single mom

[J_berry16]

The babies dad is in my life and wants to help and be friends but were not together, hes my ex. I want to be together again but i think hes thinking otherwise. It makes me cry thinking that i cant have family pics even though the dad is in my life. All i can think is he wont want that with me cause he didnt want this with me in the beginning. And will probably end up meeting somebody else. How is anybody able to do this without losing their sanity or not kicking the dad out??

[Britt_12001]

I have a 5 yr old from a previous relationship. We weren't together when I found out I was pregnant. And he never really cared... Always put other girls first before our son and hardly ever seen him unless his family gave him hell for not seeing him. Once I wanted us back together... Want my "family". Don't let the idea of how its supposed to be mess with you. I thank God everyday we didn't end up back together. Now I have a man who loves me and my son more than you would ever imagine. He treats my son like his own... He is his dad... Not his orignal sperm donor.

[J_berry16]

Its not worth it anymore

[arianagonzales123]

If its not worth it, than you don't have to put up with him. If he's not making an effort than its best for you to move on.

[J_berry16]

I want to make the decision to just kick him out cause all hes doing his halving it. I want him in the babies life but this is turning out to be not worth it anymore. I just found out that he moved in with some friends, like i can already tell this wont be good. He will be less caring and more into finding a gf more

[arianagonzales123]

My ex hasn't talked to me in almost 3 weeks, that's why I get the hint that he really don't care. Showing effort that he wants to be there, will change my mind about him but until then I'm not worried about him. If you have all the support you have from family and friends, than I think you'll be fine without him. Its horrible for a baby to grow up without a father, but its their choice to step up and be there.

[J_berry16]

I would want my baby growing up in a good stable environment between me and him thats for sure. He hasnt talked to me in a couple days ever since i told him i still wanted to be with him. I want him fully in it if hes going to do this with me, not half way which is wat i think he will do if he gets a gf. Priorities and the effort are the important ones

[arianagonzales123]

I'm a ftm also, it would be bother me if he has his gf around my child. I wouldn't want my child to grow up calling another girl mom. I totally know how you feel, my parents were the same. Just do what you think ks best for your baby. It is difficult to know what they really care about, but if they really do care about you & the child, they will make an effort.

[J_berry16]

Its hard to really know wat they care about when they have a gf or really at all. I told him i still want to be with him and all he said was ok. Does it bother you knowing that he has another girl around your baby? It might just be a ftm thing but im like freaking thinking about somebody else around my baby. I just want my baby happy and to not grow up how i did which was with seperated parents who talked crap on each other

[arianagonzales123]

He doesn't really call to check on me or anything so I'm guessing he really don't care till the baby is born.

[arianagonzales123]

The father of my baby & I are also not together. I wouldnt stress to much about it, just take care of your baby & yourself. That's what's really important. My ex, has a gf and it breaks my heart.But can't do much about it, just doing what's best for my baby and staying stress free.

[J_berry16]

Its good to know im not alone at least. I want to do this cause i do know my baby does need his dad but i know its going to be one of the hardest things i will have to go through

[ariannakathleen09]

My babies dad and I aren't together, we broke up right before I found out I was pregnant. He wants to help and be friends as well, but I know a baby definitely won't make us want to get back together later on. I wouldn't worry too much about it, you've got bigger things to worry about! That's what I keep telling myself anyway. He can still be a great father whether or not you three are a "family". If he finds someone else, there's no doubt you will too! Someone you can take those family pictures with(: I totally get where you're coming from though, he currently still lives with me and i'd like to kick his @** out most days, but I think being on good terms is essential right now. He definitely makes me lose my sanity, but your baby feels everything you do! So I try not to stress myself out.