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When do i tell him?

Hi guys so this is very difficult i am pregnant with my exs baby and he is sorta with another woman and i kno he is not gonna be happy, we have been thru this before a few years ago and i ended up having a MC so i don't kno when or if to tell him!  Help!
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Hi. you are saying that he will happy after knowing about your pregnancy. Ss just check out his mood and tell him. Good luck :)
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I would wait until the second trimester if you were going to tell him at all. Make sure you have your plan ready. Are you going to keep the baby or put up for adoption. Do you want him involved, do you want to put him on the birth certificate etc men handle news better when everything is already set. Good luck mama it gets easier <3
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I am in my second trimester, I did tell him, it didn't go over well at all!  I am keeping the baby for sure, I would like him involved but his new gf won't really allow that!  Thank u for the advice  
If he wasn't ready for a baby then he sure have used a condom. He had to know if no birth control was being used it can result in a pregnancy. He has a responsibility to this baby no matter what his girlfriend says. He'll have to pay child support but some guys will not work just so they won't have to pay child support. Or, they'll work for cash. I think that's terrible because a child should not go without things it needs. If it were me, I would tell him to think about his baby. It does need both a mother and father in it's life and it will need things like food, diapers, clothing and so on. You're both responsible for half of the child's needs.
Can I ask why you weren't using birth control? It's so easy to get these days. There are clinics in most every town where you can get birth control for free.
I know everyone says a baby is a blessing, and they are. But, if you're not ready, not in a stable relationship, the father isn't happy, then the child can end up suffering, and so can you. Try your best not to argue with him about this because that will get you no where. When the baby is born fill out the paper work for child support and set up supervised visitation. At least until the baby is older. I really hope everything works out for you.  
I meant to say, he should have used a condom, not sure. Sorry about that.
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