Did you really just say that?!

[RhomanMom]

So I have been having problems ever since 30 weeks of pregnancy been to the ER three times because of problems.  Since Wednesday I have had swollen feet and elevated blood pressure.  I hate going to the hospital because I feel like they think that I over exaggerate my problems and I can't stand that so I try my best to refrain from going. Since Wednesday. . I take my blood pressure this morning and it's 166/89 and I call they tell me to come.im immediately. I have no way to get there but to get a ride so I ask my aunt.she says "oh that's just a little elevated"
I ignore her and go ask my grandmother.  She says to me "you just want something to be wrong with you. You just trying to make yourself be sick and I'm like are you serious?  So now I'm stuck in the house without a way to get where I need to go with people who think I'm faking and I'm Just tired. Tired of everything.  The hospital. ..my know - it - all family and having to try to plead my case like I'm faking or making things up. Just so aggravated and frustrated I could cry.

[specialmom]

First, I just want to say that aspirin is not recommended during pregnancy.  Unless your own doctor tells you to take it, I absolutely would not take aspirin.  Ibuprofen and aspirin products are on the do not take list by most doctors.  

I had blood pressure spikes as well during pregnancy.  They don't feel good, do they?  I just would put my feet up when that happened but I suspect as you get further along, the doctor may talk about a game plan for you.  When is your next doctor's visit?  Talk to your doctor about this obviously and ask your doctor when it is dangerous and what you should do.  I found my doctor's guidance to be so helpful because then I knew when to worry and when not to.

Your family sounds like they don't want to be very helpful.  So, I'm not sure how old you are but what things are you doing to get to a better place in life.  Where you don't need grandma and aunt for a ride or care and you are able to handle it on your own?  Are you in school?  Taking job training courses/college, going to trade school?  I so so so recommend this because that is what gives you freedom from people that don't care for you.  Also, is dad of baby not in picture or his family to be back ups to call when needed?  

There are lots of training programs that can lead to great jobs with sustainable living wages.  Meaning, you wouldn't need others but could care for yourself and this is an ideal position for a single mom to be in.  good luck

[Shohna]

Oh hunnie..dont feel like your body failed you..if you can make it to 37 weeks before they induce you..(ive een differently on here saying 39 weeks is now term) but 37 was always considered term when i had my daughter..meaning you have safely carried your baby..and even for those that go into preterm labour its not their fault (i have a friend who had twins at 26 weeks and lost one..she says the same thing..and in a million years it is not her fault!) with your family id be very hurt too..i had food poisening whilst pregnant with my daughter..my mum dismissed it as normal morning sickness..my sis in law was hospitalised with same thing..she also always said i was having a boy as i wasnt as sick as her when she had me..was secretly delighted when my daughter was born and i knew she had been wrong (i had such awful morning sickness) concentrate on you..you know your body..trust your instincts :) and sorry for the essay!lol

[wookiemom]

Geting to your due date isn't necessarily what's best. Most babies born at 35 weeks do fine and having baby a few weeks early is most likely better than trying to stay pregnant with a condition that poses a risk to both you and the baby.  Good luck with the remainder of your pregnancy.

[thaiworld]

I wouldn't risk it.

[RhomanMom]

I'm 35 weeks 5 days

[thaiworld]

I meant need

[thaiworld]

U know to go to the hospital. Anyway u can for you and child safety

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

How far along are you?

[RhomanMom]

Thank you ladies soo much
Update above ^^

[RhomanMom]

Bump

[RhomanMom]

Well I'm at the hospital and thank god no protein was found in my urine and my pressure had went down but I have to be induced within the next 2 weeks. I'm 80% thinned out and 4.5 cm dialated.  They said my body is ready for labor...and baby staying in their longer may continue to cause the spikes in blood pressure which could be very dangerous to us both.  I kinda feel like my body failed me. I wanted to go to my due date even though I hear all the time that I won't make it. But what's best for baby is always my first interest

[knufrio]

Aspirin should NEVER be taken during pregnancy unless advised specifically by your Dr. All NSAIDs pose the risk of causing birth defects as well as increased likelihood of neonatal cardiac and respiratory problems when taken in the third trimester. It is one of those meds that the benefits really need to outweigh the risks in order for your Dr to advise it. If your BP is that high you should be checked out to make sure things aren't getting worse. I too have several signs of preeclampsia, but I am 39+4 and will most likely be induced on Monday because of it.

[shadowkat1993]

And for you too!

[shadowkat1993]

I would call an ambulance to come and pick you up! Preeclampsia is no joke, and you need immediate care for your child :(
I'm so sorry that your family is horrible, if I was there I'd bring you myself!

[Chhaya1]

The only meds you can take while pregnant is Tylenol. Anything else has a negative risk of effect on baby

[RockRose]

Yeah.  What nellebaby said.

[My2LoveBugs]

My doctor prescribed me "low" aspirin, if you are at risk of preeclampsia you NEED to talk to your doctor about taking it hun!

[RockRose]

The rude things your family says and the fact that you need to get a ride to the hospital are two separate issues.

Don't go lie down an try to feel better.

You need to get to the hospital,  honey.  Preeclampsia is very dangerous and you are at risk.  

You need to find another way to get there,  even threatening to call an ambulance if they won't take you.  

[nellebaby24]

If they say come in right away and you have no ride call an ambulance. It's your best bet. Always listen to your doctor they know best

[My2LoveBugs]

& aspirin will not harm the baby!!! Smh. If anything you would not be able to take NOTHING while pregnant .

[My2LoveBugs]

How is taking aspirin one of the dumbest things you have ever heard, she's so rude! & I said to take aspirin because my doctor told me it helps your bp stay down instead of rising . Because it can cause problems!

[RhomanMom]

I'm also over weight and have gained more than I should of this pregnancy. Sad to say

[RhomanMom]

I was told earlier in pregnancy that I was at risk for pre eclampsia.  I was even given a blood pressure monitor to make sure to keep an eye on it. Since about 3 months I haven't had any problems with it but for about 4 days now it's been getting higher. Feet and face are swollen and although it's normal during pregnancy. .they just got swollen on Wednesday.  It's very frustrating to be told that I'm faking or lying or forcing something to be wrong when that's the last thing I would do. Took my blood pressure first thing this morning  and it was 166/89!

[Beaz95]

Wow. They sound like they are very high-and-mighty. You know, the "I've been through it with no problems at all. Everyone is the same" type. Were they accepting of the baby when you first told them? I can't imagine they were if they're acting like this. And that isn't exactly "a little elevated". They have no idea what you are going through, even if they have been pregnant before. I say grab yourself some hot Chamomille tea, take a nice soothing bath and try to relax. Maybe it'll help take your blood pressure down a little bit.