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Just not good enough
I don't feel like im sufficient for my bf I suck at doing this house thing the house is a mess I don't give him time he needs and lately feel like I haven't been as connected with my son or any one for that matter and I think he's picking up on it because he wants more to do with his dad than me now I've been down before but I feel like what's coming will be the worst I'm constantly worried about my son's dad not loving me any more and I know beside being pregnant that is running my mind to the ground I don't know what to do I just feel like crap I just know when everything falls apart and I'm single mother of two it's going to be all my fault I'm just so freaking lost
Since you have a history of depression I'm pretty sure that's what is going on. It can get even worse during pregnancy. How long do you have until the baby is due? I'm asking because I think you should talk to your Dr about feeling depressed and after the baby is born you can try an antidepressant.
I agree with Rockrose. You really should try to get out in the sunshine for awhile everyday. If something needs to be done like taking a shower, doing the dishes, making dinner, try not to even think about. Just do it. I suffer from depression myself and this is how I get things done. Even if I just finish a sink full of dishes it makes me feel so much after I'm done.
Is there anyone who can watch the baby for a couple of hours at times? If so, you and your husband could spend some alone time together. Or, you could take that time for yourself to do something you enjoy.
Ask your Dr about mommy baby groups. If he/she doesn't know of any then check with your local churches. I think it would be good for you and your baby to be around other moms and babies like Rockrose said.
We're always here for you. Being a mom is the hardest job in the world. My husband and I were only able to have one child, whick we're so thankful for. When she was little I didn't know how other moms with more than one child were able to handle it. Almost all of us do though.
I agree with Rockrose. You really should try to get out in the sunshine for awhile everyday. If something needs to be done like taking a shower, doing the dishes, making dinner, try not to even think about. Just do it. I suffer from depression myself and this is how I get things done. Even if I just finish a sink full of dishes it makes me feel so much after I'm done.
Is there anyone who can watch the baby for a couple of hours at times? If so, you and your husband could spend some alone time together. Or, you could take that time for yourself to do something you enjoy.
Ask your Dr about mommy baby groups. If he/she doesn't know of any then check with your local churches. I think it would be good for you and your baby to be around other moms and babies like Rockrose said.
We're always here for you. Being a mom is the hardest job in the world. My husband and I were only able to have one child, whick we're so thankful for. When she was little I didn't know how other moms with more than one child were able to handle it. Almost all of us do though.
yes I am a welder love it I'm just scared to work pregnant lol but no he doesn't get it we talked about it he's trying to understand but he really upset me for mothers day he didn't get me anything or do anything with me it one flower and a thank you woukd have done just fine it was just a very depressing weekend for me I wish I could find a mommy group or something but I don't think they have any around here I told my bf the other day I need a friend I'm 26 years old and have never been good at conversing with other women or anyone it ***** I'm always scared to say the wrong thing or just be flat out boring probably childhood problems lol :(
weldermom - are you welder? Wow. I know another woman welder, and think that's amazing. If you're not a welder, sorry for assuming.
I agree with remar. You do sound depressed, especially since you've had a history of depression.
What have you done before for your depression? Were on medication successfully, or did you use other coping strategies?
It's good that you asked what "other" moms do to get through this period in your life.
1. Get outside into the fresh air every day. Put on tennis shoes and put your baby in a stroller and go for a walk. You won't believe what a difference that will make, even if you don't feel like it at the time.
2. Develop friendships with other young mothers. They'll be your friends for life. Really.
3. Tell your husband exactly what you would like for Mother's Day, ahead of time. And same for your birthday, anniversaries, valentines day, etc. Make it something simple and fun, and he'll likely get in to it if it's easy for him to do and pleases you. "I want to pick up take out and go for a picnic dinner at the park with just the 3 of us". "I want to go out to brunch at _____".
Best wishes. Some guys get it, some guys don't get it. Yours doesn't but he sounds like otherwise he's a good guy.
I agree with remar. You do sound depressed, especially since you've had a history of depression.
What have you done before for your depression? Were on medication successfully, or did you use other coping strategies?
It's good that you asked what "other" moms do to get through this period in your life.
1. Get outside into the fresh air every day. Put on tennis shoes and put your baby in a stroller and go for a walk. You won't believe what a difference that will make, even if you don't feel like it at the time.
2. Develop friendships with other young mothers. They'll be your friends for life. Really.
3. Tell your husband exactly what you would like for Mother's Day, ahead of time. And same for your birthday, anniversaries, valentines day, etc. Make it something simple and fun, and he'll likely get in to it if it's easy for him to do and pleases you. "I want to pick up take out and go for a picnic dinner at the park with just the 3 of us". "I want to go out to brunch at _____".
Best wishes. Some guys get it, some guys don't get it. Yours doesn't but he sounds like otherwise he's a good guy.
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I never took anything for my depression I just try to do little things to deal with it depending on how bad it is
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Ive always had to fight with depression but it's just getting worse as the months go by and now that I'm pregnant aging I just feel like he takes my not feeling good lightly just because I'm not hacking up everything I'm sure he thinks I'm just saying I don't feel good to avoid sex which is just not the case he doesn't even take note the house is a mess I've missed days of bathing I ask him to do more with our son which he dose a good bit to begin with but I need extra help right now I swear I don't know how some women work through this I feel very unappreciated and even though this is my first actual mothers day he has been fishing Thursday Friday and Saturday which Saturday was already planned with his grand father but when his Co worker asked for thursday and friday I feel he should have said no instead of leaving me home with our son alone to struggle while he was out relaxing now I have no problem with him going out with friends or who ever but i feel he picked the worst time to go on a freaking binge his mom has been texting me telling me im the best mom and shes glad to have me as a daughter any many other compliments but with every text it hurts because I have yet to hear it from him I just think we are ending sorry for the long response
It sounds like you might have depression. All of the things you mentioned point to it. No interest in anything, feeling down, worrying.
It would probably be a good idea to talk to your OB/GYN about how you're feeling.
Did you feel this way before or after you had your first child? I'm asking because it's not that uncommon for women to have postpartum depression after giving birth.
It would probably be a good idea to talk to your OB/GYN about how you're feeling.
Did you feel this way before or after you had your first child? I'm asking because it's not that uncommon for women to have postpartum depression after giving birth.
I have been there..guys can just be jerks sometimes..lol hope y'all work it out
I just feel like more of a burden to him than any thing I'm not normally a stay at home mom but I came home so I wouldn't miss my boys first step or have to worry about taking off for his 1st birthday my boyfriend rathers me stay home but when I do he just makes me feel so useless he literally told me I don't do enough and that's just stuck on my mind even when I feel like I've done a lot he let's me know otherwise
It's just hormones..if your bf loves you he will understand..I am a stay at home mom and really having a hard time having energy to do anything nowadays..it won't always be perfect..just do what you think you can
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