Baby shower dilemma ....

[Smurf106]

So my mom is throwing me a baby shower and long story short my husband works abroad .... have not seen him since May and subsequently I have not heard from his mother or sister since. I contacted his mom once I was 12 weeks to tell her the good news that we were pregnant (that was July) and I havent not received one call or txt to see how im doin or how the pregnancy is goin! Should I be a bigger person and invite her or should I not bother? I personally don't want too as im pretty pi**ed off with there lack of contact and support.  This is my first baby too....what do you ladies think?

[Smurf106]

Yes ive spoken to him briefly but we have an 8 hour time difference which makes it difficult at times. Hes said hes disappointed but thats about it ... hes home in a few weeks but the shower will be over and done with at that time. Im still on the fence to be honest but need to make a decision soon

[Shanz04]

I would invite them to be the bigger person as well.  Have you talked to your husband about his family and how they are (or are not) treating you while he is away?   I know we have a general "rule" in our house that I deal with my family he deals with his... I would bring it up and see what he says. Maybe they feel like they can't reach out for some reason?

[Smurf106]

Thanks ladies xxxx much appreciated

[Denise2346]

I'm kinda in the same situation about the mother in law  but I see her every other weekend with the husband and my two kids and every time we go she never ask how I'm doing or how are the kids nor about the baby  I honestly If I were you just invite her to be respectful so you can be the bigger person and if she doesn't show up then oh well at least you tried

[lovely_1_06]

I believe you should go with your gut feeling. You should be the bigger person and contact them but before inviting them to the shower tell them how you feel about not talking to you see if you guys can hash any negative feelings because it will be a distraction and a bother at the baby shower. With this being your first child you want to experience joy and happiness on this day.