husbands?

[army_mommy_to_be]

My husband and I were talking the other day and I asked him if we have a boy will he be circumcised? And my husband was very offensive, so I took that as a no! Has anyone else's husband/bf acted this way? And does it matter if they do or don't?

[SerenitysMommy21]

Actually, uncircumcised CAN lead to infections. I took an adult sexual psychology class in college and my teacher made sure we were well informed. The boy must be very committed to proper cleaning to prevent infection for himself, BUT that foreskin also carries the bacteria that causes cervical cancer in women. It is putting any sexual partners in his life later on at risk. There are many reasons medical and not on both sides of the argument but most sources will not give you the real truth for both sides. Do what you think is best. As a majority class vote, my class decided circumcision is best.

[beckyyy1115]

If I have a boy I will get him circumsized but as one of the moms said above, it is your choice. Everyone has their own opinion. Honestly, I was unsure about getting it done too but my hub feels really strongly about having it done and the doctor said the baby will not remember the pain.

[HEllwanger]

Thank you sabbylopez!! It is obvious you have done your research and I couldn't agree more.  :)

[Mogpog]

My husband is very strongly opposed to circumcision.  He is not circumcised but he is opposed to it because he sees it as mutilation, which I completely agree with.

[sabbylopez]

John Harvey Kellogg (yes the guy that invented the cereal) believed that masturbation killed people. He was a very religious man and ended up MUTILATING both sexes by cutting off the foreskin of a boy and putting phenol (carbolic acid) to a yound women's clitoris. Look it up on Wikipedia it will give you the information.

[sabbylopez]

Circumcision is one of those opinionated/misinformed topics. Yes everyone is entitled to their own opinion but you should do the research and look at all the facts before making your decision. An uncut penis does not cause an infection or stds. The foreskin protects the penis from infection. It is like a bandaid if you remove it, it is bound to get a infection. Yes it DID cause infections back when they didn't have access to a shower and had to clean in the river. And a child is always gonna be different the "I want them to look like daddy" is an excuse because the child could have different hair color or different color eyes you gonna change that too. Also circumcision went down 75% when medical insurances stopped paying for it and it stayed down. Only reason it was done was because it was free for parents so they said "why not I don't ave to pay for it". My grandmother yells at me and tells me to get it done if we have a boy because it is in the bible. 1. I am not religious so don't push your religious beliefs on my child. 2. We are not Jewish either. Educate educate educate.

[ksarahd]

Just do your research and decide what is best for you and your family. My mother explained it to me in what I thought was a great analogy. Removing a boy's foreskin is thought to prevent or reduce infection and is more sanitary. Though it is not medically necessary in the vast majority of situations. Think of it this way, take your fingernails for example, they can become overgrown, grow fungus, become infected from ingrown nails, they harbor a tremendous amount of germs and debris, be painful if they crack, break, or bend backwards. But they are there to provide protection for your finger tips. The same way the foreskin protects a boy or man's penis. Though it is not medically necessary for life or health to keep either of of these unneeded body parts only one is removed shortly after birth. With proper care a child can be taught proper upkeep of their finger nails and their foreskin. Also a harsh reality is that many people don't know that since they remove the skin at such a young age they can not administer anaesthesia and thus the experience is tremendously painful. Often even resulting in babies passing out from pain. Another thing I have been thinking about recently is how there are many people all over the world who are standing up to others shaming them about their bodies. People are standing up to those who shame others for being overweight, homosexual, disabled, deformed and underprivileged. I think that it is fantastic! But now why do we let society dictate what is "normal" for our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles, and friends penises to look like. They are born with it and it should be their choice to alter it. If you have it done when they are infants then you take away that right and choice from them. Best wishes to you and your family! What ever you decided will be right for you and your baby!

[HEllwanger]

Just to clarify, I didnt say that they couldn't masturbate. I said that in Victorian times circumcision was used as a deterant to "prevent" men from the "vile habit" of masturbation. Any basic research will confirm this and Dr. Kellogg was one of the leading proponents of this movement.

