rough day

[aleahfleming]

My husband and I aren't talking, arguing about sex, again. We had a couple really good days then it's back to this again. Our trip to Gatlinburg Friday for my birthday is probably going to get canceled. I'm just having a really bad day and I don't have anyone to talk too. The lack of sleep is making things hard to handle lately. 33 weeks down, 7 to go and things just keep getting harder emotionally.

[jenandrandal]

Has he been to any dr appt with you? The dr could explain what your feeling and how it's all completely normal. Men are stupid, I love my hubby, but they are stupid. I never forget a George Carlin quote...women are crazy, and men are stupid, the reason women are crazy is because men are stupid. I'm a total b**** when it comes to that stuff...my hubby is a,few years younger then me, I had already been divorced and had two daughters. I'm pregnant with our second together. He had a lot to learn, but when he started acting like that...I go on mommy strike...the only things I would do were what I needed to for myself and my daughters...house didn't get cleaned, laundry didn't get done...nothing that wasn't absolutely necessary for my kids and I. They have a choice...suck it up and act right or leave...fact is if they leave they never really loved you to begin with...it's not just good for your relationship to help eachothet...but in the long run its the best thing for the kids to watch growing up (part of the reason my first hubby left, plus he cheated...couldn't understand why I was angry or why he should help out at home)

[aleahfleming]

Thank you ladies for the support and kind words. Counseling has been mentioned before but it doesn't go anywhere. It's really a maturity issue. I understand he's a little freaked out over everything that's going on but he needs to act like an adult over certain situations.

[ducktapetherapy]

I am sorry that you are arguing and feeling distant. You are certainly not alone. Try to be patient and remember that seasons change. Have either of you considered some counseling?

~Ducktapetherapy77

[0_LING_0]

I don't blame u... Its hard when u do everything u can and nothing is appreciated. What I would do is lay ur foot down and let him know that u r the mother of his child and not his mother. He needs to step it up and help u out more. He needs to know that u r not superwoman and shouldn't b treated as if u should do everything. A healthy relationship takes both ppl to help each other out and lots of communication.

[aleahfleming]

This argument has been repeated so many times in the past few months. No matter what we say it always ends up the same and everything goes back to the way it was. I
get zero support or affection and I'm expected to do everything around the house by myself including cleaning his Jeep after he goes and tears through the mud, I can barely get into the damn thing. Nothing I do is good enough and nothing I do seems to be appreciated. It's really wearing me down.

[0_LING_0]

We go thru a lot carrieing the baby's and the emotions and aches and pains that come with. I think sometimes guys just don't understand. Sometimes I wish I could know what they r feeling just to b able to understand them. Are they feeling left out? Scared? Its much harder for most guys to voice their feelings. My man almost had a panic attack last night. We just found out last WK we r expecting. This will b our second child. Our first is 12 yrs old. Really caught us by surprise especially right before Christmas. Hope that things go smoother for u! :)

[aleahfleming]

I'm in Kentucky and my friends and family are in Minnesota.

[aleahfleming]

First child. He thinks that I make up everything I'm going through and refuses to read up on anything. He'll take the word of his coworkers over mine about everything dealing with the pregnancy. I'm uncomfortable, completely exhausted and sex is painful so obviously I'm not going to want it. He's acting like a child throwing a tantrum when he doesn't get what he wants and treats me like crap. I'm just so frustrated and tired of crying all the time.

[meiks]

Your not alone im over due and my husband and I are not talking. I have to do everything.  He wont even help take out the garbage.  Its **** i do all the cooking and cleaning he wont even take out a dish. Im alone and have no one to talk to all my family and friend live about 1 hr and a hskf away becauae we moved and with being over due i cant go up there. And none of them ever come here

[besutfil1227]

Me too but it seems im the one asking why are we so distant. Its like we dont touch and we dont have sex either, ice tried to explain that being a woman were already emotional but being pregnant takes it to another level some things we do t have control over and that helps for awhile but i know what tour feeling and believe me i know it ***** im not married but weve been together six years on the 27th of this month an it only feels like it gets harder when it should be so easy we know each other like the back of our hands, is this first baby together?

[Growingstrong25]

Well just remember that u r not alone . Many other woman are going through worst cases me for example