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[Summergrace8]

Some nights I feel like such a **** up and cry myself to sleep because I'm just another teen mom. I cry and just want my mom but she hates me for messing up. And my boyfriend just stresses me out by worrying about money. I hate myself right now!!

[Summergrace8]

Thank you ladies so much. I graduate high school in two weeks. I'm going to college to be a child psychologist and work as a counciler inside of schools. I felt so down last night but your words of encouragement really helped, thank you so much!!

[specialmom]

What insightful advice octmommy15 has given you.  It is not all rosy being a young mom although you'd think so from the forums.  :>)  The other ladies here also gave you wise advice. The best thing to do is to think about yourself here and how you all alone could raise this baby if you had to. That's through education and an excellent paying job (minimum wage jobs will not allow you to live comfortably).  Look into programs for something you would like to do, nursing, medical assisting, book keeping, paralegal, etc.  Professional programs that lead to good income.  They have lots of grants to pay for it these days but it is essential that a young mom prepare herself in this way.  

Hopefully your mom will come around.  She doesn't hate you.  She is scared for you and maybe disappointed.  But she will hopefully be able to put that aside and be there for you.  

Keep your head up and remember YOU are creating the life you have.  If you want it to be different, change it up.  good luck hon

[Octmommy2015]

You are not a screw up everyone makes mistakes, don't be mad with bd he's just scared in his own way as for your mom just talk to her she will get over it. My bd, well we were together in high school and he was bad new for me mentally and emotionally my parents had to literally put me back together when we split when I was 17. I had 3 years of trying to build my life and low and behold despite my parents warnings I got back with at 20 and totally told my parents off and a month later I was prego and a month after that I was calling them saying I wanted to leave him and begging for help. They weren't happy but they're my parents so they won't abandon me. Your mom as her own right to be upset her baby is having a baby and maybe she feels like she failed you and she's scared for you.Butility neither of you are failures and when baby is born he or she won't care how old you are or what anyone else thinks you will be that child's whole world and they will love you unconditionally. Take it one day at a time and stay strong you will be a great mom

[Roxxxy915]

What tricia0818 ^, said! Ihad my 1st @19 . My mom was vry upset , we would argue thee hole 9months about it she would make me feel like nothing & iwould cryyy. But once , my daughter was born she was totally diff she was all over my daughter. Shes now 3yrs old & lovessss her grandma shes spend the weekend w.her all the time. Shes like her 2nd mom. & i get along w.my mom so well we understand each other more since ibecame a mom. & your boyfriend is probably just freakinggg out about thee hole change.

[Cindy0624]

Sometimes I feel the same way cuz I went from a being with a guy who did nothing but cheat on me in a 5 year relationship to getting pregnant by him n now I gotta be a single mom cuz he wants nothing to do with his child. Try to think of all the positives, at least u have your bf and u guys can do it together. Try to do as much as u can now before the baby gets here and figure out a plan for the future. Just cuz u have a baby young doesn't mean we can be successful is life. Try not to worry about money so much, I have only spent about $30 on my baby stuff n the rest have all been gifts from family. Your mom will come around , she's upset now but she will understand and be Dere for you. Remember God doesn't give us what we can't handle.  

[Tricia0818]

Sweetheart your not an screw up. I was 15 when I got pregnant with my first. My family was very upset , but they got over it. You need to sit down with your mom and tell her how she is making you feel regardless of her feelings of you being pregnant. It's not healthy for you to feel this upset and depressed while pregnant. Your bf is probably just scared and worried about the financial part of becoming a parent. Try to communicate healthy which each other instead of maybe fighting because of stress. Graduate school and go to college still! Don't give up on that! You can do it! Don't let other peopl bring you down , yes this will be hard and stressful but you baby will be the biggest blessing in this world! Don't give up , push yourself for your baby !