll be just me hubby and baby