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Boyfriend not on board...

Hey guys, okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for a rough 7years. I just found out that I am 9 weeks pregnant and it was unplanned. I'm refusing termination and he never tried to force it upon me but has made it very clear that he does not want a child right now and that he will resent me if I keep it. I'm keeping my baby regardless but am curious if anyone has similar stories?...
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13167 tn?1327194124
I'm sorry this has happened.  Since you and he have been together for a "rough 7 years",  and you're not committed to each other,  it's not all that completely surprising he's not wanting to now commit to a baby and a future.  

This is your decision.   Whether to abort this pregnancy,  carry this baby to term,  offer the child for adoption,  or commit to raising this child by yourself.

Best wishes.  
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Hi there.  Well, this is a hard situation.  Not exactly how you want starting a family to be.  But he IS being honest with you.  He does not want a baby and this would not be his choice and he'd really just like it to go away.  That's hard to hear.  I guess I'd consider that you are definitely in this alone.  I do feel bad for men to a certain degree because it takes two to make a baby but then they have absolutely no say about what happens when an unplanned pregnancy happens.  You'll want to get child support from him and to encourage any involvement he will have with the child.  And then get a plan together for how you will raise this little baby alone.  How you will work/go to school, how you will make enough income to live comfortably and provide a safe, stable home for the child and yourself, who will watch the baby, health insurance, etc.  It sounds like you are ready for the sacrifices that go with motherhood.  It's a great thing being a mama.  I love it.  But it is not easy.  Maybe he'll come around but deep down, this wasn't what he wanted.  He'll possibly always resent being forced into this situation.  So, concentrate on support from your family instead.  good luck
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