JR or NOT

[pammy_love_]

So me and the father of my child aren't together and weren't together when I got pregnant. Lately he's been coming around and we've been getting along after 18 weeks of being pregnant. He wants a JR and because he doesn't plan on us being a family I don't wanna do that. The baby will at least have his last name so am I wrong for how I feel? Mind you he is still talking to other girls and continues to lie in my face about it....should i care?

[specialmom]

I have mixed feelings on it.  I do agree that it would be a burn to have your son have your ex's name and spend most of his time with you.  And he WiLL have his last name.  But, I also think that men connecting to their children especially when the parents aren't together is essential and that JR> could make them both feel close to one another.  That's pretty valuable.  It's a connection that is kind of special to be a Jr.  You could always go the initial route.  Like if his dad is Michael, call him MJ.  Or something like that.

but bottom line, you really do have to do what feels best to you.  If it is salt in the wound---  then don't name him after his dad.  good luck

[RockRose]

The philosophy behind naming a son "jr" is the family is kind of saying "the world needs another one just like THAT guy!".  It's an affirmation that you want your child to be just like Daddy.

In this case,  you certainly don't.  And I agree with those who say you might want to consider not giving him your boyfriend's last name.

[pammy_love_]

I completely understand! I want my son to have his own identity as well....I don't think I'm going to do it....I just don't want to regret it five years from now and his father isn't in the picture

[MommyDiamond]

My child's father wants a JR. If we have a boy but I don't think I can forgive him for his past and the way he speaks to me sometimes. I feel like if I were to have a boy then I want him to have more respect for a female than his dad does

[pammy_love_]

Thanks for the advice ladies! I will really take them into consideration :)

[adriana420]

I wouldn't even bother putting his last name it might sound selfish but I feel like it would just give him rights over your child ...if he can't get it together..why bother having him in and out your baby life

[ericatoday]

You name your baby what you want. I'd never name my child a Jr no matter what I hate when people do it so even if my bf wanted it I wouldn't do it.

[pammy_love_]

Thanks! That's how I feel! I just want to make sure I'm not in my feelings

[Sian_Evs]

Call your baby what you want, at least the baby will have his last name.