hubby wants to go out of town

[hennababy1]

So I'm 39 weeks pregnant, this baby can come anytime now and he wants to go out of town for some seminar, does that even make any sense to anyone right now? I'm a FTM and I have no idea how to even talk to him right now. If I say no dont go I'm going to seem selfish,  and if I say yes and I go into labor how I'm going to handle that? Just venting ladies

[keaanddan03]

I say let him go... play super sweet. If he is late to the birth or misses it then you have years of free passes! If you ever want something and he says no, you can be like "remember when you were late to our baby's birth because of a seminar?"

Btw I know this is bad advice, I'm just being fiesty :-)

[wyattsmom2015]

You being a first time mom you may not even know you are in labor until he does not have Time to get there. I only had strong contractions for just a few hrs. I was lucky my water broke or I might not have made it to the hospital. Most women don't have their water break on its own. I think you are right and he should just stay right there with you.

[chloegc1023]

Yea, I agree with Alid, if he's only a couple hrs drive out of town, then I would consider that and make sure he returned asap if the time came and u went into labor.  Get more details and figure how important this seminar is.  Also, if it's something that will advance his career and it's not offered all the time, then I would consider that as well.  I'm sure u guys will agree on something.  Goodluck!!

[RockRose]

What do you mean by "out of town"?  Is he driving there,  and can be back in 3 hours?  If that's the case,  he can be back well before the baby comes.

If he's flying and can't get back for 12,  it's highly likely he'll miss his baby's birth.

[alid32]

It depends? How far away is it?  An hour or more than that? Is it a day conference or would he be gone overnight? I would take all that into account first. Either way you aren't being selfish- you are nervous about the unknown (even a seasoned mom would be feeling some anxiety). Just talk to him about it.

[1NAMILLION]

Selfish. ..ha....you need to tell him "h3ll no" that he can't go and if he even entertains the idea of going any further, clearly you know who the selfish one is. His interest in this trip should be non existent given your current state.

Congrats on baby and best wishes!

[Angie2906]

Oh no...he better stay with you...I would let him know!!! This is a wonderful time and you need him there