. just venting.

[valeriagee]

My "fiance and I feel like we are pushing each other away.  Ever since I found out I was pregnant we have been excited but he's now acting like he's single. Not taking to girls I don't think but he's out all day and never hands out with me.  I feeling like I'm doing this alone.  I don't want to lose gin but I feel like with my hormones I can get pretty emotional and I don't think he understands. I just want things to go back to what they use too:/ I didn't think a baby would change a person this much. Is it me that's pushing him away?? I want him all the time that when he's not here I get upset and kinda hold a grudge? ? I need some one to talk to...

[KTPM18]

My boyfriend was in complete denial during my first pregnancy. He was excited for all of the ultrasounds and cried when we found out the gender, but sometimes he would want me to go to my appointments alone and never really bought anything during my pregnancy for the baby. It wasn't until our daughter was born that he left the hospital for a few hours and finally got one of the Co sleeper beds! We have talked about it now and he said that he was really scared and didn't know what to expect but once she was born he immediately fell in love and has always wanted the best for me and her. It just takes time. Please be patient and I know it's upsetting, but this is a big change in his life too and will take some getting used to!

[AngelBaby2014AndExpecting2015]

I guess just try to relax and take it day by day. Don't focus to much on him and try to avoid arguments, that might help your time together. Sometimes it is best to walk away when things are turning into problems to avoid saying comments that you don't mean but say in the moment that make things worse. Just hang in there

[valeriagee]

That's true I just thought that he would enjoy be pregnant as much as I did but now that's he's like that I don't like being pregnant. I just want the baby here already so I can't keep busy with my baby. Hopefully by then it dosent get worse. He saids I act crazy so he removes himself away every time I act like that. He just walks off which isn't the best thing he should do but then I feel all stupid and crying cuz all I wanted to do was hangout. Then he's gone all day and leaves me at home. And dosent talk to me. Like this morning didn't bother to tell me bye and a kiss when he left for work. And I didn't make his lunch. This makes me so upset. I can't handle it sometimes grrr. What do I do??

[AngelBaby2014AndExpecting2015]

No problem my fiance at the time now husband was the same way. I think every guy goes through that little but of distancing them selves stage. Don't think to much into it. Becoming a parent is a huge life changing experience. My husband became more present when I had my first ultrasound. It almost became more real to him.

[valeriagee]

Thanks:) should find my own hobby.

[AngelBaby2014AndExpecting2015]

It's hormones for you and the idea of being a new parent for him. Hormones can make us feel think and do crazy things! Early pregnancy is tough in my opinion. But chin up focus on the baby coming and maybe look for a good book to start reading?