Husband and porn

[adri1413]

Ok, so here's my situation. My husband has looked at porn before in the past and I don't agree with it. I feel like him looking at porn is in a way saying that I'm not good enough for him or satisfying him in that way. Like my body is not attractive to him so he has to look elsewhere. Anyway so I've explained to him how I feel about it and he apologized and said he understood. Today I found porn on his phone AGAIN. He said it's from the last time but that's a lie cuz the last time I deleted it in front of him. He is acting like he doesn't care and oh well. And the said thing is I just told him this morning how I feel distant from him and I didn't like how we weren't having sex and he said sorry and nothing's going on and he will make a
a better effort. But ugh it makes me so mad and I more upset he's lieing about it and shows no remorse for me. I'm 14 weeks pregnant. already gained about 8 lbs, have stretch marks galore showing from previous pregnancies, exhausted all day, working full time and taking care of kids now this is just icing on the cake. I feel like crying. Sorry so long, needed to vent. Thanks ladies!

[Mommysboys2]

Its definitely hard not heat yourself up about it...I literally just went through this. Im 9 months pregnant and we have sex 1-2:times a day. So I guess it was more like a slap in the face that I wasnt enough to curb his appetite I guess you could say. But yet nh bf was only watching at work....Bc its winter time and they don't do anything. So maybe he was watching it out of boredom but that's still not an excuse. It just ***** to know you are carrying his baby going through all of these changes dealing with the hormones and hes watching another woman. I talked to my bf about it...I feel.closer to him knowing that I told him how I felt about it and he apologized. I didn't shame him or anything but I wanted to know why and what not. I guess in a situation you shouldn't hide your feelings Bc no one else is going to be hurt but you and that doesn't solve anything. As for the woman who you are talking about and did all that stuff I would def felt devastated....and hurt. But I wouldn't of gone and changed my appearance...I would of asked him what he got out of it. Something he wants to try...or what he likes about it..after I had that talk with my bf and found that hes more open with me sexually and its been better. I didn't say that you did tell the woman to get over it. It was supposed to be more of a general statement. My bad if you took it that way.

[Skittles_2_1_15]

Yea exactly we probably don't always be in the mood when they are.. yes they better wait
lol no but ona sserious note yes they should wait or please themselves.. but some guys I guess can't get it out themselves I guess without visual stimulation I guess idk.. I don't have those problems in my household.. I'm just guessing.. One woman said she dyed her hair brought sexy lingerie and she still caught her man watching... some man just can't get enough uhh it's sad to say that.. but I guess i just feel she shouldnt beat herself up over something not in her control.. i really hope you are not referring to me about the get over your feelings part because not once did I say any of these women should at any point of my post.mm

[Mommysboys2]

Also...the point that someone made the point that we aren't always going to be in the mood everytime hes horny....well then he should wait also....or take care of it himself without porn. That is possible. they are not always in the mood when we are. Woman giving the men the excuse they are visual beings...have more respect for yourself and your relationship.

[Mommysboys2]

Perhaps its the woman who don't care about it. Is the reason why society thinks its ok!. Everyone does have the right to there own opinion. But you don't tell woman to get over there feelings. Its how they feel. If you feel comfortable with your husband or boyfriend watching porn that's ok. But not every woman is like that. It does have something to do with self confidence but I think it has more to do with the respect we have for our boyfriends or husbands. Our thoughts and views have changed about them a bit. Every relationship is different but you deserve the same resspect you are giving him! Also you admit there is a problem within him. Exactly what we are upset about as his significant other its our job to be there its a partnership! Its jot something that should go ignored.  

[Skittles_2_1_15]

At the end I meant to say don't cry yourself to
sleep the problem is not within you it's within him...

[Skittles_2_1_15]

@tiaspilchuck4 in my post that I hope you fully read.. yes your entitled to your opinions or even expectations.. I'm not here to dictate anyones household.. I'm just stating my opinion.. I just feel it's kinda ridiculous for a woman to get herself all stressed out and choose to throw away a relationship over her man watching porn... And on a personal note my man don't watch porn he's not in to it.. but I can't say the same for myself.. he knows I like it and he don't have a problem with it.. and personally I don't watch it because he lacks at anything in the bedroom I watch it once ina blue because I like it.. spice up our bedroom activities keep it fun and spicey... So Tia hope you kinda understand more of my point of view... And @jaloveslorelei your just plain ole hilarious with the foolishness that even came out your mouth you can't be serious wtf do daddy issues or child abuse come in on in this topic... And secondly I know for a FACT my man isn't out there disrespecting me outside of our bedroom cause I know how to make my man happy.. And my post on here was not to down play or degrade any woman on here that truly stands by the way she feels.. if she doesn't want to tolerate it so be it... That's her standards.. I just feel it's stupid to break up or throw away a relationship over porn or quit your job to be home 24/7 to watch your man to make sure he doesn't watch it that's ridiculous and I find that Hillllllllllllllariousssssssss... I would never shame another woman for having her set of standards or morals so with that being said you should calm yourself down this story is not even about you... Lastly but not least if it's that much of a problem with these women with their man instead of acting out and breaking up . Help your man it could be ammental issue seek counseling together to fix the problem don't think your any less of a woman or less attractive or don't even cry yourself to self the problem is not within you it's withi him....