LIES

[shynjahmya]

So I lied to mii bd to try to get him to send money nd so he can know aT it feel like to be lied to .... I'm not due til December 11 but I told him I was getting induced on the 20th I pretty much know how induction go so I ended up have a FAKE c section,  so at thus point he thinks his daughter is here .... I'm trying to get some money but I can't seem to talk to him on the fone so I just txt .... I guess mii heads saying it ain't right but mii baby needs stuff ...,, Wat u think ??? Nd just kno he hasn't giving me anything nd I still need a car seat so bad about

[Chima7]

You should not have told him you had a c section and the baby was already here. That's definitely going to come back to bite you later in some form or fashion. If you try to get court ordered child support you'll for sure get in trouble for lying. That was not the right way to handle this situation. Not sure what you can do now to dig yourself out of this hole cause it's a pretty bad one. Good luck with that.

[honeybee103112]

Oh I don't understand half of your slang either. It's very very awful made my head hurt to read....

[honeybee103112]

I think that's messed up. What if something happens.to your baby or during labor? god.forbid but karma is real if I was.you I'd fess.up now bc your not going to.like when he really finds out...

[specialmom]

Yep, this is a bad one.  Inappropriate to A. lie about something so important and B. use your daughter in this way.  

I'm sorry, I'm just being blunt with you.  These things come back to haunt us.  When you do take him to court for child support, you don't look like an innocent victim of a dead beat dad but a scam artist trying to take advantage of a situation.  

I understand that you are desperate for some cash and maybe have some revenge feelings (since you said you want him to feel what it is like to be lied to) but it is kind of a serious thing to 'fake' that you've already had a baby and by C section no  less.  

These are the things I wish I could have caught you before you did it because I think if they have proof that you've lied via text messages, they can use that against you.  You then become untrustworthy.  Like the person who claimed to have cancer to get money and didn't have it.  I get that you are 'going to' have a baby but it is fraud to lie about a surgical procedure and the birth of your child.  There are women who fake a pregnancy with a man and this is kind of similar.  

So, I guess I just wish you hadn't done this and gone about things the legal and right way.  And hope this doesn't haunt you in the future.  Or your child.  good luck

[shynjahmya]

I really dnt care wen he finds out I lied cause all he do is lie nd say he about to send some money and.never do .... I definitely got his attention at this point so I told him send money or no pictures nd I'm in another  state so he can't just pop up ..... I feel a lil bad about lying but I shouldn't have to tjis extinct to make him do something...... he does have a job plus he a hustler so he got money nd he thinks I borrowing mii home gra car seat ....

[RockRose]

Does he actually have any money coming in to share with you?

If he does,  when the baby is born file for child support.

[Mrs_Prealore]

Instead of losing maybe be a *****. Because he will eventually have to know your child's birthday and that will cause more problems later. Just tell him if he wants anything to do with his baby he will get you the things you need for her now. Hes her father and he needs to step up and act like one now

[mrselmore1206]

I agree. Don't try to deceive him for the money. It's only gonna make u look bad chances are he knows she's not here and that's why he hadn't sent it. But I understand all too well about deadbeat dads . My ex and the father of my two oldest children never did a thing for them or me. I just did it on my own. Be prepared to get this on your own honey and good luck to you

[alid32]

I wouldn't lie to him. I know it's tough but until she's here he won't have to help. It's not right that he's not helping but it is what it is. After she is born file papers with the court to get full custody and a child support order. Good luck mama!

[adara1990]

I don't agree with lies but you do need money for your baby, i just wouldnt suggest doing it that way. You should be doing it legally so it can't be flipped back on you.... just be careful with what you lie about

[Brizabella]

Not ok to lie!
Don't act like him ...instead file for child support, and focus on you baby girl

[knufrio]

I don't think its right to lie to him, especially for money. He will eventually find out especially because 1) he knows you have no car seat and you can't leave the hospital without one, and 2) he isn't gonna be suspicious that you haven't sent pictures of his daughter?

[LyakGarcia]

Hey, she's his baby and he needs to pitch in, text, call, leave a voicemail, file for child support, anything to get the support your daughter deserves