what is wrong with guys?

[saramay2014]

I was havin a great time with my boyfriend yesterday n he went threw his phone n i caught a good look when he tryed to exit out of a page full of porn. I got pissed of corse and he said he didnt see nothing wrong with it, he was like it dont mean anything.. well its disrespectful as **** and hurt my feelings really bad. I consider that cheating i mean looking at another nakid woman pleasing ur self.... really? Especialy with me being all pregnant.. makes me feel fat and unattractive. The other day he told me he dont need to look at porn (i thought he was and its clear now he was) that i was all he needs.. really hurt me him doing that... sigh

[Jodiieeeee93]

How earth can you compare it to watching child porn?!
That's absolutely disgusting, and to think that child porn and regular porn have anything in common, well I can't even begin to understand where you'd get that comparison from!!!

Maybe its just the religion thing, I don't know as I'm not religious and I'm not about to slate people that are.

But by telling your partner that you don't want them to watch porn doesn't mean they'll stop, they'll end up doing it in secret which will end up resulting in more arguments.

[no2comingsoon]

For one religion has nothing to do with it.
Its just men , my other half watched it from time to time but now he doesnt.. i ask him to watch it with me!!!
Maybe watch some with him & explore each others bodies again.
Its not cheating at all.

[Milenko6606]

I don't see it as cheating, i would rather him watch porn than to be out cheating with another woman. I watch porn and my boyfriend knows about it and doesn't care, maybe you should chill out and watch it with him.

[mortica]

My boyfriend was addicted to porn until I aaked him what if our daughter caught him watching it at home. I think of it as cheating because if he can look at another woman naked then surely he's capable of doing something more? He's came off it for a few months now but there's always a thought at the back of my mind thinking is he doing it behind my back again? Probably didn't help matters that I threatened to leave him lol

[loveYou4Ever11]

I like porn too, hell if my bf were to ask me to watch it with him i would. I wouldnt necessarily compare it to child porn because theses are grown men and women that do what we do everyday..except we're not doing it on camera

[Jennyleigha]

*past

[Jennyleigha]

I have no problem with it. Watch it myself. Easier then the sex and moving my belly out of the way of real sex. Quick n easy. No attraction to anyone I will ever meet in life pay the moment.

[EliannaMelis]

Pornography Affects the Mind and Causes Sin

Here is a definition about the origin of the word pornography:

The Meaning of Pornography

Sexual addictions specialist, Dr. Victor Cline (2002), describes the origin and meaning of the word "pornography":

The word 'pornography' comes from the Greek words 'porno' and 'graphic' meaning 'depictions of the activities of ******'.... In common parlance [or, phraseology], it usually means 'material that is sexually explicit and intended primarily for the purpose of sexual arousal....' (¶ 4)

Rory Reid, sexual compulsions specialist, extends this meaning: "Pornography is any visual or written medium created with the intent to sexually stimulate. If the work was not intended to stimulate but nevertheless causes sexual arousal in an individual, it constitutes pornography for that person. If you find yourself asking whether a work is pornographic, the question itself suggests the material makes you uncomfortable. That should be enough to tell you to avoid it" (2005, 47). (Use and Harms of Pornography. http://foreverfamilies.byu.edu/Article.aspx?a=140 viewed 08/25/13)

Notice some statements in the Bible from Jesus and the Apostle Paul:

27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’  28 But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (Matthew 5:27-28)

18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.  (1 Corinthians 6:18)

Jesus and the Apostle Paul are warning against attempting to provoke, stir up, or mentally succumb to sexual lust. They are condemning pornography, including dressing inappropriately (see also 1 Timothy 2:8-9).

Notice some passages from the Old Testament as well:

12 Were they ashamed when they had committed abomination?
No! They were not at all ashamed,
Nor did they know how to blush. (Jeremiah 8:12)

26 Therefore I will uncover your skirts over your face,
That your shame may appear. 
27 I have seen your adulteries
And your lustful neighings,
The lewdness of your harlotry,
Your abominations on the hills in the fields. (Jeremiah 13:26-27)

[cassie492]

And maybe he got bored of the old material? It isn't you. He just wants a new thing to look at. Men are weird.

[cassie492]

You know, it seems so gross and disrespectful. I get it. But men are visual and sometimes need to relieve themselves when women aren't avaliable. It doesn't mean he's cheating. Hell, you can even watch it with him. It's not the girl (there are too many, trust me!), it's the actual act of having sex that he's enjoying. Men aren't as gifted with making scenarios up like women are. I mean, have you ever heard of a male romance novel or Fifty Shades of Ms. Gray? It's because they need "inspiration". Don't fret unless you see another woman's phone number.

[Sass508]

He might do it regardless of how you feel, and the fact that its not allowed make make him want to do it even more, unfortunately. If you can, try and change the way you view it. Think about the reasons why he might get the ideas to start looking at it. he's probably sitting at home, bored and starts thinking to himself " maybe I can take my mind off of being bored by getting off"

[JamieNVance]

And a lot of us compare ourselves to that unrealistic image*

[JamieNVance]

Some women think its ok, they expect less out of their men. I expect my man to be faithful to me not just physically but mentally as well. It does hurt when your man would rather masturbate to porn than have sex with you. Unfortunately being pregnant it happens to us wome more often. Its not fair that we are bearing their children yet they want to look at picture perfect women that a lot of ud are going t

[plumpandpreggo1989]

It is a form of cheating, even Jesus said that if you look on another woman to lust you have committed adultery in your heart. That's why it still hurts that a man would do that. People act like it's OK, because most guts do. Well if most guys were looking at child porn, would that make it OK? I'd tell your man that you expect more from him. He'll stop if he really loves you, mine did.

[candilynn24]

I know what you are feeling. I caught my husband watching porn and masturbating as well. It hurt bc I'm feeling really unnatrractive right now. I don't understand why he feels the need to do this, its not like I am denying him sex. He just doesn't seem to want to have sex with me anymore, he would rather masturbate. I think that's what hurts the most.

[Jodiieeeee93]

I doubt you'll find many men that don't watch porn...a lot of women watch it too!

[loveYou4Ever11]

I rather my bf look at porn then actually physically cheat on me..id make a joke abt it if i ever caught my bf..lol

[ShalaneMarie]

I see nothing wrong with a man watching porn if it's not an obsession. I mean from time to time it's ok. I buy my husband porn occasionally. Sometimes we watch it together and I know sometimes he may watch it alone. But all in all I am the only woman who he goes to bed with. I let him play his fantasies that I won't pay take in with his imagination. I find it harmless.

[saramay2014]

The thing is he has tones of pictures of me... videos.... i let him take thoes a long time ago so he wouldnt watch other women. Yet he still does it :( weve been together 4 almost 5 years, it makes me feel like he wants other women more than me.. especialy now

[jackie52615]

I dont see it as cheating. Most guys do it. I do feel the need to ask questions sometimes as why he watches it but I dont really care. I understand where ur coming from tho.

[saramay2014]

I dont go looking at other men why should he be able to look at another woman!

[saramay2014]

Comfortable about my boyfriend whos suposed to be faithful to me looking at other women yea right

[nuevamami_21]

I know how you feel but you shouldn't feel like that. I feel ugly and fat too but it's just your hormones.  I just watch it with my boyfriend it doesn't bother me. I don't know how you would feel about watching it with him but it'll probably make you feel a little more confortable