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My husband kicked me out yesterday. He said he wants a divorce because he doesnt love me anymore. This is all so sudden, and a shock to me, because i thought we had a great marriage. My question is, i want to move outside the country, im 7 months. My question is can i fly on plane across the ocean when im 7 months? Can he sue me for kidnapping his child even though he's not born yet? I know he wouldnt allow for me to move once the baby's born, but whats the difference if i move while im still pregnant? What are my rights?
Anyone saying get a divorce and just leave, you are retarded. Honey I was 4 months pregnant and my husband brought me and my 3 kids to a hotel then that night abandoned us, I had no job, no vehicle, no food and he had already cleared out our bank account. He planned to leave us there and wanted a divorce. Legally you CAN NOT get a divorce until after the baby is born and paternity is established, if not then yes he can sue you for kidnapping his child knowing you were married and together the time of conception. It's not that easy to just run away from the situation I'm telling you cause I wish I could. I finally decided to do an adoption. If he could abandoned me like that with my 3 kids and pregnant, this baby deserves a lot better man to call a father, especially when I dedicated my self tho his bs life style of depending on a man. Be independent honey! I was in your shoes 5 months ago and now I couldn't be happier that he left sooner than later!!!
I don't mean to be a spoil sport but I've dealt with this situation with a friend. Mind being the situation may differ considering the child is unborn but if he is the stable parent able to provide for that child he has all rights to that baby . But you have an advantage him kicking you out at 7m pregnant. That shows he has no care for you or even the baby.
What a piece of ****!!!
My aunt went through the same exact problem and her exhusband thought just because he had a good paying job,a house, and a car that they was going to give the baby to him. Well that wasn't the case at all, my aunt got the baby and still has her till this day. I'm sorry your going through this and I hope all goes good for you and your son girl #!
I agree with the others. Make your big move before the baby cause u will need some help. And if you have people in the USA willing to help you and treat you like family I think that is where you need to be. I am so so sorry this is happening to you...
I am so sorry to hear that, i remember just days ago we were talking about you wanting to have 5 kids. You need to think really good what are you going to do because i never have one but a c section needs a long recovery whatever you are going to do. Do it before the kid is born. As everything will be harder with a new born and a c section. I wish you the best will be praying for you and your baby
I'm so sorry this is happening to you.. I can't obviously offer anything except support. He sounds like such a ****.. I can understand any human being that would do this and leave u with nothing and no support.. hugs xx
I don't know laws in Croatia but I a child is born in the us they are automatically a us citizen. I'm not saying you should hop on a plane and leave without checking with a lawyer but if you have no other choice, then your baby having us citizenship may help you to stay in the us once you get here. But seriously you need to check with someone that has working knowledge of your & your baby's rights in both countries so you can make the smartest choice.
Stay with your friend for a few weeks and until your better and baby is born head back to the US. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I believe your husband is going through a depression. Does he want to be there when baby is born?
I have no one here in Croatia. I only have one friend and she lives an hour away. She is really helpful and willing to let me stay as much as i need but i dont want to abuse her goodness if you know what i mean. She is helping me pack right now and will help me move to her place even though its not that close.
I have a family in the US ive know my whole life, they're not really my family, my family is deceased and i have no one else. They are inviting me to live with them in the US and are willing to take care of me as long as i needed.
i dont think moving right now will be an option though. I am really sick, i have pneumonia and i want to get better first. They are willing to send me money to support me here, but the problem is i am alone here and i am scared.
I have a family in the US ive know my whole life, they're not really my family, my family is deceased and i have no one else. They are inviting me to live with them in the US and are willing to take care of me as long as i needed.
i dont think moving right now will be an option though. I am really sick, i have pneumonia and i want to get better first. They are willing to send me money to support me here, but the problem is i am alone here and i am scared.
You should call your doctor's office and ask to speak with a social worker or counselor. I remember you've gotten good medical care - they can help you with the legality of being kicked out of your home and can probably refer you to services for homeless mothers.
Best wishes. I'm just so angry for you.
Best wishes. I'm just so angry for you.
I bet he can't actually do that, marijana. And I'm shocked his mother is going along with kicking is pregnant wife out of her home.
Do you have somewhere to go? I think you need legal help right now. The fact that he is forcing you to pack and leave will probably have an affect on custody arrangements and may give you a lot more latitude in leaving the country.
Do you have somewhere to go? I think you need legal help right now. The fact that he is forcing you to pack and leave will probably have an affect on custody arrangements and may give you a lot more latitude in leaving the country.
Marriage counsel or doing anything to try to fix it is out of the question. he doesnt seem interested in fixing it. He just wants me gone. He kicked me out yesterday and told me i need to pick all my stuff today and leave the key. He went to his mom's place so he doesnt have to see me when i come.
I would say let the baby be born here then leave but he cant take the baby from you because babys belong with there mothers plus you say whay happened and ypu will keep the baby with you and leave to where you want to be
I say go ahead and move, then your baby will be a citizen of that country. And what type of man or father does that make him to kick out his pregnant wife and right before the baby is born. I say pack your bag and get your ticket. Don't tell him anything. Just go. But first get the divorce papers. Sign them and file them. No one can claim the baby cause the baby isn't here yet. Do this before you leave. Make it easy so you don't have to stay. Let him keep every thing since you plan on leaving the country. I don't think you need anything except your clothes. And the small baby stuff. Put your address as a friends house or a relatives house so the guy can't find you. And just leave. After a year it'll be finalized. And your free, but will already be gone by then.
