WHYYYY???? SOMEONE EXPLAIN?

[mama2bwit2]

Why are men such ******* when women are pregnant? Like alot of stories ive read on here my baby dad is a ******* like he is mean and un sensitive. And acts like im a horrible person because im a hormonal reck. Seems like alot of wemon I talk to or read about in there stories the childs father acts like a p.o.s (piece of ****) I dont understand it. Maybe one of you laddies has a answer for me because at this point im ready to end my relationship I am 35 weeks friday and ive had enough

[remar]

Just my opinion, and we all have one. I agree with what the above posters said. Many young people are not growing up with role modals. We're in to our second and third generation of it being alright and accepted to be intimate before marriage. Many people are not stable with having an education, a car, a place of their own and money in the bank before they have children. Yes, many young people make great parents. I think children should see their parents married whenever possible. It shows the child the parents love each other and made sure they were stable with their lives before having children. Raising a child is the hardest job anyone will ever have. I know because my husband and I raised our own daughter.
Anyway, it's sad to read these stories about young people struggling and the fathers not wanting to step up and be a good father like they should be.

[mama2bwit2]

Im glad im not the only one going threw this with there partner

[mama2bwit2]

Well the sex thing not true in my case because me and my fiance dont have sex!!! We havent had sex in over a month he wants to but I tell him why am I going to have sex with someone who treats me the way he does. I love him beyond compare buy he has changed since I got pregnant like I said I hope things go back to normal once this Baby is born

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree that an unintended consequence of the "Summer of Love" attitudes and mindset (where women tossed off their shackles and took charge of their own orgasms and all of those wonderful idealistic theories) is that a whole lot of women are pretty much being bamboozled by horndog males who have taken advantage of the change of attitude about people being able to have sex, and are now demanding sex without having to take any responsibility.  Unfortunately the change of attitude about whether "nice" girls can have sex has not been accompanied by wage parity, so the girls still can't get living-wage jobs to go along with their sexual freedom.  Too bad, the idea originally was that it was all part of a bigger package to empower women, and now all that has happened is that women are left holding the bag, and in a world of deteriorated values to boot.  But there is nothing to say the woman has to act like a bimbo from the 1940s, trying to latch onto a man for her survival.  And part of that is saying no to bad relationships before they even get sexual.  But, as you say, a lot of girls are raised in families where good role models of respectful male-female relationships don't exist.  Where are they going to learn to value themselves as more than the sum total of their appearance and their sex appeal?  Not from models in popular culture.  It's sad.

[RockRose]

I agree,  the lack of respectable male behavior has lots of causes,  one of them being lack of role models.   Young people who didn't grow up in a stable intact home are likely to say it's not necessary,  they didn't have it and they turned out just fine.  Never having any idea that they have a huge hole in their psyche.  

I do think you could find a clear correlation with families who have lifelong marriages,  having children who grow up,  marry,  have children and begin lifelong marriages.  

You repeat what you saw as a child.

But I'm still shaking my head at how MANY women are willing to put up with the most disrespectful hurtful cheating abusive behavior,  and if they're done with the guy there's a girl standing in the wings ready to have sex with him.  

I could go on forever.  I just so often feel like saying honey,  who gave you the impression you are a piece of meat and don't deserve respect?

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, it certainly is true that if sex were not available from women, men would do whatever they had to do to get it, including commit, get married, be decent.  But I don't think that women's willingness to continue to be booty calls for men who treat them badly is the primary reason men misbehave, it starts lots earlier.  Men misbehave because they don't have any brakes on their misbehaving behavior, but those brakes used to come from society in general and male role models (such as fathers) in particular.  They don't, now, very much.  Movies tend to celebrate men acting like overgrown kids and getting whatever they want with no costs, dads are often absent or not role models, and moms don't think they can affect how their boys act.  In other words, society has many fewer role models for principled behavior that boys grow up admiring or respecting.  It does finally come down to the women they sleep with to sort of hold the line for a whole group of people that has not stepped up, but that is often pretty late for a selfish guy to learn the lesson.

[RockRose]

I think plain and simple,  men misbehave because women allow them to do whatever they want,  and still give them sex.

If women wouldn't give them sex if they were jerks,  they'd behave better.

I really can't believe the number of women who are willing to be booty calls for men who have 3 kids by other women and CLEARLY don't have any intention whatsoever of supporting them or even being decent to them.  

[AnnieBrooke]

Sadly, a lot of women on here write in that they are pregnant and their guy has simply not stepped up, or even worse, acted like a bratty and self-indulgent teenager, or simply left.  I don't know why men do it and especially why they get away with it.  Too many women are afraid to rock the boat, I guess, even when the boat is lousy and full of holes.  It is pretty sad commentary on the state of males and the definition of a man in this world, to me.

[miggy03112015]

My boyfriend thinks i can still party with him like wtf no.buddy I'm only 22weeks but he thinks i enjoy being around drunk stupid people i finally let him have it and told him he better be there for me cuz i am pregnant and not trying to party!!!

[kelley_bump]

Me and my husband just had a huge argument about him not helping out and how rough it is on me having to do everything myself and be 36 weeks pregnant i hope i got threw to him!

[mama2bwit2]

Btw thank you laddies this app had helped me so much with being able to talk to other wemon who understand what im going threw

[mama2bwit2]

Btw thank you laddies this app had helped me so much with being able to talk to other wemon who understand what im going threw

[mama2bwit2]

My fiance was amazing before I got pregnant he rubbed my back more beofre I got pregnant now he is just a freaking jerk I dont understand it I hope hw goes back to his old self after this baby is born momtoscarlett my fiance says all those same hurtful things and I just dont understand it I really dont. But I cant take to much more of him treating me like this i only have 38 days left so ima try and stick it out till my lil man is here and if things dont go back to normal then I know it qas not meant to be.

[jessijlb1229]

When they are *** holes before you get pregnant then they most likely will be that way during.

[jessijlb1229]

Mine has been absolutely amazing threw everything.  He is very understanding and helpful. I guess it just depends on what kinda man he is to begin with. I think the pregnancy just emphasizes what kinda man they truly are. (It shows their true colors)

[Stephanien24]

Mine has actually been surprisingly wonderful during this pregnancy. Yea sometimes he'll be annoyed with me but I seriously can't blame him right now. Lol

[melzie182]

Its unfortunate but guys dont feel anything about it untill they actually see the child, my partners the same.. anytime i complain about pain and uncomfortablity he's just like"so?".
Its something we all have to put up with because men dont have the capability to understand

[momtoscarlett]

My boyfriend is the same damn way. I get so angry that he isnt sensitive to the fact that im carrying a baby, he says well i do hard labor so being pregnant cant be that bad, and im like i work and i am carrying a baby. It makes me so angry. They just don't understand bc its not them that have to go through this, he even tells me i shouldnt get the epidural bc ill have back pain later on in life and that im gonna regret it and i get so angry bc hes not the one having to push out this baby hes not the one having to feel any of it. He just gets to stand there and watch. Idk why guys are like that but i wish they could just understand this **** isnt easy!