OMG!!!!!

[kays01]

So I just found messages from my two step younger sisters (20,17) saying horrible things about me. I've had problems with the 17yo for a while now, continuously fighting etc but the 20yo I THOUGHT I could trust. I blocked the 17yo from Fb so the 20yo sister has been screen shooting my Fb sending the 17yo pics of statuses I put up that they think are about her and sending them to there mum. They've purposely put statuses up to anger me and see if I retaliate  (I've seen there private msgs) saying watch this I'll say blah blah and then checking to see if write anything. My 20yo sister knew i wanted a girl and when I told her I was she msgd the 17yo and wrote god dam she's having a girl I wanted her to have a boy. So many other mean things!! What should I do?

[RockRose]

sorry if I misunderstood,  Kays.    When you wrote this:

" the 20yo sister has been screen shooting my Fb sending the 17yo pics of statuses I put up that they think are about her", I assumed the statuses were negative.  I can't imagine them taking offense at things that are sweet and positive,  if they thought it was about them.

Best wishes.

[kays01]

One of the 20yo friends who im also friends with regularly uses her account and saw the nasty msgs they wrote. I guess she felt bad and felt like i needed to know. I never thought in a million years my 20yo sister would do such a thing as we've been extremely close. I guess we never know someone as much as we think aye!? Thank you ladies for your input. Definitely focusing on my pregnancy and family (loyal ones lol)

[kays01]

@rock rose

Not ONCE have I made a "cutting remark,nor provoked any of the unnecessary and hurtful remarks from them! If I did, then I definitely wouldn't have written up this post. I've blocked them both and deactivated my Fb account for a while. I spoke to the 20yo and she tried to deny it all (I have the msgs they wrote to each other so i have proof) no point trying to reconcile atm if she's still lying. Oh well.

[specialmom]

And I hope I don't sound like I'm blaming you are being negative to you.  I'm sorry they have let you down.  They are step sisters, maybe wicked ones but don't play around with them.  good luck

[specialmom]

Oh boy.  The silliness of facebook.  I hate that place . .  .  I've seen it used in such rotten ways.  Why are you so concerned?  Move on.  How did you read their messages?  Rise above this silliness.  You are about to become a mother.  

The only way people like this keep it going on is if you play along with them.  Bow out of the fight, don't act mad, and just leave it alone.  This is petty nonsense.  

I'm not necessarily faulting you but do think you should turn facebook down a notch in your book that it has this kind of power over you.  And the same with them,  Family feuds s uck the life out of you.  Just give this all a rest and rise above.  Go to your happy place and forget about it.  good luck  

[RockRose]

It sounds like you are putting cutting remarks on your status,  and they are misunderstanding who you are referring to because you are unclear.

First,  cut out all the negativity on your own page.  Never post something cutting about someone else,  and then they can't misunderstand and get hurt.

I have a SIL who posts crap all the time like "I guess you find out who your friends are".  "I guess it doesn't matter how much you do for some people,  they're just never grateful".  "Take this quiz.  I get "forever loyal".  Wish I could say the same thing about some people in my life".  Honestly?  It's too much.  

So in the future,  just post positive things they can't misunderstand are negative about you.

And move on.  Maybe check facebook for 3 minutes in the morning.  Find something to "like" on their page every day,  and be done with the drama.

[hannahpm13]

Block them and don't let them get to you. That's all they want anyway. If they act that way toward you and say things about your baby, by no means should you let them have the privilege of seeing your baby girl or knowing anything about her.. Your daughter is worth more than that and if they are doing this to you, they will probably be ugly to her too when she's older. I have family like that too and there's no way I'm letting them near my baby girl.

[lindashalee]

Just block them both and don't worry about it. That's immature and you don't need the stress. And when you think about it it's really sad they have nothing better to do than pick on you. Its called jealousy!!!

[mandajayne0333]

Im so sorry to hear thatbyou are going through this. Family is meant to be there for support not to aggravate you. :( if i was you i would just try to distance myself from them and not get involved in their bs as it seems like  they are trying  to upset you. Have you spoken to them or at least the older one to see why they are trying to make this a stressful experience for you? Just surround yourself with those who love  you and support you. Congrats on your little girl. Hope your sisters grow up and realisw that this is a special time for them as well, soon to be aunties  if they would just be more positive. Best wishes. Xx

[marindamqz]

Just cut them both off. Block them both, of they ask why, just ignore. They both know why, just get rid of them. You're an adult, no need to explain yourself to anybody. Seriously, don't say a thing