Leaving him

[james_zaira]

So his mom has pancreatic cancer, she's known for a year but just yesterday he said the doctor told him. Idk. But he barely gave me to much attention. Now its like I don't exist, I honestly feel lost I'm 22 weeks 3 days, and I feel like I lost the love of my life. I broke up with him the other day, we make up to break up all the time, but this time I think its over for good, well apart of me wants it to be over For good, because i never feel important to him anyway. But then the other half of me that loves him wants him to know I'm here, I've always been here. But why do I always have to be the one, why can't he be here, we can't he show me. Its been 2 years and I feel like it hasn't been the happiest, wasn't the happiest, I just don't know how to let him go. What do I do to let this relationship go and for good

[remar]

I could not agree more with the other two posters. Not to be mean, but your timing is awful. His mother is dying and you're worried about not getting enough attention from him? You're the one who should be doing everything you can for him right now. It would be a good idea to offer your help and support to his mother. My mother in law died of cancer. I was the one who took complete care of her the last few months of her life. I fed her, bathed her, dressed her, took her to appointments. My husband was devastated. He had every right to be because he knew his mother was dying. I didn't get much attention during this time but you know what? I did not care one bit because my husbands mother came first. It actually brought us closer because we needed each other during that time. I know you're pregnant but the baby isn't here yet. You need to deal what's going on right now. If you can't deal with something this big it makes me wonder how you will deal with a baby. Being a mother is the hardest job you will ever have. The baby will demand all of your attention and you will get none back from the baby. Now is not a time to be playing games with your boyfriend. I'm going to leave you while your mother is dying because you're not giving me enough attention? Leave if you feel that you're not happy or grow up and be there by his side to support him.

[AnnieBrooke]

Have to say, this is not the time to stage a loyalty contest.  Pancreatic cancer is a death sentence, there is no happy ending.  He has just learned his mom is going to die, and soon.  I am sorry that you're pregnant and annoyed that he doesn't make you feel special, but her problem (and his -- it is an emotional trauma to lose your mother) trumps your problem.  If in general you are not satisfied with the relationship and never have been, just quietly let him know you are there to support him but that for you things are mostly over, but for heaven's sake, think about your timing.

[RockRose]

You broke up with him on the day he found out his mother is dying a horrible and painful death?