losing friends while pregnant

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

Has anyone lost friends or drifted apart since becoming a mommy to be?? I feel like I've lost quite a few friends and I'm sad. Also it's hard to be friends with young girls who think about dating and parties while I'm married and due next month :/..my "best friend" is choosing a lame excuse not to come down to my baby shower and I think I will block her from my phone because she's been so flaky these past months I'm sick of it. She said she can't come to my shower because she sees no point of driving 2 hours there and back the next morning!  Wtf!? It's a baby shower not some party it's not like I become a first time mom any other time in my life.  I'm so hurt and angry she didn't even apoligize. I just didn't text her anything.  Sorry just wanting opinions.  I'm 19 btw!

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

@ RockRose I understand what you mean I'm just hurt that after years of a good friendship everything just ended. And it's only one friend who lives far I don't think it matters if someone moves or not you can still see them and be friends especially if they are in town often

[specialmom]

I agree.  The only friends I 'lost contact with' (much more accurate way to put it) when pregnant were my non mom friends.  They weren't into the same things I was into.  And I wasn't into what they were into.  Hearing about how they went out to a bar and met this guy or that guy got really dull to me as a married woman.  I wanted to talk about things like the best type of baby bottle and sore nipples . . .   super boring to a non mom!!  

I have my old friends but my closest friends now are other moms who 'get it'. good luck

[RockRose]

There's no real reason to "confront" them,  whitejasmine.  I'm sure they don't mean you any harm.

Friendships are based on having things in common,  and a young married woman with a baby well on the way really doesn't have anything in common with unmarried single friends who live two hours away.  

When you get pregnant,  it's a great time to find other friends who will have something in common with you - their married lifestyle and little ones.

[Daisygonz]

I had my baby 4 weeks ago.
And none of my friends have came by to visit nor have they called or text
I guess they weren't real friends to start with.
I feel disappointed but at the same time I ain't going to waste my time or energy texting them or calling.
So I know how you feel.

[tasha30214]

I know how you feel im only 17 weeks but im not married and its like people are mad but i was never the tyep to go out and party shrugs in my eyes its better so when my little sweetheart comes in this world i will not have any distractions just take this time to enjoy yourself and your husband and the baby growing inside of you the leas stress the better

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

I'm happy to know im not the only one. Did anyone confront their "friends" or just stopped talking to them to avoid drama. A part of me wants to confront her but I don't think it's worth it.  

[12_4_14]

Yep, im 24 years old and pregnant with my first, im 35+3 weeks, and when I had my shower, alot of people showed up except one of my "friends" that said sge wouldbt miss it for the world, and then she never showed. I asked her where she was and her excuse was she was sick, the very next day she was at the gym with one of her other friends. It upset me, but im totally over it. My bf is my best friend

[MackenzieParker]

I feel the same way. I literally lost every friend I had when I got pregnant. I just look at is as they weren't real friends anyway. I'm 18 years old and 39weeks.

[ashlii00]

im not married but im due in a week and a very large majority of my 'friends' have dispersed. but tbh am happy that way. ive enjoyed keeping myself to myself. more time and cuddles for me and my little family. i wouldnt worry, obvioisly not ment to be there if they cant be arsed to make the effort then its their loss. just remember what she tret you like when she tries to come crawling back. most likely will drive to you when your babys born... nobody needs that hassle from fake friends

[proundmom]

I know how you feel all my friends abandoned me when I got pregnant.

[kay1027]

I understand how you feel. I lost most of mine when I got married. I only have one real friend