advice or something?... :-o

[italiamamii1]

Ok I am definitely not having doubts, I'm ready and I ready for everything to come. My boyfriend the father of my baby, sometimes has doubts about affordig the baby because I will he home with the baby 2 years after birth
Tomorrow I will be 13 weeks we have some time and I'm not worried because I will work up until I can't and I have a settlement coming for a good amount of money, he is also financially stable and his family I would consider them wealthy is not very very well off
I don't see the problem idk why he's doubting himself
I could be sitting here worrying too souring but I'm not and he has been supportive one week rude the next but he says he loves me and wants to me with me he just wishes we could have the baby after he's done with his studies and we can get married first
No matter what I told him it's to late because he has already got me pregnant I have heard and seen my living one and I do not want to hear anything more about not wanting it because if he wants to me with me he's going to be with our baby look he's almost 3 years younger than I am and immature he is just having doubts that come and go but I have an idea he is mostly doubting himself
I am ready he was but now he's not then he is. My mother said he will feel more confident once the baby's here

OK QUESTION HOW CAN I ASSURE HIM OTS GONNA BE OK HOW CAN I HELP HIM WITH HIS DOUBTS IF I CAN

DO NOT TALK CRAP ABOUT HIM HE TREATS ME LIKE A QUEEN AND IS WONDERUL
THANK U

[specialmom]

I think something that never puts someone's worry at ease is saying everything will be fine/ why are you worried?  Sometimes worry is warranted and it is a lot of pressure to be the one working person in a family.  Reality is thT he feels there is a chance your finances may not be enough to sustain things -  he could be right.  What you could say is et's try and if we don't have enough money, I'll get a job to help."  Make him feel heard so that he doesn't have to deal with things that aren't always rosey all alone because you feel thinking about those things sours the pregnancy.  I am a an er.  I have a plan and two back up plans if that one doesn't work.  So your guy needs to feel like he can't talk honestly with you without wking on egg shells about his concerns.  
My husband is an exec w abig company and has abig income by mists standards and he still worries about money as our provider.  I make sure he feels heard and understood.  Good luck

Ps:  financial issues is one of the top things that stresses a couple out and  breaks them up.  Have a back up plan just in case to keep you guys less stressed.  Best wishes

[Chima7]

You can't control his thoughts, all you can do is keep reassuring him. Maybe come up with a budget spreadsheet to show him what payments come in monthly and what goes out so he can have a tangible perspective of what to expect. If there are places you can cut back on expenses then do it. Don't buy that whatever thing that you think you want because you'll have more money for the baby. Keep making smart financial choices, make sure to put it on your budget spreadsheet, and eventually he'll come around and see that he doesn't need to panic.

[italiamamii1]

Or not

[italiamamii1]

Bump

[italiamamii1]

I spelled and missed words because I have the app lol hope I find a little help on here or reassurance from someone with the same problem or someone who can relate