NEED FEMALE ADVICE!!

[TyroneMommy]

So i'm 28 weeks pregnant &'d when i first found out i was pregnant i told my baby daddy! The first thing he told me was he wanted me to have an abortion since he already have 7 kids! I told him no so we broke up with each other! So when i found out what i was having i text him &'d told him we was having a baby boy! He replied back with i hope you and that thing die! Every since i been pregnant he been treating me like ****! If you was in my shoes would you forgive him and let him be in your child life! Or would you just put him on child support &'d move on! Don't get me wrong i do want my son to have his dad in his life but all this pain he has put me through i just don't know what to do i'm confused! Everyday i want to break down and cry cuz he doing this to me &'d his son! But i know i have to stay strong  for my son!  Someone please give me some advice!

[TyroneMommy]

If i knew he had 7 kids i wouldn't of never slept w/ him he lied to me and said he didn't have kids! I had to find out when i got pregnant through his family members! Std i'm clean i don't have anything i got checked for every thing so i'm not walking around w/ anything! &'D i could care less if he don't want to provide my child can i know i can &'d i will give my son the world! Why would i give my son up for adoption that's out of the question! I know with me having faith with the man above &'d my supporting family my son &'d i are good! Thanks for y'all lil opinions but some of them was a lil bit too much!

[LoveCake98]

Agree with other posters--there's no question here about him being a part of your child's life.  He already told you clearly that he's not going to be.  You are the one struggling with what you want--not him.  He knows what he wants and he did not and does not want a child or you.  You need to move on and figure this out on your own.  He has been crystal clear but you're not getting it.  Seriously consider adoption/open adoption if you are unable to provide for your child.

[Chima7]

Did you know about his other 7 kids before you got together with him? I'm curious. Because if I knew that info about a guy, that would've been a huge, major, flashing neon sign right in my face saying - Run - Run away!  Did you not see this as an eventual outcome, given his past history?

Does he even have a job? How much does he get paid? You'll be lucky if you see any child support because he already has 7 other kids in line ahead of yours that would get something before yours would.

I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for him to change his mind to be a model father. He has proven repeatedly with the 7 other kids that he just wants to have tons of unprotected sex but doesn't want to take any responsibility for becoming a dad. Speaking of which, he is likely carrying any number of STDs and you should get yourself a full STD checkup to make sure he didn't infect you with anything. You'll be lucky if you escape this situation with not having gotten infected from a male bimbo like him.

[specialmom]

Well, what do you mean?  Unless I missed something, he's not wanting anything to do with you and the child.  Which I am very sorry about but this seems to be the situation.  Hope you and that thing die is pretty clear he isn't interested in being a daddy or anything else to the two of you.

Is he trying to be involved with the baby?  I'm guessing no.  And he's not going to.  He's got 7 other kids (not a great man for you to have a child with . . .   wish you'd seen that as the red flag that it is) and doesn't want this number 8.  

I'd put him on child support knowing you aren't going to get much money--  his ONE income is split between 8 kids and himself.  You will probably get just our state minimum payment.  So, make sure you have a back up plan for money/support.  

But I'd put him on support and know that you will probably never hear a peep from him after.  He's made it clear he wants nothing to do with this.  And I don't think that will change.  

I'm very sorry for you and your son having that hole in your lives.  PICK QUALITY MEN from now on.  good luck

[10Angels]

Its also kinda obvious he's a dropkick father....7 kids already!!

[10Angels]

He's a LOSER!!!!! You and your son don't need a prick like that in your lives,  I agree with Aprilmommy...keep the txs and take is sorry donkey to court for full custody and child support.

[TyroneMommy]

Thanks ladies i really needed that!

[ExcitedAprilMommy]

Personally i would keep every text like that, that he sends you and take his sorry *** to court for child support. thats not right at all, im sorry he is doing this to you.

[Nduckie]

If he's not even trying to make an effort to be in his child's life then get child support. From what you said it sounds like he doesn't want any part of the child's life, that could change over time but the guy just sounds like he wants out and isn't asking for forgiveness

[Mommy2be208]

Omg I'm so sorry hunny, if I was you I wouldn't let him be in his life ! Your child doesn't need a bad dad like him who doesn't love him or ever wish he was alive. I know many other single mom's who go thru this all by themselves and do such a great job!! I know you would love to have him he's life life because we feel our kids need them but hey if he's been an a hole bad dad your child doesn't need him or feel unwanted later on when he grows up. Put his *** on child support thou get he's miserable self help you out. I wish you and your baby nothing but the best and honey you will make it thru without that idiot!