need a shoulder to cry on. please dont judge me.

[new_journey]

Things got a little heated and bad between me and my bf who I have kids with and expecting again. All because he lied about our money that we have. I thought we were broke but his mom called and said Shes late on her dish bill OMG he got up so quick to go deposit money and pay it for her. I got yelled at for wasting money on a funnel cake because I was craving one. Point is he lied to me I confronted him about it he called me out of my name youre  a this you're a that. and he smacked my fone out of my hands. But he did it in a way where he made me feel like better thank God it's the fone I smack and not you. His mom always causes problems for us. Always.  If I try talking to her she takes it the wrong way and think I'm being mean or something.  Last time I talked to her about things she didn't talk to my bf and he got so mad at me.  I don't want to cause problems between them but where do I stand. I'm crying my eyes out because I feel like the odd man out. My stomach is aching and I'm starting not to feel good.

[specialmom]

Hm.  I would NOT blame his mom for this.  HE smacked you.  We are so quick to let our men off the hook and try to find someone else to blame because that's easier than holding the guy accountable.  What HE did was unacceptable.  

You can inquire and hopefully did so respectfully what the deal is . . .  "do we have the money to pay your mom's bill?  I thought we were hurting for cash honey."  And he can answer "well, she does a lot for me and I feel obligated so I used X money for her bill.  We'll make it up later somewhere else."  THAT is how to adults talk to each other.  Not "YOU GAVE YOUR DANG MOM MONEY AND GAVE ME C RAP ABOUT A FUNNEL CAKE!!" and then he starts calling you a bunch of names until it escalates to hi hitting your hand.  

That is not going to work and this relationship WILL end unless you two start being able to not have situations like this escalate.

The mom isn't causing YOU trouble by asking her son for money.  She is just doing her thing that she does with her son.  he can tell her no or he can do it.  But don't blame her for this whole thing, okay?

now, I'm not sure about a guy who complains when you treat yourself to a funnel cake and getting so mad to call you names and get physical with you.  

has he ever really hit you?  do you think he would?  

I'm just worried about the volatility of this relationship.  

I'm not judging you at all.  We ALL have our bad moments.  I've sure had mine.  And my husband has had his.  I'm just trying to help you NOT have these situations in the future.

If the man is violent with you at all or verbally abusive, you really have to think if this is a relationship that is safe.  good luck

[tator111914]

He sounds like an *******..you need to calm down for you and baby tho