ADVICE WANTED!!!!!!! PLEASE PLEASE THANKXX

[FirstBaby25]

HOW DO I GO THROUGH WITH MY SON FATHER NOT WANTING TO BE IN MY SONS LIFE THIS IS MY FIRAT PREGNANCY IM 25 YEARS OLD ... HE ACTS LIKE HE DONT WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIS SON ... HE ISNT EVEN BORN YET I STILL HAVE TWO WEEKS LEFT UNTIL MY DUE DATE...

  I STRESS MYSELF OVER THE FATHER I CRY I TRY TO BE ON GOOD TERMS WITH HIM....


LIKE THIS IS A FIRAT TIME EXPERIENCE FOR ME .. ANY ADVICE ON HOW I CAN MAKE HIM HAVE A CHANGE A HEART... TO BE IN HIS SON LIFE... HE'S IN HIS OTHER KIDS LIFE BUT MINES SMH IDK... IM TIRED OF STRESSING AN CRYING.... WHAT ELSE.

[FirstBaby25]

Lol I know that's right thank you an yes of course I'm taking for child support ..

[specialmom]

I'm so sorry to hear he's not wanting to be a part of his child's life.  That is so sad for you and the baby.  Kids deserve a dad, right?  Geez.  I always encourage young women to be careful about who they make a baby with.  You really need to know the person and make sure they are committed to you and on board with a baby before getting pregnant.  But it doesn't always work out that way.

As others have said, he doesn't have to be a father if he doesn't want to.  I don't know how anyone can walk away from their child myself . . .  definitely shows his total lack of character.  

I would give him access to the child in case he ever changes his mind.  I'd send a picture with your address and a note telling him his child's been born, the name and that you are always open to his seeing his child.  

and then I'd sue him for child support.  good luck

[babybump_3]

The biological father of my daughter isn't a part of my pregnancy and has decided to not be a part of her life at all as of now.....he already has one daughter and doesn't seem to care.....just focus on yourself and your son.....at the end of the day your son will always be your true love.....as our kids are....I hope he comes around but if he don't its a clear sign you and your son clearly deserve better and will find better

[Jwalls]

I totally understand, going through the exact same thing. We were fine just casually having fun with each other until I found out I was pregnant. I'm 31 years old and never imagined going through this with my 1st child because I always thought I chose to lay down with only good guys obviously I was wrong. Long story short since my pregnancy I came back into contact with my boyfriend that went away to college years ago and we started back dating. He respects me with the choice I have made to not have sex while pregnant with another mans child, he provides for me and my unborn and he wants to be there for delivery. I couldn't be more happier with who I'm with now because he respects and loves me and my child. I'll deal with the deadbeat court wise after I have my son but as of right now no worries!

[AnnikaSkywalker]

Posting in all caps is like yelling. If you speak to the father like this, it may help to calm down around him so he doesn't feel so pressured to get away. You can't force another person to feel what you want them to feel. If he didn't want to have a child with you, it may be best to lay low and give him space so he can think about whether or not he wants to be involved with the baby.

From experience, I can say that the one time I avoided ever trying to work things out with someone was because he was obsessive and didn't give me space. People need to feel like they want to be with someone , not obligated. I hope things work out and your son will at least know his father, even if the two of you decide not to stay together. Best of luck and if your son doesn't have a father, you can at least be a supportive mother.

[FirstBaby25]

Thank u all I really do appreciate it ... I had told him that the doctor said my son needs to gain more weight for my due date because he's small he's 4 pounds an all my baby father did was hang up on me ... Smmfh .... Crazy!!!

[shinedthrough]

My sister went thru the same thing her son just turned two and the father decided to come take him out believe me it was hard on her we have even talked her out of suicide but by prayers her focusing on other things she moved on and she's married to another guy that loves her son like his own...so day by day it gets easier pray

[Baileykj27]

You may not be able change his mind but don't  blame yourself and remember it's  his loss. Someone  else may eventually fill that father figure role for your son. Try not to let  it  stress out. Things will get betterand pretty soon  you'll be holding your sweet  baby boy.

[Baileykj27]

You can't change his mind but don't  blame yourself and remember it's  his loss. Someone  else may eventually fill that father figure role for your son. For me, my dad wasn't  really involved  but my stepfather is the best dad you could  ever ask for and I  feel so blessed because  he chose to be my dad.

[FirstBaby25]

Thanks you ...  :(

[ashleybm07]

My god sons father is like this and he is the most beautiful smart charming little boy ever. Just have faith that you will be a good mother and try your best and put his *** on child support. It will be hard. My best friend still has her moments and he will be two in April but you can do anything. There are Illinois of successful single mothers it's his loss and your blessing. Stay strong and have faith the bad days will out weight the good when your blessing is here.  

[LeahBear]

You can't force the father to be in his kids life. That needs to be the decision of the father's. You need to focus on yourself and your son and maybe once your son is born the father with snap into the father role he should be.