Fighting. Need to vent.

[MommyTinajero]

Seems like every day we fight. I'm 28 weeks and beyond stressed out. I've been taken off work on the 6th and he's still not working. I worked all throughout the pregnancy. And he has done nothing to help me. I sometimes can't stand being around him because I have absolutely zero support. I feel like I am doing this all alone. I'm 19 with my first baby and honestly I didn't want to get pregnant for many more years. He did. And now that I'm pregnant doing everything by myself really bothers me. He wanted a baby and now it's like he doesn't. I'm so tired of this and don't know what to do. I try talking to him about it and it's like as if he doesn't even care. ):

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, when you say he doesn't help, what do you mean?  With your living expenses?  with baby things?  Is he not coming around as much??  (just trying to understand where your disappointed).  Had you dated a long time before the pregnancy?  What does he say when you express how you feel---  that he is uninterested in being a father?  Does he work?  How old is he??  

I don't think you necessarily have to 'kick him to the curb' but I think you need to look at things realistically.  What kind of guy was he before the pregnancy---  hardworking, mature, not into going out with buddies all the time, there for you emotionally, physically and otherwise on a regular basis??  Has this changed or did he just not grow up once you were pregnant?  it is always best to have those qualities in place before you get pregnant but if they weren't, I think it is valid to be disappointed that they don't step up to the plate.

Tell him what you need.  Communicate really clearly with him.  Give him a chance to live up to it.  

Being pregnant and your age IS really hard.  I commend you for working and doing your best to take care of yourself.  I so hope it all works out for you.  do you have a supportive family/  

[MommyTinajero]

I have a full time job. With benefits. And I did tell him if I have to do it alone I will. It's not much of a difference then it is now. Just hard to talk to him about this. Or to talk to anyone about this. I just wish he would understand and out himself in my shoes.

[JNieves6913]

Love wont feed your baby, or buy diapers hun. I mean its your choice of course, but if he doesnt change your doing it alone except hes taking up space.

[MommyTinajero]

Thanks ladies. Really needed to talk to someone and I don't want to get family and friends involved

[MommyTinajero]

I was in and out of the hospital twice because of contractions. And I thought about it and tried it but then really feel alone and I do love him. I just don't understand how he can just not help me through any of this. Then gets mad at me when I don't want to be around him.

[alanatb]

Sorry to hear :( your a strong woman and need to stand up to him put your foot down and say either you pull your finger out and get a job to support your family or you will walk out on him... it may het him to think a bit more of the responsibility that he has to you and your bub. Goodluck I hope he does help you out and is there for you but dont be afraid of doing it yourself if things get worse you can do it :)

[JNieves6913]

Why were you taken out so early? Kick em to the curb if hes already showing dead beat like qualities... a woman does not need a man and a father is not always the biological father. Sounds like your already doing it alone anyway.