am I being pushy ?? help

[lizzieelizzz]

Hi .so I've been dating my boyfriend to about 1 yr. We've been on and off for about 3 yrs .. it's complicated I guess .. I just found out I'm pregnant a couple days after we moved in together so we moved out and moved into a little house my family is renting out for us . But one thing is . My family doesn't believe in move in and baby before marriage they expect marriage before all of what a going on .. so my boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married .. so that way we did it right and won't live in sin I guess you can say .. we went and looked at rings together and I told him km excited ... and he told me he feels like we're rushing I got kind of mad should I be mad ? Or am I being pushy?? What should I do ?

[jeadams17]

I'd say wait until your both know you're ready. I know I want to marry my boyfriend and I know he wants to marry me but I don't want us to get married solely because we're having a baby together. Make sure you two really love each other and marriage is what you both want. Don't just do it because you're having a baby or its what your parents want because ultimately, you're the one who will live with the consequences, not them.

[TayR93]

Hunny i wouldnt for sure say ur being pushy just bc women like the steadyness and stability in r lifes, but u r being kind of pushy with the fact that men r way more stubborn, plus he knows and u know ur just doing it to make ur family happy, DONT ever get married if its not 10000000000% what u and him want, and do not push him into it bc ur gonna end up making him feel cornered and trapped and hes gonna either end up leaving or cheating or trging to find a way to "breathe" my advice is just enjoy ur baby and c where the future leads u. Good luck Hun

[lizzieelizzz]

Thank you ladies ! Helped me  alot

[Danielleberger1]

My baby's father and I talked about marriage when I found out I was pregnant. I will say this, I'm glad I did not rush into a marriage with him. We were off and on for about 9 years but together for the longest amount of time for 2 years when I found out I was pregnant. He ended up having too many lies he told me. Not saying at all your man is like my now ex, but you need to let things stay how they are and not rush your relationship until both of you are ready for the next step, because you both need happiness and make sure that's the best thing for your relationship. Just because it's your family's value doesn't mean you need to have it be your relationships value right now.

[alexis444]

If he feels like your rushing it then you are being too pushy. Talking him into a marriage he is not ready for will but a lot of stress on your relationship and pregnancy. I have been with my hubby for 9 years after 5 years of dating we got pregnant and I wanted to get married so my very religious parents would accept us. He told me he wasn't ready I was so upset because I had bought a dress and was ready to get married. I was 19 at the time. He called off the wedding a week before because he wasn't ready. It has been 4 years and we are still together stronger than ever. We never got married and now have two beautiful boy's. One day we plan on it but I realize now that I wasn't ready and I knew that but wanted to please my parents. Look at your relationship and think about if marriage will stengethen it or if you still have issues to work out before then. Marriage dosnt fix relationships or make them easier. Maybe your bf wants to surprise you with a ring one day when he is ready.

[avasmommy19]

I don't think you're being pushy. But don't get married just because that's what your family expects before you have a baby.  They should be supportive either way. My advice ks to really sit down and talk about it before you rush into anything.  Like you said, you've been on again off again for three years. Make sure its something you both really want. :)