boyfriend/baby daddy advice please

[natduck13]

Okay I'm 15 weeks pregnant me and my boyfriend been seeing each other since February (we've been friends off and on for 5 years). My boyfriend (baby daddy) he left to go to the air force in May I found out a week after he left I was pregnant. Long story short he wanted me to get an abortion but I've had one before and couldn't do it again anyway he eventually accepted what I agreed to he said he would be there for me as much as he could. I'm trying to understand it takes time for men to get excited about the baby sometimes don't even hit them till the baby is born but every time I bring the baby up he immediately changes the subject or don't answer me it breaks my heart I just want to feel that he cares but sometimes I feel like I'm over reacting I don't want to smother him but I want to talk to him about everything any suggestions? Do you think he's gonna stick around or leave? Should I talk to him about how I'm feeling? The last time I said something a little bit about it he just said give it time

[slpprp]

with my first baby my boyfriend was the same way didn't really understand why I was the only excited one about having a baby once our baby girl was here he changed and she was the most important person in his life now we are pregnant again with another little girl and he's super excited give him time maybe he will come around

[areal10]

He might be changing the subject cause he's in a situation where he didnt want to have the baby. You had said he wanted you to get an abortion. He may even feel guilty for telling you to do that. I would ask him but for the most part plan on being the only emotionally involved parent in your baby's life.

[savvyjewel]

Oh and if he decides he doesn't want to be there for you and take care of his baby well then he doesn't deserve you or baby anyway.

[savvyjewel]

No your not over reacting. Yes you should definitely continue to talk to him about it. You are Exactly right it does take time for the men to get excited and I'm sure that is the case especially since he is away and was away when you found out.. and doesn't get to see you. Send him pics of your baby bump keep him posted on all your doc apt. So he cannot distance himself from it. He's gonna be a daddy and once he sees that gorgeous baby that you were able to give him he should have a respect love and bond with you and baby that will never go away. Good luck and hang in there.

[maw4389]

Talking with him about how you're feeling would be a good start.