babies father issues

[HeatherNichole0713]

So my babies dad doesn't want anything to do with the child. Do you think I should still try to have him in the babies life? My current boyfriend already claims the baby as his own and does everything for me and that baby. So what's your thought on having the sperm doner in the babies life??

[RockRose]

You need to make some decisions about child support.  

If your new boyfriend turns out to be a permanent relationship,  and accepts your child as his,  then I think it would be wise to legally get the baby's biological father out of the picture legally.  

Since you really don't know at this point how this will turn out because the relationship is new I would keep the options open for taking him to court for child support.

[HeatherNichole0713]

Well the only way I could get ahold of him was threw Facebook. He's in Pennsylvania and I'm back in Florida. Today he blocked me on Facebook so that just shows how big of a "man" he really is.

[misseoctober]

Yes please dear do not force him,his not worth it. I am in the same predicument. Father told me he would think if he wants to render his support to my child,and the kind of woman I am I wont walk after him. I have been humiliated infront of friends & family after being in a 5 year r.ship with him. But I can promise you one thing today he will come & beg for your forgiveness and when he sees you happy with your child he's going to beg you to be part of it and I would suggest you say no!!!!!....with regarding your current boyfriend im happy that u have a solid support structure but dont make him your main priority jst bec u are feeling loney throughout your pregnancy. So ya focus on yourself and ur babys health,do ur hair,nails & feet on a regular basis ,have friends around you,laugh rejoice about the gift god has given you,take this time to grow closer to your family & jst b happy:-)

[ejsmama17]

I would do some kind of legal actions and get the doner to sign away his rights or at least draw up some kind of document and have it signed and notarized. You don't have a legal custody battle that will be hard your child. The three of you need figure out what is going to work and what isn't.

[clairwin]

You cant forse him to be involved as sad as it is. Sounds like your new parner will be the father figure. It takes a big man to be a dad, anyone can make a baby! My eldest doesnt see her biological dad and shes 17. She has a dad who i met when she was 9 months old and even tho we split 3 years ago he will always be there for her. Good luck

[HeatherNichole0713]

Thank you. That's what I was thinking but some people think the real father should be there.

[nabilahazrul]

If he doesnt want to be in your baby's life then dont force him into it. Why make it even more complicated when your current boyfriend already loves your baby as if the baby is his. A child doesnt need to know what guy made him/her. She/he just needs a dad to love and care for them and be the man they need. If the kid asks about his/her real father,let it be when they're grown up and old enough to think. But for now,let the kid have a real childhood with a dad who loves him/her. Thats just my opinion