Need relationship adivce

[Courtneyx0]

Hello.. I need advice.. I dated my boyfriend for 2 years.. I knew he had done drugs but I didn't think his problem was a big as things have turned out to be today. I ended up getting pregnant and I always questioned him about using drugs and he always denied everything and made me feel like I was crazy.. I gave birth in December and this past April he came to me and told me he was going into a rehab.. He ended up going away to Florida.. And kept telling me that he was staying there and he wanted the baby and I to move out there when he was done with treatment. A month went by and he ended up coming back home (he didn't even tell me he was planning on coming back). He is continuing his treatment but we kept fighting because of all the things he says he's going to do and never happen. He basically just cut me off.. He blocked my number, deleted his gmail account, deleted facebook. I am so hurt by this.. He won't talk to me but had his friend tell me that he was advised that he shouldn't be in a relationship for a year. I don't understand how he can do this to me.. I just had his daughter 6 months ago and he basically abandoned us for his own selfish needs.. I haven't heard a word from him for the past month.. I feel like there was no closure.. He just basically cut me off.. A month ago he was telling me he loved me and wanted a future with me and now this.. I feel like he's just left me to figure it all out on my own... I need advice..

[damiensmama]

I went through this also. My son's father left us when our son was 5 months old. He did nothing but drink and do drugs. He changed his number, moved and deleted facebook and I heard nothing from him for 7 months then he came back around. The following 6 years he came and went off and on going weeks and months without even calling to ask about his son. Finally, last summer he got locked up for 8 months (he should have done prison time for his charges) well he got out this past October and I got pregnant a week later. Being in jail seemed to change him but I still worry that drinking, drugs, and stress from a newborn baby will make him leave again but one thing for sure I learned that my kids and I will be just fine with or without him and the same goes for you. It ***** when the other parent doesn't step up and you're left with a million questions but you can't live each day trying to answer questions that will probably never be answered. It's hard doing it alone but in the end, the bond with your baby will be enough to keep your head up. Just thought I'd share my story with you so you know you aren't alone. Sometimes peoples problems get in the way and sometimes people do change. Just worry about you and yours and let him be. Hopefully he gets the help he needs and hopefully he comes back around. It took jail time and treatment programs for my kids dad to straighten up but I do still have my worries and doubts that he will leave again. Keep ur head up girl

[Vins_Girl]

I'm so sorry that you are going thru all this. Unfortunately addicts are selfish in many ways. There is nothing you can do to change them either. The best thing you can do is raise your baby and shower your daughter with as much love as possible. You will always hold a place in your heart where you love her Kdaddy, but you have to realize what's best for the two of you. He may one day he able to be involved with you and her after regaining your trust but right now it's obvious he cant. Best of luck mommy.

[veronica_12]

My edvise is for u to leave things as they are he made it easier for u he left on his own he abandoned u and his baby so thats ur answer right there he obviously doesnt care for u and more importantly for his own child and ive been thru it all with my 4 kids father that thank god i left him and that bull ***** he told u that he was edvised to not have a relationship for a yr is just that bull who would edvise u to not be or see ur kid it sounds like he may be doin something on the side and for what or why do u want someone like that in ur life or ur kids life who abandoned u both like if u were nothing and who doesn't care for nothong but him swlf and his drugs u should just go on with ur life with ur baby u and ur baby come before anything before a man !!!!! Believw me it hurrs at first but after ur ganna say why didnt i leave him way before i left my kids dad after 12 ys and believe me i regret not leaving earlier he nothing to me now he doesnt even exsist to me its been almost 6 ys and he has never given me money for my 4 kids or helped me in any way he had his papers and everything legal here then he got into drugs and he got deported and then his fam was askin me for help so he could stay in the usa so the judge could see he had kids but hell no i didnt help him why would i help him when he made my life harder by abandoning my 4 kids so now hes not legal here and i dont regret not hwlping him because him staying here or not it wasnt going to make him help me out with the kids so if u wanna keep on putting up with his childish attitude its up to u he already showed u how much he doesnt care by abandoning u and ur baby what more do u need to make ur decision gd luck

[mrsp416]

For the sake of your child you need to stay away from him. He seems like a loose cannon and thats not safe for you or the baby. Drugs are the ruination of families and people in general. He doesnt seem like someone who will provide for your family either. I would change all your info and numbers move and stay away where he can not find you. He doesnt seem stable. Find someone who is clean a hard worker and a family man and start over. Praying for you

[Jonesy2015]

I wad left also. Mine wasn't doing drugs but just didn't want the child but told me a week before he found out that he wanted me the rest of his life. Now he doesn't because of the baby. I just left after he threatened me and I am so much better off. He did the same to me blocking me and getting rid of fb. It's fine because in December I will hit him with child support.