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Sorry another relationship issue
My boyfriend of 13 years, father to my four children and unborn child is really hurting me, for the last few weeks he has pretty much told me everyday he doesnt think our relationship is working and im not "satisfying" him etc etc...and today, and I know this sounds stupid, I found hes opened a new Facebook account and added a local girl he doesnt know and all her profile pictures are of her *** and boobies...it really hurt seeing this. I cant help but think is he looking for my replacement? Is he talking to other girls??... Iv never trusted him as he has done the dirty a few times, should I be worried?
Sorry to say but he is cheating on u. Or if he hasn't yet it's not cuz he doesn't want to but he is definitely trying to or like the guys here say he is working it so he gets some. That worse part is if he keeps it hidden from u it means that he just want to cheat on u (which is bad) but if he told u he wants out then he has a relationship with someone or wants to sleep around with many without having to hide it. Now he already told u how he feels n it's up to u if u want to deal with him cheating on u n keeping u on the side or to move on n start new. I work with nothing but males n they all tell me their cheating stories. It's amazing the lengths they go to to just cheat. There is one here that the wife is pregnant with 1st child n he is cheating with a girl he met during his diaper party. That is not even the 1st girl he cheats during her pregnancy.
Things that are toxic or bad for us are hard to be without moreso than positive things (we always notice the bad) but its just learning a new normal. And omg you can date! Imagine all the free coffee you can score!!!
Im glad at least one person understands my logic lol!.. Even if it is highly illogical! Jeeeez iv been with this guy since I was 16, im 29 now...I honestly cant imagine life without him. As much as hes a "word im not aloud to say here"... Its like losing an arm or leg :( I suppose the best thing to do is put this aside and concentrate on having a healthy pregnancy and staying sane for my children
LOL yes and that's a great way of putting it! But some machines you know will keep taking your money so better get away! It's like the most expensive chocolate, you know it'll make you sick and you'll regret the small fortune for the 3 minutes satisfaction but when you see it again you can't help yourself!!!
Just think how much money you're saving by walking away!
Just think how much money you're saving by walking away!
Thats incredibly helpful...iv never looked at it that way before. The best way I can explain my predicament is my relationship is like a gambler and a fruit machine, iv put so much money in but never win, and each time I go to leave I think, no, iv put too much money in what if the next go is my big win!.. Does that make sense lol
Completely understandable but part of being human is seeing potential in people and holding out hope (sometimes false) that others will be the people they can be. But sometimes you just have to let go and realise this is his issue and no longer needs to be yours. You gave him a great shot, that's all you can do and don't beat yourself up about seeing the good in someone.
One thing I always remind myself of is that the best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour unless the person has seeked actual help and shown true remorse, if not then that's their issue not mine. Still hurts though!
One thing I always remind myself of is that the best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour unless the person has seeked actual help and shown true remorse, if not then that's their issue not mine. Still hurts though!
Thanks for the advice ladies. Im not worried about being alone as a parent, I just meant I am alone in the sense I dont have anyone to turn to for advice or just a shoulder to cry on. Iv always been a lone parent, even whilst together with him. He has never paid for them, never paid for himself neither, I care for all of them and I already know my full potential and in a strange way, his lack of everything has given me strengh I never knew I had...I know it sounds pathetic, I just thought if I stuck it out long enough, he would stop the nonsense and we would be the family unit I am so desperate for. The positive side is I know I can manage without as I do so already. I could kick myself for falling for his lies over and over I dont know what im more disappointed with, him or myself!
Sorry but his not worth it if he did it once his gonna keep doing it you should worry about you and your kids its not easy but you really need someone who can support both you and your kids god bless.
You are likely better off without him. Why would you want to stay with someone who treats you like that? Things might be hard at first but they will get better. Relationships are a two way street not a highway and a bike path. You both have to put equal effort into it...and if he's not willing to do that after 13 years then you're kind of wasting your time. You'll find someone much better!
Im so sorry to hear that your going through this.... but coming from a family where my parents are always arguing on a daily really takes a toll on me and my other siblings who had to grow up with a unhappy family setting... and im not sure if you two do the same. . . Maybe being separated is for the best. It should be your children first. Who knows maybe you might find someone better. Better for you and your children. You dont need a man like that. Stay strong.
Honestly you need to be happy and it seems as thou he's hurting you more than making you happy you have 3 kids and 1 on the way you have to put them first and think about what's right you wouldn't want your kids to grow up and do the things he's doing to women/men. My baby's are more important to me than my man mucking around on me.
Tell him that how you really feel, tell him how much that hurts you & how much your sorry for not being able to please him more but have him understand that you are tired & you feel like it, you'll make it up to him but for now to understand you're pregnant with ANOTHER one of HIS kids!! He should know how sensitive us pregnant women get, I wish you two the best of luck & I really hope you guys work things out. Just try to have him listen to you
Time to do things for you maybe? Look at it as a fresh start where you're in control of who you are and who you want to be? Do you really want someone who treats you with so little respect? How's that modelling a healthy relationship for your children. Being alone isn't bad, its great to be able to realise your full potential and be in control.
I did do, and he turned it around and ended things with me :( im so confused right now. I feel like im just hurting constantly and I dont have anyone at all...I have gave my whole life to him and to try and make it work, I just dont know what to do anymore..
If he's cheated before and is adding girls on a new fb account then yeah I'd be a little worried. You should confront him about it.
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