religious up bringing

[squeek27]

I was raised in the church and I have made mistakes but one thing that it seems my family won't forgive is getting pregnant when you're not married. Now I'm getting heat from my family now. I'm scared of having a miscarriage. How can I deal with my family and not have a miscarriage?

[lousie_1986]

You can't really change either of those things. You can take pre natal vitamins if your diet is not too healthy, that can slightly help avoid miscarriage. But generally if you're going to miscarry, there's not much you can do about it, it just happens.
As to your family, you can have nothing to do with them, but that won't fix much, unless you believe they'll be a toxic influence on you and your baby. You can be the 'better person' so to speak, and treat them with love even though they're being horrible and not actually doing what their religion says, which is to forgive as they were forgiven. Most families come around to forgiving, especially when bub is born... They are usually just a bit shocked and it takes a while to wear off. So I suppose it's up to you to decide if you want them in your life or not. Personally, I'd wait it out a bit to see if they calm down, because surely they will eventually come to the realisation that there is nothing you or they can do about it, there's no rewind button, only forgiveness for past mistakes. Hopefully they get there :)

[squeek27]

Thank you for the advice

[irishangel4]

Families usually come around once the baby is born I've seen it happen. My sister got prego while we were in highschool and of course the family was freaking out but once he was born everyone loved him and it didn't even matter. I also had a friend in college who had real strict christian parents she became pregnant and her parents bugged her to do adoption but she kept the baby and her family eventually accepted that. Families usually come around.

[cutelittlefinger]

I can remember at the age of 15 finding out that I was pregnant and having to make the decision of letting my family know about it because later I would not be able to hide it.My family which is also religious and made up of pastors,ministers,praise and worship leaders talked about me like it was the biggest news ever.They made me feel very small and they didn't realize how much it hurted me to hear the people that were supposed to love me and have been there all my life put me down like that,the thing that really bothered me though is the fact that I knew alot of them themselves started out early and were not married,so why put me down.(Fast Forward)this month if its Gods will I will be 29 years old and that same child will be 13 God willing,my family loves him,they call on him to help with thibgs they cant do and all kinds of stuff.This is long but my point is you have to know your lord and know yourself,My Lord told me that he died for All of my sins and that he loves me with and everlasting love regardless of the mistake,that doesn't mean I abuse his Grace and Mercy but it means that I can live in confidence and not be condemned by what people say or how they may look at me because of what my lord has done for me.So(with my attitude face on)I say to you do what you feel is right cause at the end you will have to give an account of your life and actions to your God.I dont remember hearing about anybody else being on that cross sheading any blood for you or me no matter how much they go to church or how many scriptures they may have memorized.Amen somebody

[Mimilove3]

I was 17 when I got pregnant of course my parents didn't agree because I was under age and not married. (I'm now married to the same man and father of my almost 3kids) Fortunately they gave me as much support as they could. I think that's what a family who has God should do. The bible says not to judge yet this is what most people do. The correct thing is to do what Jesus did and help those who need it. In ur case u:) remember its not a church that saves u its ur personal relationship with God. My aunt was married had a baby but her husband cheated on her. U know what the church did (kick HER out for leaving him) arrr!!!  If u believe in God u and only u can fix things with him ur family should only help to redirect u were they can. Hope ur family realises they are wrong for turning against u and practice a little more of what LOVE is.

[Babywebb15]

My family was like that. You will be ok pray

[squeek27]

Thank you everyone the only thing I can do is pray.

[yeseniaFTM]

Right now the only thing you should worry about it your health. My family would have been the exact same way if I wouldn't have been married but at the end of the day you're already pregnant and if they don't want to support you and make sure you have a stress free pregnancy u gotta do it on your own. They'll come around and if they don't you don't need that negativity around you right now. Take care of yourself and your baby

[NE7]

When I was pregnant with my first,I was in the same boat. I was terrified of what my church family would say or anyone for that matter. I found out when I was in a car accident and they took me to the ER and took some test to make sure I was OK, and Lord and behold I was pregnant! I thought it was God's way of saying instead of taking my life He would give me another life to take care of. Although I was nervous I had a lot to be grateful for. It's all on how you tell people, if you say with uncertainty and doubt your prego, they will pitty you but if you say it with joy and confidence than they will have no choice but to be happy for you. Regardless how the baby came, God created life and at the end of the day he knew you were the best fit for the job. People are going talk, judge, think what they want but they will get over it. Pray for them and your baby! Stay a way from negative people. Some are anoited just to stress you out. Keep your eyes on Christ through everything and this too shall pass!

[GabrielLucas]

They should realize that its God's decision to give out babies! Its a blessing! God is dealing with their unforgiveness through this situation! Its all His plan! He who has no sin in their lives let him cast the stone! I'll pray for you and that little blessing you're having :)

[cadigurl1688]

I say love your unborn child and dont let anyone bring you down. We are all sinners only god can judge and god made this miracle. You dont know what your child is destined for. Be greatful, I got pregnant at age 18 and I had no support from family or friends everyone made my life hard and stressful. I lost my child at 25weeks and it took 8 years to get pregnant again. I regret not loving myself n my child. Your child will always be there for you and I didnt realize that til it was to late. I wake up every morning hoping it was some crazy nightmare n my child is alive n healthy but the sad reality is that I was to worried about what everyone else would say and not worried about my happiness. They will come around if they dont they will miss out on the real blessing.