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Just looking for comfort.
Currently me and my boyfriend are living with his mom until baby is born. My pregnancy is high risk due to having kidney surgery and i was put on medical leave. My boyfriends mom never has any food here. Im hungry all the time and half the time starve all day until he gets home from work. I asked him for 10$ today just to put in my gas tank to go to my moms house and eat and he wouldnt even leave that for me. Im so upset and im starving. When i tell him how i feel he tells me im complaining. I just want to cry.
I wasn't able to get WIC for a month, but we literally had nothing in our house to eat. I called them one day and just cried and cried, told them that I need help and I have no food in my house and they were more then available for me to come in -you shod try calling them. You are pregnant, you should not be put on the back burner! If you are starving there is a problem!
Also, there are food pantries around normally, try looking them up online for your area. You can go, as well as your mother claiming for differen households and get more food that way depending on the amount if people in your and your mothers home. I highly suggest you try doing this.
And if you haven't spoken to your boyfriends mother, I feel you should. Why not? Maybe you can let her know you are starving, and so is your daughter. That you have tried to speak to her son about bringing you home food/buying food to help you all out and he has denied this responsibility and you would like to see if maybe she could talk to him and maybe she can get something different from him then you have been able too.
As far as doing things in her house, maybe make an effort daily. Sometimes it doesn't show when you do it once or twice. I had an issue with my mother inlaw when we were living with her for a very short amount of time. But in all fairness, she's paying the bills and has you BOTH in her house. No one likes to hear they haven't done anything when they have and it is ignored, but sometimes it just takes a little more then the last time.
Also, there are food pantries around normally, try looking them up online for your area. You can go, as well as your mother claiming for differen households and get more food that way depending on the amount if people in your and your mothers home. I highly suggest you try doing this.
And if you haven't spoken to your boyfriends mother, I feel you should. Why not? Maybe you can let her know you are starving, and so is your daughter. That you have tried to speak to her son about bringing you home food/buying food to help you all out and he has denied this responsibility and you would like to see if maybe she could talk to him and maybe she can get something different from him then you have been able too.
As far as doing things in her house, maybe make an effort daily. Sometimes it doesn't show when you do it once or twice. I had an issue with my mother inlaw when we were living with her for a very short amount of time. But in all fairness, she's paying the bills and has you BOTH in her house. No one likes to hear they haven't done anything when they have and it is ignored, but sometimes it just takes a little more then the last time.
I think if you call wic back and say you literally don't have food to eat, maybe they can get you in sooner ,? Or you can look up other services to help you. You'll be a priority as you're pregnant. Good luck, it sounds like you aren't getting a lot of help where you should be
I found a bag of popcorn in the bottom of my boyfriends moms pantry. My mom has Mulpitle sclerosis. She is on disability. Her and her boyfriend only have 1 car and he works during the day. My mom is very very upset right now and is begging me to move back home. She cant stand it when i tell her things like this. My bf's mom just asked me the other day why i dont do anything around her house when i did all of her dishes, mopped and swept. Did all of the laundry in the house and folded it. Im really upset and want to try to work things out with my bf but dont see it happening since he is not understanding of my feelings. Not only me but his daughter to.
Okay - so there is some kind of food in the house? Popcorn isn't going to do anything for you at all except make you feel full, but since there's popcorn it sounds like there may be other stuff too?
I really don't understand the lack of caring you're getting from your boyfriend, his mom and your mother. Although your mother is willing to give you gas money if you come over there and get it, it seems to me she would have said come over here and we'll make you meals you can take and put in the freezer.
I really don't understand the lack of caring you're getting from your boyfriend, his mom and your mother. Although your mother is willing to give you gas money if you come over there and get it, it seems to me she would have said come over here and we'll make you meals you can take and put in the freezer.
I put 6 calls into her this week and got nothing back. I told him we need to talk after he gets off work today and says i need to stop complaining and tell his mom. I just made a bag of popcorn and my mom told me to come over and she will give me gas money. They just dont understand that im pregnant and i get hungry very often. Thank you all for your support! I appreciate it. I cried all morning long
I put 6 calls into her this week and got nothing back. I told him we need to talk after he gets off work today and says i need to stop complaining and tell his mom. I just made a bag of popcorn and my mom told me to come over and she will give me gas money. They just dont understand that im pregnant and i get hungry very often. Thank you all for your support! I appreciate it. I cried all morning long
Also, since you already have a "case worker" (I don't know why you are already in the social services system) call her and tell her your situation, that there isn't any food at all in the house all day long and you're 24 weeks pregnant.
She will react.
She will react.
You need more than comfort, danibly, you need food.
Your boyfriend has a dangerous indifference to your health and your baby.
I think you should move back home to your mother's house and tell her there isn't any food where you are living.
Your boyfriend has a dangerous indifference to your health and your baby.
I think you should move back home to your mother's house and tell her there isn't any food where you are living.
I have a wic appointment next month. That was the earliest they could get me in. Im currently waiting to hear back from my case worker about food stamps. Im 24 weeks and my appetite has increased alot now. Im also ftm.
He's an a**, I'm sorry, I know he's your bf but its true. You're pregnant, you need food. I went through a point of not really being able to eat and it can get emotional. Cause you don't even really wanna eat for yourself. You just wanna eat so you know your baby is getting what they need. Tell him to stay home for a day with no money ortransportation
I have tried to get him to buy some food and like help her out a little but he wont. He will go to the gas station and buy himself a drink and some snacks but wont buy me any. If i wasnt in medical leave i would help buy food for his mom. I am just so frusterated.
Have u signed up for wic? Contact your local offices to see about food stamps and wic it will help
Maybe you and your boyfriend should buy your own food for his mom's house. That's what I did when I lived with my Dad, so maybe try bringing it up to him (: You'll figure something out !
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