No Sex Drive :(

[Jessicavance94]

I feel so bad for my boyfriend because he always wants to have sex and I just can't bring myself to do it . I love my boyfriend to death and our sex is amazing but I just don't have any drive for it . I figure it's the pregnancy but he doesn't understand that and it's hard to explain to him

All I do is make him feel like it's his fault from trying to explain it and I feel so bad :( I don't want him to feel like that.

Any Advice of what I can tell him to make him feel better :(

[mjp0325]

Sometimes even when you don't have a drive, at least try. You're with him because you have an emotional connection and an obvious sexual connection since you are having a baby. When women become pregnant we tend to loose sight of the sexual connection (even though we find our significant other sexy.) If anything just plan a night for it. My sex drive is much like all of yours (and believe me but with a daughter turning 2 and finding out my place of employment will be shutting down 2 and 1/2months before baby is due..makes sex the farthest thing from my mind), but some nights I just set a plan and just start out by kissing and even if I'm not in the mood at the beginning, the kissing and groping certainly starts to help until I'm in the mood and then it turns into a wonderful long awaited night for the both of us.

[cindylee25]

Or if you think oral is gross you could just give him the ok to watch porn so he can take care of himself. At least then he won't be going without anything. Although some women are against porn too so...idk.

[cindylee25]

I went through that stage as well in my first trimester, then in my second it picked back up, and now in my third its slacked back off. I've just been doing lots of oral, that way he doesn't feel too deprived. I know some women think its gross/demeaning, but I find it makes me feel empowered. I guess its just your mindset, but I think its the least I can do for him.

[kbit1210]

I'm 38 weeks and haven't had a sex drive since about 8 weeks. I feel bad for my husband and at first he got a little frustrated thinking it was something he was doing but he's realized it just isn't there. Also now he's and little freaked out about the entire 8 pound baby inside me lol

[jessijlb1229]

I have zero sex drive as well. I find my husband extremely attractive and we've always been very active. But since I got pregnant I just haven't had any interest.  It started to really affect him. He felt like I didn't want him or find him sexy anymore.  I tried to explain that it's just my hormones and that I think he's as sexy as he's always been. He said he understands bur I could tell that even though he understood it didn't make him feel any better about the situation.  So now I just pleasure him every so often. It makes me happy to know that I'm making him feel good and showing him I still find him sexy.  I think how men feel about themselves is directly linked to sex/affection that you give them.

[Carliee7]

Im sorry /: I feel the same way with my boyfriend, ive also tried to explain to him but it is hard for them to understand, so I dont have any advice but you arent alone with that!