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heavy heart
So i need advice, no judgments! My boy friend ans i have been together for two year and some change. Well my boyfriend has smoke weed since before i meet him. We had a talk when we started getting serious about if we ever got pregnant or if he asked me to marry him he would have to Stop smoking weed, or i would leave him, well he promised and said he Would. Well now im 15wks pregnant and he still has not quit, and everytime i try to talk to him about it he gives me every excuse in the world, and says hes trying but he is still doing it. Wgat should i do? Am i wrong for sticking to. What i said i would do? Its killing me.
If it means that much to you and he agreed to it sick to your guns. Separate if it takes that much. It is a big deal in the big picture, your baby comes first! Your the only true advocate your baby has. Your setting the importance of that by keeping your word and your bf is as well (or lack there of)by showing it doesn't matter now what he promised. What will both of your actions play out as in the future when the baby comes, then in a year from now and 15 years from now.... I'd say stand up for what's best for your baby.
I left my oldest child's father for that reason (and others)before she was born and now to see how much that means to her at 10!she's thanked me for it. Put the heat on him and if he's gong to be worth the father to have around your baby, he will keep his promise.
That's my 2 cents:) gl!
I left my oldest child's father for that reason (and others)before she was born and now to see how much that means to her at 10!she's thanked me for it. Put the heat on him and if he's gong to be worth the father to have around your baby, he will keep his promise.
That's my 2 cents:) gl!
I'm going through the same! What bothers me is that I don't want my baby around that, I especially would rather he use the money he uses on weed, on other things for the baby instead. Or save it at least
DRinking and smoking cigarettes are not illegal, i cant get my baby taken away from Me with those things, but weed i can, and im sorry, but i have worked with people that have had there kids taken bc of that stuff. And i wont let my baby grow Up without me being in its life.
Yeah to me it's not big deal when the baby's a baby , he won't see it or smell it so , he'll never know. When the baby's older thatts a different story . he's not gonna quit. He'll probably lie and try and hide it.
Why is him snoking such a bad thing?? If it was cigarettes would it still be a problem.as long as he go out side and smoke whats the big deal?? So can he not have a drink either?
I know EXACTLY how you feel I am going through the exact same thing and honestly I am beyond confused!
If that is something you feel strongly about then stick to it. A man should make any sacrifice forr his family. There is a reason as to why you told him that he needs to stop, so do not allow his excuses to compromise where you stand on this topic. If you do not want it around you or your baby then stick to that and be strong. I know it's harder said then done, but remember you and your boyfriend have a little one to think about now and everything you do should be of benefit to your baby.
I feel that it is a big deal, if weed is in the house its around your kid, and im sorry i dont want my baby around it, you cant teach your kid to not so it if the parent does it.. And i dont want my kid to do it. I have worked with people wgo have gotten their kids taken away bc of weed. And i wont even put myself or my baby through that.no matter what i say its the same excuse. I feel hopeless
My bf smokes and its not a big deal. Purrel before he touches the baby and brush his teeth so no smell.
I personally don't think smoking weed is a big deal AS LONG AS he's taking care of business and putting you & the baby first. But I get if you don't want your child around it...just let him know how much you're sacrificing, (your body, your vigina, youth, energy, job, ect..) And you don't think it should be a big deal if he sacrifices weed for his baby. Keep in my a lot of guys don't realize they're having a baby until your in the delivery room pushing, you became a mom the moment you got pregnant so your only doing what you think is best for your child. Good luck
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