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Am I hormonal and depressed or .... What.

So lately my boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot. This pregnancy has been very rocky. But he's always been loving after everything after every fight he gets over it and we always go back to our laughing and loving way. The past week or so hasn't been the same though. He got a new job so he doesn't text me as much, we used to text all day even if we'd argue we'd want to talk to each other we didn't want to stop talking. But lately it's been simple make sure you do this don't forget that can you pay this and stuff like that. Once he gets home he just does his own thing he hasn't been very affectionate with me he doesn't talk to me much at home he just plays his game or goes to sleep as if he's avoiding or trying to make time fly by as fast as he can to avoid being with me. He hasn't been lovey dovey.  I been thinking he's probably into someone at his new job and that's the reason for the changes and the lack of love. But I also think it's just been a hard couple of days and he's just having a hard time and it'll get better. I guess I don't know...
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Lol my boyfriend has said that too. He has even said he'd buy me an expensive pump just so he doesn't get jealous  but I'm sure he was joking. :) were having a boy also. But everything is fine I was just hormonal. We talked last night well kind of I just said I have been upset and I'm scared that it's pushing him away and he said no he's just had a hard week and he ended up giving me a massage and other stuff later lol. We are definitely okay :) thanks for the advice girls.
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Lol this is our 2nd baby n its a boy my bf keeps making jokes like i didnt care when our daughter was breastfed but this is my boy whose gona be on your boob i may get a little jealous i just laugh hes goofy i love him
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Yeah I know it has to be that. There's no other explanation there can't be anything else because I've been here doing what I've always been doing and we've always been good. It's a boy too so everyone says he's getting these jealous hormones as they say some men tend to act weird when  their girlfriends are pregnant.
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13782075 tn?1437961772
Oh okay i want to say my bf acted like a child right be4 my daughter came so thats probably just what it is now that your so close hes probably getting really scared like he wont be a good enough dad it took me alot to pull it out of my man but he finally expressed that he was scared about failing his baby so hes probably just withdrawing because hes the man and supposed to be strong abd doesnt wnt to tell you that in all reality hes freaking out
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Yeah that's what I'm going to do because it doesn't feel good to just leave this like this. If it is even anything. Who knows maybe it's just a hard week. I am 36 weeks and anxious and I know he's scared too.
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13782075 tn?1437961772
Thats tricky me and my bf can be like that sometimes we have to agree to disagree alot we each have our own strong opinions so its hard to talk emotions but just try its better thab doing nothing... And just express that to him tell him im nit trying to fight or argue i just really am upset and want to talk babe... Or something
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That's the thing though, we've never been good at communicating our problems. He gets easily offended and If I say something that is disagreeing with him he finds it as disrespecting him. We're good at being okay and all that but talking about certain stuff like problems were not good at.
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13782075 tn?1437961772
Pregnancy is crazy lol i have been pregnant almost 2 years straight back to back babies and i thank god for still having my bf lol im crazy... I used to have the perfect body we used to be such a good team be4 our first like finishing each others sentence type lol we were perfect! Got pregnant with the 1st and became crazy now pregnant with his son since ive been through it i try to bite my tounge alot more but its very hard lol im always on him i was just trippen on him telling him hes probably out with this girl lol he walked in the house an said hes not messing with no ugly girl my response was so are you trying to tell me you messing with a pretty girl he responded baby the only pretty girl is you and yes im messing with you... Hes learned to answer pretty good at this point stop the argument be4 it gets bad... Hormones are terrible and i pick fights over nothing all the time just sit down with your man and tell him your feelings and tell him its hard trying to deal with all these hormones and emotions and maybe he could try to work with you on them... I hope you the best and im sure if you talk to him he will listen :)
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The only way you'll change things is if you talk to him and express how you feel. We all go through ups and downs in relationships, if you use to talk all the time you shouldn't have a problem reconnecting. Just take a step back, figure out what you want to say, and go talk to your man. Best of luck to you.
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