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[abcde12344]

So last night my partner said to me because I didn't want sex etc I was thinking of leaving you because you don't want sexual l activity anymore it's my fault your even pregnant I was just going to leave and say nothing I'm so hurt and upset by it because I'm 35 weeks I don't know how to talk to him about it because it just makes me so upset and I don't want him to know how much he's upset me.but I feel like he doesn't want our daughter or me what should I do or even say to him

[RockRose]

Why don't you want him to know how much it upsets you that he wants to leave?  

That's a mistake,  to pretend you don't care.  It's a life-ruining mistake.  He's probably pretending he doesn't care either,  which is also a mistake.  

Say,  "I love you so much and I hope you don't leave,  that would kill me.  I don't feel sexual right now because I'm huge pregnant.  I love you.  Please don't leave".  

Best wishes.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Wow, really sorry for his attitude and hurtful words.  Do remember that sometimes people rattle of some kind of inflammatory remark such as "I am going to leave you" or "I want a divorce" when they really don't, they are just mad.  Not a great way to deal with anger!

What is hard is if you two were not on that level of relationship before the pregnancy in which it was for better or for worse--  where you'd declared yourself forever partners that will be there through the difficult times for each other.  When a couple has had those discussions and are at that level, they understand that maybe there is a barrier to sex currently (being far into a pregnancy) and that being with their partner is more important than their own needs.  

Had you two ever had those deep discussions about what a committed relationship means to him?  

Now, I will say that sometimes men do have needs and we can fulfill them in other ways besides intercourse.  :>)  Is there anything else you can do that will please your partner?  

[mags242001]

In a good relationship u need to talk to him. Ur gonna have to have talks that make him upset whether u want them or not. The key is talking abt everything.  Now I know that some women don't get a sex drive during pregnancy but u have to consider his needs also. 9 months is a long time and he wants to be intimate with u cause he loves u. That is one way that ppl feel that u love them back and share something special. I in the other hand am upset with my husband cause he doesn't want sex as much as I do. It pisses me off n yes I have consider leaving him cuz of it. Cuz I don't feel loved by him. And he gives me some stupid **** like I just want to cuddle and be with u. But to me that is not enough. I love him so much but I also need him to touch me n be intimate with me or I go crazy.

[Mamaofdeux]

If that was me I would have snapped. There's more to life than sex and obviously things are going to change with a baby in the picture now! I think you should talk to him and explain your feelings and tell him how hurt you are. He sounds like he's being really selfish.

[brightstart]

If it was me I would let his butt go smh you dnt need anyone in your life that's not supportive