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10592317 tn?1416534566

Venting.. )':

I am currently 26 weeks and 2 days. I am due March 25th with a baby boy.
I got pregnant the first time I had sex with my boyfriend.
It was kinda of a one night stand. Well I thought for him.. After a few days of him not contacting me I got upset because I really liked him. Yes I know I shouldn't have slept with him the first night I met him.. Well he did contact me. We started dating, I found out I was pregnant and moved in with him. It was so quick but I had to, I had no where else to go. His parents were excited about the baby along with his grandparents.
Anyways now he's just being so rude to me. He's so self conscious that I'm going to cheat on him. He always says "I know how girls are." But he doesn't, I've NEVER cheated on anyone. He was cheated on by one of his girlfriends that he had for five years. But the next one he has he cheated on that he was with for a year. He is also ALWAYS talking about his sex life with other girls he was with. Especially one. He tells me how perfect her boobs were and how crazy in bed she was.. It hurts my feelings and I normally just ignore it.
I've never talked about my sex life before ever. I don't understand. Until one day he asked a very personal question and I told him I didn't wanna answer. He kept pressuring me to so I did. Well a few nights ago he was complaining about his area, saying he wished it was bigger. All men do that. But he made me feel like crap about something that happened 4 years ago! I've also lost my sex drive from my belly being big and it getting uncomfortable. I finally broke down and said "I'm sorry my boobs aren't as perfect as Kayla's and I'm sorry I'm not as crazy in bed as her. And I'm sorry I'm getting so fat and I'm sorry I look like slob all the time!"
We have been together for 5-6 months now. And all the sudden today he said he deleted all the girls off his Facebook, and asked why I had so many guys. So I looked, I barely have any guys, the majority of them are girls.
I don't understand why he is acting like this.. I've been feeling so down lately and I don't know what to do. He's always hounding me about other guys but in all reality I'm ALWAYS home. I don't work because he doesn't want me too. My college is online. It's just not fair! I'm tired of feeling like crap about thinks I shouldn't. I carrying his child and he thinks all these guys want me when reality is, once I turn around with my big belly they'd run.  I'm sorry this is so long. I've been holding in A LOT.
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My due date is march 23rd! We're Only 2 Days apart. My story with my boyfriend is semi the same but instead he cheated on me. I had a feeling something was going on because he never kissed me anymore or wanted to have sex with me... sometimes I would cry at night because he never paid attention to me, and was always on his phone! Apparently I found out the reason why was because he was texting that girl. When I has found out I feel so depressed and sad. I just didn't want to do anything with him, but I thought about it and he's the father of my son. And even after that I still love him, I might sometimes not see him the same but every child deserves a father. I know how it feels feeling so huge and fat.. I hate it, sometimes I don't even want to go out because of how huge my stomach been getting and I have no butt anymore. It's like my butt switched places with my stomach.. sometimes us girls we have to smile and think bout how wonderful it feels feeling our babies kick. That always seems make me in a better mood (:
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I'm sorry you going through. I don't mean to be rude or heartless but most of time I read about posts like this, I get so mad. Why are you taking crap from a guy? Focus on yourself & your baby. Why are women taking **** from their men? Ughhh,  my life is not perfect, but if my husband treated me like half of the posts I read here, I would have left him long ago. I get soo angry reading those posts. If a guy knows your naive & take his crap, he will do it over N over & wont change. I know it's hard be being & feeling alone, but for the sake of your child. Get up, build up confidence, & leave him. Find a men that treat you with RESPECT.
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He's excited about the baby. We already have everything and he talks to my belly. I just started putting my foot down and telling him how I feel and that it is not fair. He dated a girl for five years, they had unprotected sex and he never pulled out. They tried to have a baby but couldn't. She got with someone else and got knocked up. He then dated another girl for a year, unprotected sex not pulling out. No baby. He dated a girl for 4 months, nothing. We had sex ONE time. I found out I was pregnant four weeks later. I was also told since I have I bicornuate uterus that I would not conceive a child and if I did, I'd miscarry. And I haven't. I think God brought us together. I just think he may have doubts because he couldn't have one for so long. I want him to get a patiurnity test so he will have peace of mind. I know it's his because I didn't have sex for a year until him. He never says it isn't his though. I just think it may help him out with his insecurity.
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I don't get why he contacted you, if he was going to be so doubtful & self conscious. Tell him to stop comparing you to his exes. Is he ready for a baby? He might be taking out his fear on you? Don't continue to let him keep emotionally & mentally abusing you.
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Omg!! Same boat girls never thought some one alse will tell my story including the judging about my past. ..
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My bf did the same kind of thing for a long time normally i would let it go but after awhile i just told him i ddnt want to hear abt his exs anymore tht he was with me and if he wanted to keep it tht way to knock the **** off. He also was cheated on by more than one of his exs so he thought for a long time tht i was going to and i tried to reasure him for a long time but again i got tired of it and told him he was just going to have to trust me. 3 yrs later we are as happy as we can be engaged and our first baby on the way and now he fer sure knows better than to talk to me abt one of his exs hah sometimes ladies you just have to be strong and put your foot down men are like children sometimes and need a strong hand to lead them in the right direction and he did the same with me (except i nvr talked abt my exs) but with the things he had problems with. The only way a relationship can rlly work is to talk things out and tell each other how u rlly feel.
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When my hubby starts giving me a hard time, I tell him how it makes me feel or i give it right back to him. Stand up for yourself. As for the cheating accusations, ask him how he'd feel if you started accusing him of cheating. You have to make him realise that what he says hurts, guys don't understand how we work and pregnancy makes it even harder for them. Make your thoughts and feelings clear to him. Hopefully things get better for you soon! *big hugs*
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It will be okay don't let him stress you out. He is insecure with himself. Wish you and your baby the best.
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*wouldnt
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Hun i went tru the same thing the first months i lived with my the only diffrence is i wasnt pregnant but i noticed the same things his facebook, him talking about his exs i couldnt go outside cuz he said the guys from the car wash were staring at me i would go out and hid say i wss cheating on him, the day i bust hes started acting the same way he deleted everything, and said he was srry. Maybe ur bf is going tru a change and just realized his the one doing wrong all this time.
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I feel the same way my husband tortures me so much because of my past!:/ he sometimes makes me feel like such a bad person and he's gotten me into this huge. Depression where I feel very guilty about all I did before I met him I don't know What to do either: ( ""!!!
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