crazy question

[OxChanty]

I'm 18 years old, 26 weeks and having my first baby girl, my boyfriend left me when I was about 8 weeks, he text me, but he almost never ask about the baby he doesn't give me money at all, but he wants the baby to have his last name, I'm still thinking about it, but need some advise. What would you do?

[jaynasaurusrex]

I wouldn't. If he isn't in your daughter's life, or yours, why would you? She would just be confused as to why her name was different than her mommy's. If he's not going to act like a responsoble adult and be a father to his child, he shouldn't even be asking you to give her his name.

[Tricia0818]

I gave my oldest son my last name , his father still isn't in his life & he will be 6 in Thursday. It's a privilege not a right. My husband has been by my side since my oldest was three and we have two boys together as well. He has been by my side and our boys have his last name. My oldest wants his last name changed to my husbands last name. That's his true Dad.

[xojensen_]

True but every dad has a role when they help bring a baby in the world, just because my dad got my mom pregnant doesn't make him my dad... I had a stepdad that took in me and my two brothers, got my mom off drugs put her through school and that is my dad. He never left me hanging never doubted me. After my dad got out of prison he went to Mexico and had three kids always talked to my oldest brother when he ended up going to prison but never once made an effort to actually be there for me. And like I said it ruined me for a long time, I was a little girl waiting days for him to call back like he said he would. Last year I got s call from my grandma in Mexico saying he died and it ***** knowing I'll never get a chance to actually tell him how much that ducked me up in life. It's obviously up to her but at the end of the day any guy can make a baby but it takes a man to be a dad and raise one. I'll always call my stepdad dad before I'll ever give my real dad the satisfaction. Sad but true

[gabbylovee]

My dad was a drug attic got hepatitis c he passed away when i was 12 hardley had memorys mom gave me and my sister his last name regardless he will always be my dad thats why i say i would

[xojensen_]

I really don't see why he should have the right to even have that satisfaction I didn't get my dads last my two older brothers did but he was in prison when my mom had me and literally didn't help her. Coming from someone that doesn't have her dad in her life and he passed before I even had the chance to meet him it truly *****, giving her his last name without him being in her life will make her question him in life and she'll always wonder why she wasn't good enough. Till this day I still wonder if he even cared to meet me or truly put an effort like he made it seem. You'd be doing your daughter a favor for not giving her his last name, that's a privilege not a right.

[gabbylovee]

I would do it i mean to me regardless thats  the babies father and if u were to give him ur last name in my opinion my mom told me this why give the baby ur last name u didnt do it with ur father idk just my opinion but its all up to you

[BMCGomez]

I wouldn't... you can always legally change his last name to match his fathers.  IF...IF he changes his ways and decides to take responsibility.  SMH. I'm sorry for your situation but you are going to be a strong mommy!

[meliakay]

I think you should do it. Maybe in the future u will regret not doing it and u will have alot to explain to ur child and it may even be real difficult for the child. But think about it before u decide

[Lexi0703]

I would say don't do it!!! You will REGRET IT!! He is a POS and all of a sudden wants the baby to have his last name?! No way! Why does he want the baby to have his last name if he left you, hasn't helped you AT ALL, gone to any of the appointments?!? Just doesn't make sense. Don't do it. It's childish of him to ask of that.

[Vans_Mom]

Dont do it