Honestly, you need to choose what best for you & your little girl. I also don't have a great relationship with my mother & feel the same way. Its best to keep the negative energy away from you & the baby.
But how do I actually tell her she's not welcomed to visit ? I don't want it to be a surprise at all.
Personally, I don't want her even in my daughter life.I may sound cruel.but,if nobody understand god does
All that matter
Just when you go to have it do not tell your mother. Keep the birth to the love ones you want around. I am planning to do the same thing. But the only difference will just be me and him.
Me and my father haven't talked in years!! I'm not even going to go into his business.. but he's not a good person at all. And he asked to come up to see my first child. I didn't decline him thaT. I allowed him to come see her, and still yet we don't speak, only if he wants pics of his grandchildren, I'm not bitter so I do send pics. Would I let them live with him? No. Do I let him visit. Yes. I just keep to my self and he does the same. But..... you only get one mother.. just saying
But if that is how you feel this is your child, a person, a life , so if I we're in your shoes, I would simply say "I am going through a lot right now, wrapping my head around being a new mother, and dealing with somethings and I just don't feel now is the time, there might be a time where we can sit down and work on our issues, but at the birth of my child is not the time" and she should respect that answer. If she doesn't... ayyyy you didn't get along with her anyway right?? So what is the point in continuing the conversation.