fiancé doesn't really care?

[mamabee1030]

He always ignores me when I cry and leaves or goes to bed. He doesn't comfort me or try and get me to stop. He just let's me cry and hurt for hours I've told him many times how I feel and he just days I have issues. Amd I'm crazy . How do I get him to care about me again?  And miss me and live me...we have a 15 month old and have been together 3 years I'm also 5 weeks pregnant and having sharp pains. Because of him I'm stress out and afraid I'm going to lose my baby

[missmomo218]

i completely agree with you ladies! Men are a lot different then us women and they sometimes don't know how to express there feelings and they don't get those kind of feeling like we do! They don't know how to handle a hormonal pregnant women that sometimes cry for no reason at all! We have to look at it from there point of view as well! I'm not saying that he shouldn't comfort you but I also think him seeing you cry all the time is a little upsetting cause he doesn't understand exactly why and for the same reason because you want his attention. You also need to be understanding about how he feels as well and maybe there needs to be a little more communication between the two of you! Do you guys sit together? Love on each other? Are you affectionate to him for no reason? Or just sit by him and rub hus neck or something while hes playing a game? They want to feel that way just as much as we do....I think understanding one anothers feeling and needs play a huge role in a happy relationship/ marriage! You need to look at the situation from both sides! I'm sorry you feel this way and I hope you both work thing out! I have been an emotional wreck during my first few weeks but I also realized alot has to do with my hormones and maybe I was crying for no good reason at all I felt horrible for my BF that I treated him so bad and scram and cried and he had no idea how to handle someone so emotional...they don't express themselves in that kind if way like we do! I wish the best for you and hope things get better

[kathrynt]

My husband  cant handle me crying either mostly because hes grown up in a home where men got to man up and to not cry. Sonhe just  doesnt know what to do. So now if i feel teary i just cuddle up to him and it makes me feel better and he doesnt have to say or do anything. Hugs cure sadness its a fact

[RockRose]

If you're doing a lot of crying,  over stuff you really don't think is all that important,  try to stop or at least apologize.

For lots of guys it's exhausting to be around a woman who is crying and complaining all the time.  You know the saying,  happy wife happy life.  Guys usually work VERY hard to have a happy partner,  and when that's just not happening it's exhausting and frustrating for him.  

Are the sharp pains something to worry about,  or are they just  round ligament pains?  

[scribblechick16]

He may not feel comfortable with crying. Some guys feel so helpless when women cry that they can't handle it themselves. They don't know how to comfort us so it's easier for them to leave instead.

[Sass508]

He is being immature and selfish. When you are sad he thinks your not fun to be around so he leaves you hanging :(

[Sass508]

**act like a more strong independent woman. He probably feels like you are acting a bit dramatic and desperate by crying..

Trust me, I do feel for you. I was in a similar situation which is why I can relate. I know you have reasons for getting upset!!

[Sass508]

This is going to sound really harsh and I'm sorry! It seems like he is completely turned off by your weakness. (I'm not calling you weak, I'm trying to imagine what he thinks)
He sounds like a jerk. But he would probably act more respectful if he got to see you act

[4_3MommytoBe]

I'm going thru a similar situation. Unfortunately, there's no way for us to "force" someone to show us the affection/love we desire. Try finding comfort in your kid and knowing you have new life inside of you. It's all easier said than done, but it's possible. Hope things get better! Xo