sad and need to vent..

[raventidwell12]

Ever since I've gotten pregnant. None of my friends text me. Like, ever. None of them talk to me. And they forgot my birthday. Hell, even one of them never text me back. :/ I need new friends. I don't get Why. I feel like it's like they Think being pregnant is contagious. And since I'm not on social media it's like they don't care now. It's kinda upsetting.

[raventidwell12]

But she says she wants to come to the baby shower But idk if I should invite. Idk though.  I mean I understand and get what y'all mean. Just kinda ***** sometimes when you need a girl to vent to.

[raventidwell12]

Yeah ill try to talk to her she'll either say one or two things or Nothing at all.

[specialmom]

I thought you said you were 16.  But anyway, no one here is judging you.  But it is just the situation of less in common as you do something new in your life.  I think even being married at your age is going to put you in a different circumstance than most girls.  That isn't judgment---  just that you are into different things than they are.  I was a career woman when I got pregnant.  I left my career to spend more time with my family.  My colleagues without kids had less in common with me. Frankly although we talked all the time and were close when working together, once I had my baby, we didn't talk much.  I wasn't into what they were into and vise versa.  

THAT is all I am saying.  

Now, do you reach out and she doesn't respond?

[raventidwell12]

I don't regret getting pregnant. And I actually planned my baby with my husband. I'm already outta school. And there's ALOT of teens pregnant by accident with No baby daddy around where I live it's hard to related to them. And I understand Why they left. I just don't get Why my best friend did whenever she has another friend who's pregnant. Yes I'm young. But I wouldn't change a thing. Even though imma get judge only being 17

[specialmom]

I didn't realize the poster was such a young teen.  Yes, you won't find many who are pregnant and being pregnant changes the dynamics a bit.  Someone who is 16 typically is far from baby mode.  Trying to think what I'd feel if one of my friends in high school got pregnant.  I was all about having fun and planning for college and that type of thing then.  

remar is a good person to talk to because she's out on the other side.  She was a young mom it sounds like and has no regrets but also understands why lots of peers would pull away when a friend winds up pregnant.  I think most often, it isn't personal.  I really think it is just a matter of they have not that much interest in the adult world of parenthood and pregnancy and are busy being kids.

As an adult pregnant woman, I had many friends having babies.  But no, you won't find that as a teen as much.  But hopefully you have some supportive people in your life that you can turn to.  hang in there.  

[marindamqz]

I agree with one of the previous posters, the only people I text are my mom, sister, brother, boyfriend, and his mom. That's literally everybody I text.

[raventidwell12]

I havent found No one pregnant that's 17

[remar]

Specialmom gave you great advice. You and your friends are in different places. I got married and had my daughter when I was young and also lost a lot of my friends. They were going off to college or getting jobs. I did have my family though and that's what is really important. Keep posting here because there are a lot of girls around your age who are also pregnant and can relate to what you're going through.

[Brez419]

Aww your so close to knowing what your having! (:  let me know once you find out! I'm so anxious to find out what I'm having

[abcde12344]

Your not alone all my.friends except one stopped talking to me ringing me asking.me.to go places iv got one friend and Thats all i need :)

[raventidwell12]

16 weeks *

[raventidwell12]

@Brez419 Haha. I'm a first time mom too! I'm 16 this Tuesday. (:

[letimarie916]

I know how you feel I had a lot of friends before and now I only have one and that's my boyfriend. Everyone kept telling me to have an abortion and when I told them no they all stopped talking to me even some of my family would tell me that but my family is finally coming around and helping out. I would always cry and feel alone but I've gotten over it because I have a healthy baby girl on the way. I know where you're coming from just keep your head up and stay positive. Everything happens for a reason, gods blessed you with a baby and if your friends aren't there for you then they never were your friends.

[brkness]

I have nobody, and then when you drop social media u really realize how lonely and how many friends u really don't have. I signed out of Facebook 4 months ago and have seriously felt like I've lost contact with humans lol

[Brez419]

You can meet pregnant girls on this app I wouldn't mind to talk with you this is my first baby and 13 weeks and I'm excited and nervous at the same time lol if you don't mind I don't mind (:

[raventidwell12]

Exactly. I just need a pregnant friend or a mother who's had her child so I can relate But i just don't see many pregnant women where I live.

[Brez419]

You do need new friends, there all childish and your going to be a mom you don't need anyone like that around you or your baby, I use to have so many friends an my bestfriend is only a month behind me pregnant with baby #2 and I never left her side when she was pregnant with the first one. Now the only one that I text on my phone is my bestfriend my husband and my mom lol no lie that's it. Sounds kinda sad but I'm ok with it I'm happy cuz they are the ones that care abt me an my baby not like the fake friends I had.

[raventidwell12]

Only time my use to best friend would txt is if allllll her friends don't talk to her. I was always a last resort.

[marindamqz]

You're not alone. I have nobody left. I have my boyfriend, yeah, but does a man really wanna hear about my vagina being sore and nipples leaking? I mean, I wouldn't tell my friends those kinda things either, but I have nobody to even go to at all. I got my 3D ultrasound done last week, and I was soooooooo astounded because my baby looks nothing like my older one. And as excited as I was, I had nobody to share it with :/ my one best friend was always my top person until recently. She got a boyfriend, and all she does is ask me for money now. I sometimes can't, and she doesn't even bother to reply my apology text. I don't talk to her unless it's about money, and she's never had financial problems until she got with him. We were best friends for 8 years, and now nothing. Ughhh. She was all I had.

[raventidwell12]

None that I know of. I mean I don't wanna have another few friends come and go so I feel like of I try they'll just leave slowly too. And the one mom friend I could of had is so emotional she always rude to me about my baby. It's kinda hard. But at the same time it's whatever. I love my baby girl to death and my family and boyfriend. My mom an dad an sisters. aaaaand grandmother and fiance is my closest thing to a friends. They are best friends to me.

[specialmom]

I think it is hard if your friends aren't in relationships and having babies themselves.  :>)  Different priorities.  I had a super great friend that got married and pregnant while I was in college.  I was going out with friends, dating, working on my career and she was planning for her baby, caring for her baby and in a totally different place than me.  I still cared about her but it was like we all of a sudden had less in common.

When I got pregnant, I found other moms were my best company.  they wanted to talk baby stuff, pregnancy, parenting, etc.  They were into what I was into.

So, I do think people can care but maybe not have as much contact if they are doing different things in their life.  I wouldn't right them all off and think they don't care.  Hopefully you'll reconnect at some point.

Any mom friends who live by you to hang out with?  

[KCS94]

Unfortunately, I think every pregnant woman experiences this, friends do become distant and it's strange considering its a time when you need support from them. My friends did similar, honestly you find out who the true people Are in your life when you become pregnant.

[mariela93]

Dont be worried of friends or others! Be glad that you have you little baby with you and thats all you need. Because there's ppl out there like me that would rather ask for my baby back than to have fake friends or no friends at all

[AshleyDouthit]

SAME HAPPENED TO ME!! Everyone is so excited at first then they slowly cut you off. Like we are still the same person just pregnant. We can do everything we used to (minus the drinking) I don't understand why friends drop up like a disease. But I've learned that friends are quality or quantity. I have 2 best friends and loving bf that i wouldn't trade for the world. I hope you realize this too :)