[17july]

In my culture boys get  circumcised because of traditional reasons. It's believed that it reduces the infection of stds. As the foreskin carries the "germs" for a lack of a better word. I must say I'm surprised that people circumcise the baby bots  for cosmetic reasons . You learn something new!!

[Billyjoe18]

I personally think if the father is circumsized then the son should be too because let's be honest your husband is going to be the one explaining to him what that thing hanging down there is and it helps the child relate to the father when that day comes. It's also helpful because when they get older they have to pull that skin back to clean and most boys aren't very hygienic and they can ubtain an infection quickly

[bondsmommy]

Its a matter of opinion.
I think in my opinion everyone is entitled to have their own opinions.
So im for not knocking anyones feelings torwards it.

There are risk no matter what.
For everything it seems like.
You get in a car its a risk to get an accident if something should happen.

I know that alota guys are circumcised and a handful are not.

My husband was very grateful to be circumcised
Young because
1) They don't remember the pain if any.
2) if they are unhappy with the extra skin as a teen or adult it has higher risk to have a adult circumcision.
3) some women don't particularly care for it to be uncircumcised and some do ( so really not a reason to choose either just fact and again opinion)
4) about masturbation? I think that is completely silly..(i have NEVER heard of a man not being able to do so)
5) as far as medical necessity (yeah it is true about infection) but its not saying ok if you have a boy and don't get him circumcised this will 100% get an infection. Just clean the wee wee extra carefully.
It does not naturally contact.

6) if it was unsafe they wouldn't be doing so many a year and probably be sued if it was so hurtful to a.baby. ) its not they did them in biblical days to now.
:))
Maybe if you have concerns as time progress you and your husband can talk about the possibility of what preference or concers you have and possibly meet with a pediatrician and discuss pros and cons to make a informed decision.
That's what we decided for our 1st son
I felt so nervous he was going to think of me as bad for having it basically remembering the pain.
But i realized i was being silly and everything would be ok after talking to our ped.

Hope everything is well!
Congratulations! :))

[lilonebby3]

When I was pregnant with my son I asked my husband the same question and he didn't hesitate to say NO WAY! He wasn't circumsized, my brothers either and none had ever had any issue. As long as they clean themselves properly they're fine. I didn't circumsize my son because I honestly didn't see it as a medical necessity.

[Tavi12]

Just because a man is uncut does not mean he will have a odor or will get an infection and man can have a odor down there from being dirty same with infections my husband is not cut and our son won't be either read about it I don't understand putting them through all that pain for something that is not even medically necessary

[HEllwanger]

Being uncut does not lead to odor unless they man is not cleaving himself properly. My husband is cut my son will not be circumcised. Infection can happen either way and it is not medically necessary. The only time the foreskin needs to be retracted is to clean once they are old enough for it to retract naturally. Most circumcisions in the US we're performed in the 19th and early 20th centuries to "prevent" masturbation.

[Kayetastrophe]

My husband is VERY serious about circumcision. He is convinced it would be an awful life for our son (if we have a boy) and gets really mad when I bring up points about circumcision.
So basically our son is getting cut no ifs ands or butts.

[xiomyreyes]

Mine will be circumcised my bf is and plus when they get lil bigger they can get infection or something We think it's better in the long run.

[laspecial]

i am having a boy an my son will be circumcised..because that meat they leave is very nasty an it will have an odor an thats jus nasty they will have to pull their skin back to ****..my.son WILL BE CIRCUMCISED!!

[SuzyA81]

My husband and I have not had that conversation yet. If we have a boy,  I would rather not circumsize. My husband is not, but his son from his first wife is.

[SuzyA81]

My husband and I have not had that conversation yet. If we have a boy,  I would rather not circumsize. My husband is not, but his son from his first wife is.

[ksarahd]

Men are very defensive of their "manhood". I am personally not going to do something that is not medically necessary to my baby. Watch "Circumcision: The Whole Story" on YouTube. It is from a doctors perspective and is very informative. It is less than 20 min long so does not take up too much of your time.