Y'all should do marriage cancel if anything but if that man doesn't love you any more why stay and all so your body has changed since you got pregnant a lot of men can't handle the way a woman body change so they don't stay attracted to you but if anything y'all still married n that is his child so try to work out arrangement so he can have visits stay strong do what's best for u n your baby
I'm truly sorry that you're going through this, but, i don't think leaving the country would be the best idea. It would probably cause a lot more problems for you and you're pregnant and you don't need that kind of stress right now. Seek legal advice before making any decisions
Boy, marijana, that sounds like classic depression. He's very unhappy all the time although he tries to fake it, and he's guessing it's you making him unhappy.
My guess is, it's brain chemicals making him unhappy.
How is his work atmosphere? Is he comfortable and generally happy there, from what you can tell, or is he filled with anxiety and hates it?
I would strongly suggest a visit to his doctor to see if antidepressants might be appropriate for him. My brother in law almost threw away his life like this, and thank God for prozac that got him through a very tough time that no one knew he was struggling with.
Best wishes. An aside, I don't think there's any court who will look at your situation and give this baby to your husband instead of you. Courts don't look at parents and pick the one with the most money to be the parent.
My guess is, it's brain chemicals making him unhappy.
How is his work atmosphere? Is he comfortable and generally happy there, from what you can tell, or is he filled with anxiety and hates it?
I would strongly suggest a visit to his doctor to see if antidepressants might be appropriate for him. My brother in law almost threw away his life like this, and thank God for prozac that got him through a very tough time that no one knew he was struggling with.
Best wishes. An aside, I don't think there's any court who will look at your situation and give this baby to your husband instead of you. Courts don't look at parents and pick the one with the most money to be the parent.
Awww hun im really sorry your going through this.
Yeah I agree if he's not worried about u don't worry about him. And if he did try the whole suing u can always say it's not his or u don't know who's it is.
You should be smart about the descions you make legally. Go to the police and file a report that he put you out. You can fly up to 36 weeks. You can leave the state before the baby is born and you need permission from him after. I can offer you more advice but I need to know what state your in. Gl to you.
My name is Marijana not marijuana, im sorry that confused you.
@RockRose i thought we had it great too. One day we had a romantic dinner and everything was great. I wake up next morning, he asked me if i was happy with him. I said i am happy. He asked if im happy all the time. I said of course sometimes im sad but generally i am happy. Then he asked me what would i do if i was unhappy all the time. I asked whats wrong and he said he is feeling unhappy with me. That he lost all feelings for me and he thinks this marriage was a mistake and he wants a divorce. I was shocked... he said he's been considering it for months already but he finally came to a final decision. He cant go on anymore. He wants to break it off as soon as possible and not when its too late. He says its better for the baby than to grow up in an unhappy family. He said i make him miserable and he wants to seperate. I was shocked and thought its a joke. He said he's been faking all this time to see if he will feel anything again. But he realized he's only more and more miserable. I didnt do anything wrong. I thought he was the one and that we will have a family together. He kept making me feel like that all this time.
my family and friends think his family had a big role in his decision. i dont know if you read any of my last posts. But his mom was really unsupportive.
I wish i knew how he was feeling before and maybe i couldve made a difference. But i had no way of knowing, everyone thought we were so lucky and happy together and so did i.
It just doesnt seem like him.
@RockRose i thought we had it great too. One day we had a romantic dinner and everything was great. I wake up next morning, he asked me if i was happy with him. I said i am happy. He asked if im happy all the time. I said of course sometimes im sad but generally i am happy. Then he asked me what would i do if i was unhappy all the time. I asked whats wrong and he said he is feeling unhappy with me. That he lost all feelings for me and he thinks this marriage was a mistake and he wants a divorce. I was shocked... he said he's been considering it for months already but he finally came to a final decision. He cant go on anymore. He wants to break it off as soon as possible and not when its too late. He says its better for the baby than to grow up in an unhappy family. He said i make him miserable and he wants to seperate. I was shocked and thought its a joke. He said he's been faking all this time to see if he will feel anything again. But he realized he's only more and more miserable. I didnt do anything wrong. I thought he was the one and that we will have a family together. He kept making me feel like that all this time.
my family and friends think his family had a big role in his decision. i dont know if you read any of my last posts. But his mom was really unsupportive.
I wish i knew how he was feeling before and maybe i couldve made a difference. But i had no way of knowing, everyone thought we were so lucky and happy together and so did i.
It just doesnt seem like him.
marijana, I'm so confused by this. I've followed your story on here and you have the cutest engagement pic.
You're a newly wed, it sounds like he really wants to be a dad and you are very shocked and surprised he's kicked you out.
It sounds like you were off to a great start.
What in the world has caused this, do you really not know?
(I think you need legal assistance. I don't know if anyone in this thread knows about custody laws in Croatia.)
You're a newly wed, it sounds like he really wants to be a dad and you are very shocked and surprised he's kicked you out.
It sounds like you were off to a great start.
What in the world has caused this, do you really not know?
(I think you need legal assistance. I don't know if anyone in this thread knows about custody laws in Croatia.)
Whoa, awful advice here! Do not leave the country. That is his baby, too, whether you like it or not.
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