I HATE MY CHILD'S "FATHER" !!! (RANT)

[PreciousBabyRose]

HE'S SUCH AN INCONSIDERATE SELFISH A S S HOLE! MY WHOLE PREGNANCY HAS BEEN THE WORST BC OF HIM! FOR ONE HE'S BEEN MESSING AROUND ON ME SINCE WE FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT(APRIL) & PROBABLY BEFORE THAT TOO! HE NEVER WANTED ME AROUND HIM LIKE HE WAS ASHAMED OF ME OR SOMETHING, THERE WAS ALWAYS AN EXCUSE. HE WENT TO ONE DOCTORS APPT WITH ME(MAY) THEN ENDED UP GETTING LOCKED UP FOR 2 AND A HALF MONTHS! THAT WAS THE WORST BEING SO ALONE & ALL HE CARED ABOUT WAS GETTING OUT BUT NO ONE TOLD HIM TO DO THE STUPID S H I T THAT GOT HIM THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE! UGH! ANYWAYS, HIS PARENTS FINALLY BAILED HIM OUT(AUGUST) & HE JUST GOT OUT DOING THE SAME THINGS ALTHOUGH WHILE HE WAS THERE HE SWORE HE'D DO BETTER AND BEGGED ME TO STAY. SO LIKE AN IDIOT I DID. BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE!HE DID GET A GOOD JOB BUT HE JUST GREW MORE AND MORE HEARTLESS EVERYDAY! STILL MESSING AROUND ON ME & LYING ABOUT IT WHEN I KNEW THE TRUTH. STILL DOING THE STUPID CRAP THAT LANDED HIM IN JAIL! AND STILL NOT DOING ANYTHING FOR OUR SON! ABOUT 3 WEEKS AGO I BROKE UP WITH HIM FOR GOOD & HE GOT SO TICKED AT ME FOR NOT STAYING HE WENT AND FOUND A NEW GIRLFRIEND ALREADY! & WHATAYA KNO.. IT WAS ONE OF THE GIRLS I KNEW HE WAS TALKING TO ON THE SIDE! SO PATHETIC! HE TRIES TO FLAUNT HER ALL AROUND TO MAKE ME JEALOUS BUT STILL TRIES TO MESS AROUND WITH ME... TELLING ME WE CAN BE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS & MAYBE EVENTUALLY WE'LL GET BACK TOGETHER. -__- SUCH A DOUCHE! HE GOES OUT AND BUYS HIMSELF AND HIS NEW GF EVERYTHING. THEY GO OUT EVERY WEEKEND & HE NEVER DID THAT KIND OF STUFF FOR ME. I COULDN'T EVEN GET A FREAKING MCDONALDS MEAL! WHEN I TELL HIM I STILL NEED STUFF FOR OUR SON HE NEVER GETS IT! HE WILL SAY HE WILL BUT ONLY TO SHUT ME UP FOR THE MOMENT! HE'S SUCH A PRICK! I HATE HIM SO MUCH & I'M SO MAD AT MYSELF FOR EVEN GETTING PREGNANT BY HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE ! SORRY, I JUST REALLY NEEDED TO LET THAT ALL OUT.

[specialmom]

Wish we noticed these things about a guy before we get pregnant.  Now it is a lifetime of having to deal with him because kids want to know their mom and dad.  So, I'm not sure what to tell you.

When he seemed and ashamed of you and didn't want to take you around, that was a really big red flag.  I just want women to read these signs and leave men that treat them that way before they get pregnant.  Too late this time but for next time.  When someone isn't treating you well when dating---  they're probably not going to all of a sudden become picture perfect boyfriends once pregnant.  That's just the reality.

I'm sorry he's treated you badly and now you are in this situation.  I'm sure it is very stressful.  You've got a lot on your plate with a baby coming and being on your own now.  Focus on that.  Stay calm and do not participate in any drama with him or his new girlfriend.  If he wants to know his child, allow him to do be in the baby's life.  And sue the jerk for child support.

And then you will go on with life and hopefully the next guy will be better.  If he isn't . . .   don't second guess it.  Leave him!!  good luck

[shynjahmya]

man do right at first , I was with mii bd for 4yrs nd never thought he would do the things he does now or dnt do now ..... I hate it gotta be like this , he was mii best friend , we talked bout everything now we cut even have a conversation with cussing each other out , we never argued til I got pregnant #lifesucks

[RockRose]

So I'm really curious,  honestly.  What made these guys seem attractive enough to have sex with?  Guys have to seem WONDERFUL for me to have sex with them.  What was it about these guys in this thread that was appealing?

