boyfriend problem...

[janellemassy]

I really dnt kno if its just me or if what im scared of happening is an actual possibility. I need some advice. So me n my bf live with my family which also means my sister who is only a yr younger. Sometimes i feel like he ditches me to hang out with her. Like i will be waiting forever bc he will say hes going to get some food and i will just wait forever (sometimes ovr an hr) i will finally get up to see what hes doing and he will be hanging out in the livingroom with my sis by themselves. And he knows i get upset at them spending so much time with

[janellemassy]

I dnt have a problem with my sister its just ive never been really the emotional type i just dont really tell my family alot of things and i just felt bad abt even thinking it in the first place but i just couldnt get it out of my head. Normally i wouldnt really have a problem talking to her tho i just ddnt really believe tht anything was actually going on but just ddnt like the way things were looking. Thanks ladies it really helped to vent and let some of my stress off my chest while i was sorting things out.

[Chima7]

I don't understand why you wouldn't talk to your sister about it. The only person you've been talking to is your bf. But your sister is family and will always be your sister even if things don't work out with your bf.

So, what's the deal with your sister? Why are you so afraid to talk to her? I don't understand. I have an older sister and I wouldn't hesitate to talk to her if she was doing something that was bothering me.

[sanja25]

Yay
You see? You made it clear and its gonna be fine
Sometimes you just need to talk to people and let them know what bothers you

[janellemassy]

I had a talk with him and he said he hadnt noticed what he was doing and i told him to look at it from my point of view and see how bad it really looked and he told me he was sorry and ddnt mean to make me feel like tht and got2luvme tht is exactly what i told him tht if anything did happen its going to happen and there is nothin i can do to stop it and i told him if it did i couldnt forgive him and he finally realized how upset it was making me and he said he would never do anything tht would make me not let him see his son. (I wouldnt not let him see his son) i think he finally is listening to me bc there hasnt been an incident since. Im glad i finally made a big deal of it tho bc it was eating away at me thinking tht something might have been going on. It made me feel equally terrible thinkin my sis would do tht bc i dnt rlly think she would.

[roxi6]

I used to have an ex that did the exact same thing with my sister turned out he fancied her. As for your sister acting this way my own little sister was a wee ***** like yours and years later she ended up going out with my abusive ex (different ex) and has been with him for over a year. Needless to say I don't speak to her anymore. I would be careful when it came to the 2 of them and if there gonna do anything they will no matter what u say. But good riddance if they do. Good luck hope everything works out for you.

[got2luvmel]

I would talk to both of them separately and together. Your sister first because she's your blood and shouldn't even thinking about doing that to you. Unfortunately, sisters do this all the time in this day and age. Men on the other hand...Well, if he's a cheater, he'll cheat. Whether it's with your sister or another woman. If he can't respect your wishes now in regarders to your sister, imagine how he'll be with someone not even related to you? I'd watch him very closely. No use investing all your time and efforts into a scumbag.

[sanja25]

Talk to both of them at the same time
Thats what i would do

[janellemassy]

Idek how many times ive told him and i kno hes told her tht ive said something abt it. I kno i should probably talk to her but i would think just the fact tht ive evn brought it up once tht they would stop but they havent. I feel like even if nothing was going on tht they should have more respect for me thn tht and ive told him tht but i dnt feel like he cares sometimes and ive had nightmares where hes cheating on me and he ddnt even care how upset i was in the dream. Tht is how stressed i am abt it

[maw4389]

Yes talk to her.

[janellemassy]

Idek how many times ive told him and i kno hes told her tht ive said something abt it. I kno i should probably talk to her but i would think just the fact tht ive evn brought it up once tht they would stop but they havent. I feel like even if nothing was going on tht they should have more respect for me thn tht and ive told him tht but i dnt feel like he cares sometimes and ive had nightmares where hes cheating on me and he ddnt even care how upset i was in the dream. Tht is how stressed i am abt it

[maw4389]

Tell them both it bothers you and makes you uncomfortable.

[janellemassy]

Her but he keeps doing it. He keeps telling me he would never do tht and if he wanted to he would have already. They always act all flirty with each other too but he says he doesnt notice. He says hes spending time with my family sometimes in some situations when i get upset abt it but he nvr rlly is oh and i have five sibling and he only ever hangs out with her and my older brother. I feel bad bc its my sister but i cant help feeling im right too but idk what to do.