husband giving his female coworker rides

[brendaandflip]

How would you feel about your husband having his female coworker in his car and him giving her rides?

[Sass508]

I wouldn't say anything to the other woman via text or anything. It would just make you look bad, and you don't want the reputation of crazy wife. Even though it *****..

[brendaandflip]

Yeah.... I'm just undecided whether to just believe him and make sure it doesn't happen again or just leave for a while and then make a decision

[stina_rina]

^ agreed. If you dont feel comfortable he should respect that. I completely trust my husband but I would not like that.

[whitney2121]

Inappropriate.... My husband better not.  Also I don't give guys rides home.  It just better to set boundaries.  You should pick them both up from work and drop her off and give her a bus route to work.

[tiaspilchuk4]

Follow your gut but dont jump to conclusions!  I would put him on the spot and straight up ask him to his face if hes cheating.  Your instincts will let you know by how he reacts to your question if theres anything going on!

[brendaandflip]

I don't want to make him look unprofessional by me asking her questions...I have met her one time at a baby shower, but it was just hi and bye

[brendaandflip]

Yeah, I have been trying to have him gain trust again after our separation so I was trying not to look through his phone or anything....I haven't even looked at his phone I'm who knows how long....I thought about using his phone and texting her the picture and asking if this is hers and if she left it in the car...but idk...because if it isn't anything big I don't want her to be like why is she asking me....I did wonder why it's in the back seat ..there are so many questions that I have.. And he is in the military and he is her sergeant

[purple2007]

Don't be so insecure.  If you haven't had a reason to think he was cheating before then why believe it now.

[chloegc1023]

I would want to know exactly who this female corworker is and what she looks like.  Then I would get a better gage on things. And, I would also definitely be snoopin thru his phone.  Investigate and see where things stand.  There's nothing wrong with it, he's ur husband and there should be transparency.  

[Sass508]

The things that are wrong with this are: #1 He didn't tell you about it until you saw lip gloss
#2 why was it in the back seat??

Try not to drive yourself nuts over it and get completely paranoid, but do question things a bit more. Definitely trust your instincts about it. If it feels weird to you, then YES it's weird.

[TifCrem]

I would say it definitely depends on the person.. We live on base and I could stand outside talking to the neighbor's husband and he was just that kind of guy, very friendly to everyone, but I knew that that's where it ended.. Some guys aren't like that.. My husband has a job where it is very rare to be working with a female and if he started giving one a ride, my question would be are they the only ones going to meetings? Like why isn't he driving anyone else or carpooling with anyone else?Because I definitely get only using one car if they are both already at work because finding parking spots on base is usually terrible no matter where you are.. It's unfortunate that you had a bump in the road because I've been there and it makes you question things that may seem normal to others.. I'd just keep an open eye and hopefully it's nothing.. Good luck!

[momMaggie]

My husband gives female coworkers rides all the time and I gave male coworkers rides when I was still working.  I don't think there's anything wrong with it. And he doesn't always tell me about it especially if it's not planned in advance. But we trust each other and it's really not a big deal. It sounds like there's more to your being upset than him just giving females coworkers rides for work related things since he's also giving male coworkers rides. I'm a big believer in trusting instincts, especially if you already have reason to suspect something is going on, but I also know that being pregnant messes with hormones and emotions. So if it was just a ride, maybe you need to think about why you're really so upset and then try to talk to him calmly without accusing him. Just let him know that you aren't comfortable with it and even if it's irrational you'd like him to respect that.

[erika0013]

I think his cheating. ...

[mommaDof3]

If you can't trust him, you are always going to have those doubts. It's a big issue when he's done it before and is putting himself in a position of doubt again. And is he in the military?  Why is he calling her his solidier?

[MrsAyeVi]

I agree, trust your instincts. They usually never fail you

[traciv]

My husband gives rides from work and gets rides from others.  I have never not trusted him. I know when he works and I know when he gets off. Was he like an hour later home than usual?  Does he have a history of cheating? Why would you not give him the benefit of the doubt?

[brendaandflip]

He has lied to me in the past...we have broken up for a year, I came back in the relationship telling him no more games and I feel like he is not taking it serious...idk maybe I am overreacting...but he has lied to me before how can I trust him this time?

[Jsyska]

I wouldn't have a problem with my hubby giving a female coworker rides to work if they car pooled especially if she lived close and like was on the way to work.  But I think I'd get suspicious if he was the only one doing all the driving. And I'd be pretty pissed if I found someone else's lip gloss in the back seat.

[Ftmforthewin]

I would only be concerned if it's not job related. Like they are hanging out together away from work and trying to hide it from you. If it's a totally innocent car pool I wouldn't worry but if he seems like he's hiding something then I would just ask him about it. Honesty is the best policy you should voice your concern.

[sosimplejaye]

Before Me and hubby bought our car, he caught rides everyday for a year for work, it bothered me but it really taught me to trust him more. He learned to reaasure me more and we found a balance.

[chanieb]

1) Trust ur instincts 2) Do u trust him? ...I would think about those 2 things

[brendaandflip]

No like there was a meeting and I guess he gave her a ride to go there also...I found a lip gloss in the back of his car and that's when he told me it's from his soldier(female)

[Jsyska]

Like car pooling to work?