[ewilliams_]

I am kind of in the same situation,  but my bd didn't go to jail, when we dated I got pregnant quickly.And after in told him he acted as if he was happy. A week later I found out he had a gf of 2 yrs and she was also pregnant and she wanted to pay for me to get an abortion so they could be together. I said hell the f*** no! So for the first 12 weeks he tried to convince me to get an abortion. The other girl ended up getting an abortion.  He went to 2 doctors appointment because he didn't believe I was pregnant and heard the baby's heart beat. The girl wanted to be with him so bad she was willing to except the baby so he called his self cutting me off until the bby got here. He found a job. And needed me and after all that I was still there for him. He did me wrong dogged me after that. He had a hickie on his neck i broke up with him and the same night he gets a new gf. And posted about her all over social networks when he never talked about me or our son. Ppl didnt even know he had a bby on the way. So finally I just said forget it. And left him alone for good.Everytime i would ask for something for the baby it wad hes not even here yet or hell buy it for his house. Dont worry about what hes doing for our bby worry abiut myself. After I few days because usually I call him after I miss him and he saw that i wasn't he called trying to make everything right I didn't go for it. But finally I gave in and surprisingly. He's been the BOMB I couldn't ask for any one better. He gives me what he can for the baby because he always supports all 3 of us. Because I no longer work. He hustle hard. He's so excited for the bby he talks about it more than I do the change made me fall for him even more. I always have a gut feeling he maybe cheating because of our history. But I try to just be happy because I haven't seen or heard anything we still have our issues I'm due in a few days and we are far from prefect. I HOPE THINGS GET BETTER WITH TIME

[JustcallmeKay]

Although I am not in the situation you ladies are in I can't help but feel for you all. I would be devastated beyond belief to go through what you ladies are going through but to still remain strong through it all is something I admire.

I grew up with a father who was in and out of jail and abusive to my mother and it really hurt my siblings and me, but the thing that hurt me the most, and still impacts me today was seeing my mother hurt like she did.

The point I want to make is do not let your innocent children see their fathers disrespect/hurt any of you ladies.  They are not men and do not deserve you women. Be strong and things will get better. Men have no idea what we go through while pregnant and to think some are selfish enough to only think about themselves, is crazy to me.  Good luck to you ladies, be strong , be happy you deserve it.

[anni3xo]

Sounds like a peice of ****.. so sorry this has happened to you. No one deserves that... I woukd take him to court and make sure youre getting support from him every month for your son. Get the process going now since your little man willnbe here soon and court takes a while. I hope things get better for you stay strong

[Rayniece]

omg almost the same situation!!! But my ex wasnt cheatin or anything..I just left him because once he got out a bad sistuation & step into a nice one he FLIPPED like I wasn't the girl that was behind him thur the worst smh but now he's with a pregnant girl that want him to be the child father so bad it's crazy & he was just in another relationship bout 2 weeks ago lol I just kno he using the girls but it's not about tht anymore it's abut our SON, which he haven't brought a dime to the table & his biggest excuse it "He's not even here yet" like what the hell!! Being pepared & already having is best

[PreciousBabyRose]

I am 33 weeks and just ready to have my baby in my arms. I hate we have to go through things like this but there are better men out her for us. Bc our bd's sure are not men, they are little boys!

[PreciousBabyRose]

At least you got 40$.. I've literally gotten nothing. & I'm struggling to do this on my own. I'm High risk so my doctor doesn't want me working at all & as soon as my mom found out she said the same. I have no income right now. I live with my mother who is disabled and lives off of social security ($1200 a month) she does everything for me and my son and struggles to do so but he does not even care as long as he gets what he wants he doesn't care if we struggle. But I will find a way to get back on my feet as soon as I can

[shynjahmya]

I swear to God .... I'm in the same exact boat as u .... I could of wrote dat .... it's sad cause I really loved him nd was loyal for nothing ..... if only I could take it bck .... dnt get me wrong I love mii daughter but if I already had ah kid she would not be coming right now ..... I just blocked him from fb & changed mii number.... he only gave 40$ nd I'm 35+4 weeks .... I can do this on mii own ... hell I dnt have a choice